19/02/2026
As my maternity leave approaches and I’m starting to get things ready to meet our newest small person and I have started thinking about the birth a lot more.
Having had such a wonderful experience with Flossie I am just trying to manifest a similar one this time, the stars really did align though with her birth as it was my community midwife who I had for both children who attended, continuity at its best.
✨ I’m going to write down my birth preferences, so that whoever attends can easily see how I want to be cared for, no vaginal examinations, minimal conversation, no students. I’ll also write down and explore alternative birth scenarios as I know birth isn’t always linear and things can deviate.
✨ Calling for community midwives when I need them, not when labour has just started. I timed this perfectly last time. I know for me the less people in my birth space the better, I may change my mind when the time comes, but for now this is my plan.
✨ Getting in the pool when I feel I need to! I didn’t get in the pool till transition last time as I was waiting for the midwife to come! This time I won’t be waiting 😂 I have bought a mini pro pool this time and I can’t wait to make full use of it!
What did you plan for your birth? Did you make birth preferances?
I am so excited to meet this baby, but also a little nervous, there is definitely a fine balance between knowing enough and knowing too much/seeing too much as a midwife. I know the evidence, I know the stats, I know I’ll likely have a straightforward birth without complications at home as I have planned, however it doesn’t stop me playing out scenarios in my head. I am hoping this eases once I finish work, also going to up my positive affirmations, birth stories and podcasts etc.
