22/04/2026
Whether it's food, alcohol, watching shows late into the night when you know you should be sleeping — many of us have a part that, at some point, just goes all in.
For me, one place this showed up was alcohol. From the very beginning I could never have just one or two. I didn't drink throughout my pregnancy, but when my son started sleeping through the night I ‘treated’ myself to a bottle of wine — which soon escalated into a secret night-time habit that took hold. I've been sober for almost 13 years now. And yet I still recognise that same energy in my relationship with food — periods of eating well, feeling good, feeling in control, and then something tips. Suddenly I'm overeating throughout the day, eating before bed even when I'm not hungry.
Here's what's really happening. There's a part of you that works hard to keep things in line — monitoring, managing, holding it together. But when the pressure gets too much, when the feelings get too big, another part takes over. It doesn't want to be managed anymore. It wants relief. Now.
That's not weakness. That's a part that learned, at some point, that this — whatever the thing is — works. It numbs, it soothes, it gives you a moment's peace from whatever is pressing on you underneath.
The binger isn't a problem. It's a messenger.
When we can get curious about what it's carrying, what it's trying to relieve, and actually help the wounded part it's been trying to protect to heal — that's where things begin to shift.
Does this resonate? I'd love to hear your experience in the comments. 💙
I'm trained in Somatic Shamanism. By getting to know and heal the different parts that make up our psyche, we can shift emotional patterns and begin to live more authentically in Self. Alongside parts work, we explore where these parts are held in the body, and throughout the process we may invite in spirit helpers from the invisible realms — in the form of plant, stone, animal, ancestors and celestial beings. It's a truly holistic modality, promoting healing of mind, body, soul and spirit.
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