Soul- Light- Balance

18/12/2025

💡 Is your Child Struggle to Fall Asleep?

Many parents share that their children find it difficult to fall asleep. They try different methods, yet often end up staying beside their child until sleep finally comes. One important step is understanding why bedtime feels so hard.

For many children, falling asleep feels like a kind of parting, and this is why they feel anxious about it. Some even worry they might not wake up in the morning.

Because children often cannot explain what they feel, they may say they are afraid of the dark- it’s something tangible and easy to name. But often, that isn’t the true reason, which is why a night light doesn’t always help.

🌟 How you Can Support your Child

When your child expresses fear or difficulty at bedtime, talk with them. Share your own childhood memories- did you ever find it hard to fall asleep? Ask gentle questions: “What do you feel in your body?” or “What thoughts are going through your mind?” Even if they answer, “I don’t know,” the questions start a process of reflection, and understanding may come later.

Giving space to their feelings and worries usually helps ease them. You might also offer a teddy bear or comfort object. Children sometimes give these up early due to social pressure, but they can be soothing companions. And don’t worry- once your child feels more secure, they’ll naturally set it aside.

🌟 A Mindfulness Ritual for Bedtime

In addition to conversations, you can create a small mindfulness ritual. Parents can read the following script (or choose your own words) aloud in a soft, calm voice:

Lie down comfortably in your bed and close your eyes. Notice your breathing… breathe slowly, in a way that feels gentle and natural. Feel your body sinking into the mattress. The pillow and blanket are wrapping around you like a warm hug, keeping you safe.
Your legs are tired because they ran so much today. Your mouth is tired because it laughed and talked. Your eyes are tired from all the beautiful things they saw. Your ears are tired from all the funny words they heard.
Now let’s say goodnight to each part of your body. Goodnight, right foot. Goodnight, left foot. Goodnight, shins. Goodnight, thighs. Goodnight, tummy. Goodnight, back. Goodnight, hips. Goodnight, shoulders. Goodnight, harms. Goodnight, head ..
Now rest peacefully. See you in the morning.

💡 Final Thoughts
Bedtime doesn’t have to be a battle. By offering empathy, gentle conversation, and a calming ritual, parents can help children feel safe, understood, and ready to drift into sleep.

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11/12/2025

✨ Who’s Afraid of Diagnosis? ✨

Too often, parents worry that a diagnosis will “label” their child. But what if, instead, it opens doors to understanding, tools, and support that help children thrive?

In my latest blog, I explore how cultural attitudes shape our view of therapy and diagnosis, why recognition can bring relief, and how we can light the path for children to fulfil their unique potential.

Cultural differences shape how we interpret children’s behaviour and how we respond to challenges. In some cultures, emotional therapy is widely recognised as a healthy and important way to cope with life’s difficulties. There is no shame in seeking support, and many parents rely on diagnoses to...

01/12/2025

Do you ever wonder why parenting boundaries matter so much? They’re not fences-they’re safe spaces where children can grow, explore, and feel protected.
I wrote a new blog about how boundaries create connection and resilience in family life.

Please come and visit me. 👇

When we talk about boundaries in parenting, what do we actually mean? This topic comes up in almost every parenting workshop or guidance session. Some parents struggle to set boundaries at all, while others may set limits that feel too rigid.But boundaries are not simply a fence dividing what is “...

27/11/2025

Witnessing your child’s meltdown can be heartbreaking. Remember, it’s not a reflection of poor parenting but an involuntary response to overwhelm. Gain insight on how to provide gentle support during tough moments.

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Parenting brings moments of joy, connection, and growth - but it also brings challenges. One of the most difficult experiences for caregivers is witnessing a child’s meltdown. It’s important to remember: a meltdown is not a tantrum, misbehavior, or a reflection of poor parenting. Instead, it is ...

25/11/2025

In every classroom, we notice the children who shout, lie on the floor, or act out. We’ve learned to recognize their behavior as a call for help.But what about the children who suffer in silence? The ones we describe as “easy,” “well‑behaved,” “no trouble at all.” They don’t disrup...

05/11/2025

💡 How to Connect with Withdrawn Children Without Pushing Them Away.

If you’re a parent, educator, or caregiver, you’ve likely encountered moments when a child chooses isolation over interaction. It’s easy to take it personally, but often, it’s not about us.

Here are a few gentle strategies that can make a big difference:

🍽️ Create a shared routine Invite them to join family meals. Don’t bring food to their room, when they’re ready, they’ll come. Even one meal a day, around the living room table (yes, even with the TV on), can feel less formal and more inviting.

👂 Assume they hear everything Children are incredibly perceptive. Even when we think we’re shielding them from stress or conflict, they pick up on it. Use that awareness to model openness, share a story from your childhood or a challenge at work. It shifts the spotlight off them and invites empathy.

🧘 Don’t interrogate-just be present Avoid questions. Avoid pressure. Instead, say: "I see you need some quiet. I’m here if you want to talk." That simple message builds trust.

💡 Remember: withdrawal isn’t rejection It’s often sensory overload or emotional processing.

Giving space isn’t giving up-it’s giving room to return.
Sometimes they’re simply struggling with themselves, and it has nothing to do with us as parents. In fact, if we give them space-that space will allow them to come to us.

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💡 How to Connect with Withdrawn Children Without Pushing Them Away. If you’re a parent, educator, or caregiver, you’ve likely encountered moments when a child chooses isolation over interaction. It’s easy to take it personally, but often, it’s not about us. Here are a few gentle strategie...

01/11/2025

🌿 Your child is playing with a friend or immersed in a video game. You watch him, see him laughing, happy, and calm. Suddenly, in an instant, he’s on the floor, hitting with his fists, kicking, and screaming. You have no idea what just happened-it’s as if he went from zero to a hundred in one second!

⭐ To us, it seems like everything flipped in a moment. But for your child, there was an inner process unfolding-a struggle to express something he couldn’t put into words. This is a challenge with emotional regulation.

📍 Emotional regulation is the ability to recognize our feelings and manage them, so our reactions fit the situation and don’t become overwhelming. Young children often find it difficult to identify and understand their emotions, which is why tantrums sometimes erupt.

What can we do? How do we support our children through tantrums?
First, remember, you are your child’s anchor and source of stability. If we respond with anger or frustration, the situation will likely escalate. Instead, keep your voice calm and soft, and show your child that you see and understand their distress.

🌿 When a child feels truly seen and understood, their need to keep screaming often fades.

Afterward, it is helpful to offer your child some practical tools:
💡 Gently talk with them without judgment- “I can see today was tough for you. Do you know what made it so hard? What or who upset you so much?”
💡 Help them recognize bodily sensations- “How did it feel in your body when the anger started?” This helps children learn to identify their emotions as they arise.
💡 Practice deep breathing together-Sit side by side and take slow, deep breaths, calming both body and mind.
💡 Encourage them to draw what they’re feeling-Art is a safe and creative way for children to express big emotions.
💡 Use emotion cards-Explore different feelings by playing games and naming emotions together.

⭐ Finally, help your child put their experience into words and remind them that it’s always okay to ask for help as soon as they notice anger or frustration building-before things get overwhelming.

⭐ Every child copes in their own unique way, and the journey of learning emotional regulation happens step by step. Every small victory is a real achievement! Continue to offer patience and compassion to your child, and just as importantly, to yourself. You are not alone in this journey.

🌿 Your child is playing with a friend or immersed in a video game. You watch him, see him laughing, happy, and calm. Suddenly, in an instant, he’s on the floor, hitting with his fists, kicking, and screaming. You have no idea what just happened-it’s as if he went from zero to a hundred in one...

31/10/2025

❣️ Setting Boundaries with Love: Parenting a Child with a Chronic Illness ❣️

When my son was diagnosed with Crohn’s disease at the age of 9, he said something I’ll never forget: “Mom, you know… it’s really hard for me right now, but I’m getting used to it. And when I grow up, I’ll know better than other people how to cope when things get tough.”

He said this after undergoing two colonoscopies, experiencing significant weight loss, receiving biological injections in his thigh every week and having weekly blood tests.

Watching your child face a serious or chronic illness is one of the most difficult and frightening experiences a parent can go through. It’s a real fear of losing your child, and an immense pain to see them suffer.

Fear and hardship place us in challenging situations and complex dilemmas. On one hand, our instinct as parents is to wrap our child in love, to pamper them, to give them everything they need, and sometimes everything they want.

On the other hand, the child’s medical condition often requires us to be physically and emotionally close to them, sometimes in intimate ways: helping with showers, getting dressed, and even using the bathroom.

These two factors - the urge to compensate and the forced intimacy, make it very difficult to set boundaries. Our hearts ache seeing our child suffer, and all we want is to shower them with love, both emotional and material. The intimacy blurs the lines, and we begin to see our child as helpless, even as if they’ve reverted to being a baby. And so, we throw boundaries out the window.

But Is That Really What's Best for Them?

Don’t get me wrong, I believe that wrapping, pampering, and rewarding a child during a difficult time is essential. But it can be done while still maintaining boundaries. Of course, those boundaries need to be more flexible, and every child has different needs. But boundaries send a powerful message:

That the child is not a victim of the illness.
That we believe in their recovery and their return to normal life.

Boundaries reflect our faith in them. They provide stability, resilience, and even hope. It’s precisely the difficult experience that can teach them the most about their own strength and capabilities.

Parenting a child with a chronic illness is a complex journey, filled with love, fear, dilemmas, and daily decisions. Choosing to set boundaries, even when it’s hard, isn’t a sign of insensitivity. On the contrary, it’s a deep expression of belief in the child, in their strength, and in their future.

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13/08/2025

🌿 The Quiet Children – The Ones We Often Miss 🌿

In every classroom, we notice the children who shout, lie on the floor, or act out.
We’ve learned to recognize their behavior as a call for help.
But what about the children who suffer in silence?
The ones we describe as “easy,” “well-behaved,” “no trouble at all.”
They don’t disrupt. They don’t demand.
And because of that, they’re often overlooked—by teachers, parents, and even therapists.

Some children don’t know how to express their pain.
They follow the rules, smile politely, and never complain.
But beneath the surface, they may be struggling deeply.

💡 If a child comes to mind as you read this—pause.

Ask how they’re doing. And if they say “I’m fine,” don’t stop there.
Ask about their friendships, their teachers, their feelings about school.
Watch their body language. Listen between the lines.

💡 Signs a quiet child may be in distress:
Withdraws into their room
Doesn’t share school experiences
Rarely expresses frustration
Always complies without question
You’re unsure who their close friends are

🧡 The best support we can offer is consistent presence.
Let them know they’re seen. That they matter.
Share your own childhood challenges—it might open a door to theirs.


Let’s not wait for a meltdown to notice a child’s pain.
Let’s learn to listen to the silence.

Photo by 🇸🇮 Janko Ferlič on Unsplash

🌿 The Quiet Children – The Ones We Often Miss 🌿 In every classroom, we notice the children who shout, lie on the floor, or act out. We’ve learned to recognize their behavior as a call for help. But what about the children who suffer in silence? The ones we describe as “easy,” “well-b...