Polly Beaugrand MBACP

19/01/2026

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18/01/2026

Most people don’t realize that life doesn’t repeat because of fate — it repeats because of loops.

This image shows two very different cycles we can fall into, often without noticing.

At the center of both is INTENTION.
Not the intention we say we have — but the intention we act from when things get uncomfortable.

🔁 The Victim Loop

This is the loop of unconscious living.

Something happens. A situation triggers discomfort.

Instead of facing it, we:

Ignore what hurts

Deny our role

Blame circumstances or people

Rationalize our behavior

Resist change

Hide from truth

And then… the same situation shows up again.
Different face. Same lesson.

The Victim Loop feels safe because it protects the ego.
But safety comes at a cost: stagnation.

Nothing grows here. Nothing heals here.
Only stories do.

🔁 The Accountability Loop

This is the loop of conscious growth.

The same situation arises — but this time, we choose differently.

We:

Recognize what’s really happening

Own our response, not the story

Forgive ourselves and others

Self-examine without self-attack

Learn the lesson

Take action, even when it’s uncomfortable

This loop doesn’t feel easy.
But it feels free.

Because every pass through it makes you wiser, lighter, and stronger.

⚖️ The Truth Few Talk About

Both loops begin with the same situation.
The difference is choice.

You don’t escape the Victim Loop by blaming less people.
You escape it by telling yourself the truth.

And you don’t enter the Accountability Loop by being perfect.
You enter it by being honest.

🌱 A Gentle Reminder

Accountability is not punishment.
It’s self-respect.

Forgiveness is not weakness.
It’s clarity.

Growth doesn’t happen when life gets easier —
It happens when you get braver.

Ask yourself today:
Which loop am I feeding — and which one is feeding me?

Because the moment you change your loop,
your entire life trajectory shifts.

08/01/2026

06/01/2026

Most people believe meditation means stopping thoughts.
That’s why they sit down, close their eyes… and feel like they’re failing within seconds.

The mind starts racing.
Plans appear.
Memories surface.
Worries knock loudly.

And people conclude: “I can’t meditate.”

But here’s the truth 👇

Meditation is not about forcing the mind to go blank.
It’s about changing your relationship with your thoughts.

At first, the mind is noisy — and that’s not a problem.
That noise was always there; you’re just noticing it for the first time.

Then something subtle happens: You stop fighting the thoughts.
You stop chasing them.
You stop believing every story they tell.

You begin to observe without reacting.

Thoughts still arise —
but they no longer own you.
They pass like clouds, while you remain the sky.

With time, the mind naturally settles.
Not because you controlled it,
but because you stopped interfering.

And in that quiet awareness: • Clarity replaces confusion
• Peace replaces restlessness
• Presence replaces overthinking

Meditation is not about thinking less.
It’s about being less controlled by thinking.

Sit.
Breathe.
Observe.
Let go.

The calm you’re searching for
isn’t something you create —
it’s something you uncover.

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