Elle Margetson Hypnotherapy

30/09/2022

Grief is a journey.
Some days you can feel lighter and like the fog is starting to lift. And other days you can question how the hell something can feel so emotionally heavy that it takes everything you have. It chews you up and spits you back out again.

It’s okay if you wonder if it will ever get easier. It’s okay if you feel like the cloud will never lift.
And it’s okay if it feels like it’s consuming you.

My advice? Let it. Let grief be present. Give it the space it needs. Give yourself permission to not only let the darkness be there, but look into it, explore it, and process it.

That’s how it starts to feel less heavy, less consuming.

And some days you may feel brave enough to explore the darkness, and other days you may not. And that’s okay! It’s all part of the journey.

There is no right or wrong mama. You grieve in the way that is authentic to you.

And if you need help with the heaviness of grief. There is no shame in asking. DM me the word ‘GROW’ and I will walk this path with you, hand in hand 🤍

26/09/2022

Today I want to honour my fellow NICU loss mamas.

The mama that had to watch her baby covered in wires every moment.

The mama who could only look at her baby but never touch.

The mama that practically became a dr herself learning everything to watch for on the monitors.

The mama who felt so desperately alone and isolated while she watched her baby from afar.

The mama that went through the pain and trauma of the NICU and still left the hospital with a box instead of her baby.

I see you mama. I see your trauma and your pain.

You are not alone 🤍

If you’d like some support on your grief journey mama, DM me the word GROW and let’s heal together 🤍
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18/09/2022

I think it’s safe to say that for me, the NICU journey was one of the most traumatising parts of our loss journey.

It’s something I still personally have to work on and work through.

Watching my babies in an incubator. Unable to touch them, smell them, tell them it’s going to be okay. Watching them fight for their little lives, covered in wires, machines constantly beeping, nurses coming and going…it broke me.
It well and truly broke me.

All I wanted to do was the one thing I was supposed to do, be a mama to my babies. And I couldn’t do that.

All the parents in the bays next to me had babies that were poorly, but we’re getting better. Some of them even got to go home.

My babies were the tiniest there. And we knew deep down that they would probably never live to see the outside of that room. And that killed me.

The only time I got to hold my babies was as they died in my arms.

The nicu holds a very special kind of trauma for me.

To my NICU mamas, can you relate to this? What was your experience like?

If you’d like some support on your grief journey mama, DM me the word GROW and let’s heal together 🤍
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12/09/2022

Life after baby and pregnancy loss makes us ask if we will ever be normal again. If our lives will ever feel normal again.

And the short answer mama is no.
Firstly, what even is normal?
Secondly, our worlds and everything we’ve ever known has been turned right on it’s head. How can we ever go back to a normal life after that!?

Whenever I thought to myself early on if my life would ever go back to normal, I always knew that wouldn’t happen. Because life before, my ‘normal’ life was a life without my babies. And that’s a life I wouldn’t ever go back to if you paid me.

I would go through everything I’ve been through over and over again to have my babies. And I’m sure we can all relate to that. Our lives now are extraordinary, messy, griefy and weird. And that’s okay!!

It’s time to find your new normal mama, the new normal where you feel like the loved, strong and empowered bad ass loss mama you are 🤍

If you’d like some support on your grief journey mama, DM me the word GROW and let’s heal together 🤍
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22/08/2022

Today mama I am thinking of you.
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Regardless of where you are on your journey, know that your journey does not define you.
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Your ability to have a living child does not define you.
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You are worthy of healing.
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You are worthy of love.
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If you’d like some support on your healing journey mama, DM me the word GROW and let’s heal together 🤍⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣

19/08/2022

Hi mama! 🤍
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I wanted to say hello to my community, to the people that have been here since day 1 to the people that have just joined me, and I wanted to give something back to you.
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This is a SUPER SPECIAL limited time event.
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If you are struggling with your grief, feeling isolated and stuck and you would like some clarity, guidance and support but you’re not sure where to turn? Then this is for you mama!
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You can book a FREE 45 minute clarity session (worth £75/$89) with me, your fellow loss mama and therapist. Where we talk about you and your baby/babies, the things you are struggling with (grief, guilt, overwhelm, anxiety etc) I will help you to get clear where you are now, understand where you want to be and identify the steps you need to take to get there. We will put together a bespoke plan for you to get you started on your healing journey.
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Sounds good, right? That’s because it is!
If you’d like to secure your space, DM me the word ‘CLARITY’
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But be quick mama. This is a very limited time event and I only have 5 spaces available!
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With love,
Elle xoxo⁣⁣⁣⁣⁣

10/08/2022

Getting pregnant was a 2 year slog of waiting and tests and diagnoses and trying and trying and trying. And I consider myself lucky compared to what some mamas have to go through.
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But I was SO naive to think that, because we had struggled a little, it guaranteed our safety. Of course we would get to bring these babies home, it took us long enough to get here. WRONG. Life owes you nothing and I learned that the hard way.
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I did everything right. I followed every rule and piece of advice to the letter. I ate the right things and avoided the wrong, I didn’t mix too much, I don’t drink and I’ve never smoked. I didn’t take baths for fear they’d be too hot, I craved tuna and wouldn’t eat it for fear of mercury levels. I did everything in my power, and my babies still died.
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I had to learn the hard way that life isn’t fair. I had to learn the hard way that there is no safe zone in pregnancy, getting past 12 weeks doesn’t guarantee a healthy baby. I had to learn the hard way that despite everything my babies could and would still die.
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But I also learned the hard way how to become the person I am. I learned the hard way how to get through the worst grief I would ever face. And I learned the hard way just how fierce my love could be.
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If you need some support through your grief mama, DM me the word ‘grow’ and let’s work together ❤️

08/08/2022

They say that having a child is like having your heart live outside of your body. But what does that mean for me? My babies are dead.

It means that sometimes I feel a bit lost. I feel like my heart has no place anymore.

It means that sometimes my whole heart is in the stars.

It means that sometimes my heart feels like a big black hole.

And it means that sometimes my heart is everywhere. It’s in the setting suns, the butterflies that flit by, the birds and the bees buzzing past, the leaves and feathers that fall. It’s in the soft summer breeze and the gentle winter snow.

My heart is never in the same place, and that’s part of grief. But even though you can’t see them, my whole heart is still always with my children.

08/04/2022

Why hypnotherapy?
If you have three minutes, give the video a listen, it’s part of my episode with the amazing mamas Amy and Emma of .thepodcast that I was so grateful to be featured on!
I tell you all about my experience with hypnotherapy and why it became my passion and how I help mamas through their grief every day.

If the clip resonates with you, and you would like to know more about how I can support you, DM me the word ‘GROW’ ❤️

25/03/2022

Say Their Name Day - 25th March 2022

Today marks a day for all of us to share our babies. To shout their names from the rooftops, as we should always be able to do.

Noah Brian Towner, Eden Jean Towner, Hudson James Towner, my world begins and ends with the three of you. This is for you my angels. I love you more than I could ever put into words ❤️

I would like to invite you to share your babies names in the comments, share a little about them and your story if you wish. Let’s celebrate and remember our babies together ❤️

27/02/2022

Grief can manifest in so many ways. ​​​​​​​​
Anxiety can crop up everywhere, in the fear of what the future holds, not wanting to go out incase you run into other babies, cancelling plans incase your friends talk about their kids. ​​​​​​​​
It can make you lose interest in the things you usually love. Because what’s the point in having hobbies when everything seems to have lost its meaning, and the woman who used to enjoy those things is so far away now. ​​​​​​​​
It can make you feel exhausted. From lack of sleep yes, but from the constant struggle to get a handle on your emotions, of constantly replaying those moments over and over in your head. ​​​​​​​​
If you are feeling any of these things mama, you are not alone ❤️ you are processing your grief, you are on your journey and you are doing your best. ​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​

26/02/2022

The truth is people don’t know how to handle your grief. And that can be hurtful. But how can someone understand what you’re going through when it’s so out of the norm. Losing a child goes against the laws of nature, it’s not supposed to be that way. ​​​​​​​​
So in this awful situation no one truly knows what to say to you. Some people may not even say anything at all for fear of upsetting you, and that can be hurtful too. ​​​​​​​​
But remember it is not your responsibility to manage their feelings too. You don’t have to quiet your grief or be careful of what you say because of others. You have to grieve authentically, whether others get that or not. You do you mama ❤️​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​

25/02/2022

AMAZING client testimonial this morning 🤩
I absolutely love being able to help mamas have more good days! ❤️
I would be honoured to be able to help you on your journey, pop me a message to find out how to get started ❤️

23/02/2022

How can hypnotherapy help me through my grief? ​​​​​​​​
Let me tell you how hypnotherapy changed my grief journey for the good. ​​​​​​​​
Hypnotherapy in the first instance is an incredibly relaxing experience, helping you to let go of all of the physiological tension your body holds on to when grieving. ​​​​​​​​
It helps you to access your subconscious mind, and work through those feelings of guilt, anxiety, anger and the pain that you are struggling with following the loss of your precious child. ​​​​​​​​
It allows you to grieve authentically and healthily, letting you grow from your grief. To live a life beyond it, but still holding space, love and memory of your child. ​​​​​​​​
Hypnotherapy for grief is truly transformational ❤️​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​

22/02/2022

If you are supporting someone through their grief, the most important thing is to be there for them for whatever they need. Have an open dialogue about the best ways you can support them, listen to them talk about their grief, share happy memories and stories of their loved one (if they are ready to talk about them) offer to help in practical ways, like housework or grocery shopping. Most importantly, give them space if they need it. Everyone grieves differently and the way you handle it may not be the same way someone else does.

18/02/2022