Tandem Therapy

24/07/2025

“Why do we keep having the same argument?”

It’s one of the most common questions couples ask in therapy.
You argue, make up, and then days (or hours) later, you’re back in the same loop.

🔁 Sound familiar?

In my latest blog, I explore why conflict patterns repeat in relationships, how emotional triggers play a role, and what you can do to break the cycle.

💬 This post is for you if:
✔️ You feel like you’re stuck in the same argument
✔️ You want to communicate better but don’t know how
✔️ You’re ready to reconnect instead of shut down

📖 Read it here 👉 https://www.tandemtherapy.co.uk/post/why-do-we-keep-having-the-same-argument
✨ Relationship therapy can help you move from conflict to connection, with compassion and clarity.

📩 jo@tandemtherapy.co.uk | 🌐 www.tandemtherapy.co.uk

20/07/2025

💭 Do you ever feel like you're parenting your partner instead of being equal in your relationship?

This is a common but frustrating dynamic and it often comes from unconscious patterns rooted in childhood.

My latest blog dives into the Transactional Analysis PAC model to help you understand why these patterns happen and how to shift towards healthier, Adult-to-Adult communication.

If you want to stop the power struggles and feel more connected, this read is for you:

👉 Read the full blog here:
https://www.tandemtherapy.co.uk/post/why-you-feel-like-the-parent-in-your-relationshipIf you’re struggling with these dynamics in your relationship, I’m here to help.

04/07/2025

Are you stuck in the same arguments with your partner,again and again?
You might be caught in the Drama Triangle without even realising it.

In this new blog, I explain how these three roles - Victim, Rescuer, and Persecutor - can quietly sabotage relationships, and what you can do to step out of the cycle.

👉 Read the full post here:
🔗 https://www.tandemtherapy.co.uk/post/how-the-drama-triangle-impacts-relationships-breaking-free-from-unhealthy-roles

💬 Therapy can help you recognise old patterns and start showing up differently in your relationships.
If you're ready to break free, get in touch: jo@tandemtherapy.co.uk

29/06/2025

Honoured to have the Eating Disorder Specialist Becky Stone, guest blog on our website. Thanks so much Becky for your unique insight into men's mental health.

🌟 Exciting Guest Blog Announcement! 🌟

I'm thrilled to introduce our guest blogger, Becky Stone - an experienced Eating Disorder Counsellor based in Canterbury and online. Becky specialises in helping teens and adults rebuild healthy relationships with food, body, and self. Having navigated her own challenges with eating disorders, she brings a uniquely empathetic, trauma-informed, and neurodiversity‑affirming approach that empowers clients to rediscover confidence and control in their lives

In her latest blog post, Becky shines a light on why men often stay silent about eating disorders - facing cultural stigma, fear of being seen as weak, and the misconception that these illnesses only affect women. It's a powerful call to open up the conversation and support everyone in seeking help.

Eating disorders don’t just affect individuals, they impact relationships too. Becky understands how these struggles can create stress, shame, and distance within families, friendships, and partnerships. Her therapeutic work supports not just recovery from disordered eating, but also the rebuilding of trust, communication, and connection with others.

➡️ Head over to our blog to read Becky’s full post, and join us in breaking the silence and starting real conversations. Because every voice deserves to be heard. 💬

https://www.tandemtherapy.co.uk/post/why-men-stay-silent-about-eating-disorders-and-why-it-s-time-to-talk

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27/06/2025

Why does everything feel like an argument lately?
It might not be about what you're saying – but how it's being heard.

If you’ve noticed tension creeping in, conversations turning sour, or your partner snapping over small things, you could be stuck in a cycle of negative sentiment override – where past hurt silently shapes every exchange.

In my latest blog, I explore how resentment builds, how it affects connection, and how therapy can help you break the pattern and rebuild trust.

💬 This is a must-read if you’re tired of walking on eggshells and want to reconnect with your partner in a more honest and hopeful way.

📝 Read the blog: https://www.tandemtherapy.co.uk/post/rebuilding-communication-when-resentment-takes-over-in-relationships

📍Relationship therapy available online
📞 07521 037092 | 📧 jo@tandemtherapy.co.uk

14/06/2025

Feeling more like flatmates than partners lately?

You’re not the only one. When life gets busy, relationships can quietly shift into “roommate mode.” Less talking, less touch, less fun, and more emotional distance.

But disconnection doesn’t have to be the end. It can be the start of something new if you give it the attention it needs.

I’ve written a gentle, practical blog on how to reconnect emotionally with your partner, even when it feels like you're miles apart.

💬 It covers:

Why the emotional distance happens

What signs to look out for

Small ways to rebuild connection

When therapy can help

👀 Read the full blog here:
👉 https://www.tandemtherapy.co.uk/post/how-to-reconnect-emotionally-with-your-partner-when-it-feels-like-you-re-just-roommates

Let’s bring the warmth back - one small step at a time.

10/06/2025

Are you stuck obsessing over your partner’s affair?

You’re not broken -and you’re not alone. After discovering infidelity, most people find themselves caught in repetitive thoughts and images. It’s part of the mind’s natural response to trauma.

In my latest blog, I explain:
✅ Why this happens
✅ What these obsessive thoughts really mean
✅ Gentle techniques to reduce the distress
✅ A free downloadable journaling worksheet to help process your thoughts

💬 “When you understand the function of the obsession, it becomes easier to move through it.”

📖 Read the full blog + get your worksheet at https://www.tandemtherapy.co.uk/post/obsessing-over-the-affair-why-you-can-t-stop-thinking-about-it

📧 jo@tandemtherapy.co.uk
📞 07521 037092

07/06/2025

Feeling more like housemates than partners since having kids? You’re not alone.

Parenting young children is one of the most rewarding journeys, but it can also shake your relationship in ways you didn’t expect. From exhaustion to communication breakdowns, many couples quietly struggle with their connection after becoming parents.

At Tandem Mediation, I work with couples who say, “We love our kids, but somewhere along the way, we lost us.”

If you’re feeling distant, overwhelmed, or just missing the closeness you once had, therapy can help you reconnect.

💬 Honest conversations
💬 Understanding each other’s feelings
💬 Tools to reduce conflict
💬 Rebuilding your partnership

You don’t have to wait for things to get worse. Early support makes all the difference.

📧 jo@tandemmediation.co.uk | 📞 07521037092
🌐 www.tandemmediation.co.uk



Parenting young children is one of the most rewarding journeys, but it can also shake your relationship in ways you didn’t expect. From exhaustion to communication breakdowns, many couples quietly struggle with their connection after becoming parents.

04/06/2025

🌈 Pride Month is here -and your relationships matter. 🌈

At Tandem Therapy, I offer a safe, non-judgemental space to explore the relationships that shape your life, romantic, family, friendships, and, most importantly, the one you have with yourself.

Whether you're navigating intimacy, communication, identity, or connection, therapy can help you make sense of your experiences and build stronger, more authentic relationships.

🏳️‍🌈 This Pride Month, I’m celebrating love in all its forms, and honouring the courage it takes to show up honestly in your relationships.

💬 Therapy is for you, whoever you are, however you love, and wherever you are in your journey.

Let’s talk when you’re ready.

🖥️ Online sessions available -private, flexible, and designed around you.
📩 DM to connect or visit www.tandemtherapy.co.uk

30/05/2025

💔 Can You Really Rebuild Trust After It's Been Broken?

Trust. It's something we often take for granted, until it's gone.

Whether it’s infidelity, dishonesty, emotional distance, or a betrayal of any kind, broken trust can shake the very foundation of your relationship. And yet, healing is possible with honesty, consistency, and the courage to do the deeper work.

🔑 5 Steps to Begin Rebuilding Trust:

Acknowledge the hurt, without minimising it

Make space for difficult emotions

Show up consistently, not perfectly

Explore the deeper issues beneath the rupture

Set new boundaries and agreements together

Rebuilding trust isn’t about “getting back to how things were.”
It’s about creating something stronger, more honest, and more emotionally secure than before.

✨ If you’re navigating the pain of broken trust, know that you don’t have to do it alone. At Tandem Therapy, we support individuals and couples in finding their way back to connection, clarity, and emotional safety.

📞 WhatsApp: 07521037092
📧 tandemtherapy.co.uk/contact
Let’s find your way back to trust - together.

21/05/2025

How to Keep Long-DistanceRelationships Alive 🌎✨🔥✈️ Long-distance relationships bring their own set of challenges, but they don’t have to feel impossible.

Whether work, family, or life circumstances are keeping you and your partner apart, it is possible to maintain a loving, secure connection with intention, care, and the right support.

At Tandem Therapy, I help couples strengthen their bond even from afar. Relationship therapy isn’t just for crisis moments - it’s a proactive way to grow together, no matter the distance.

Here are 5 ways to make long-distance love work:

💬 Keep communication open and honest.
Share the big and small moments. Use texts, calls, and video chats to stay emotionally connected.

🤝 Set clear expectations together.
Discuss how and when you’ll communicate. Boundaries create safety and reduce misunderstandings.

📅 Plan visits and look ahead.
Having shared goals, even simple plans, keeps you both motivated and grounded in your future.

🧠 Focus on quality, not quantity.
Be present in your interactions. A meaningful 10-minute chat can go further than hours of distracted conversation.

🌱 Maintain your independence.
Stay connected to your own interests, routines, and support systems. Healthy relationships need space to breathe.

Tandem Therapy offers a compassionate, neutral space to explore your relationship dynamics, build emotional resilience, and stay connected - even at a distance.

📍Online sessions available
📩 DM or visit tandemtherapy.co.uk to book a free 15-minute intro call.

15/02/2024

‘Bottom Up’ trauma therapy means that we work safely and at your pace to ensure that you aren’t retraumatised in sessions. Using safety and stabilisation exercises as an anchor we can gently work to process your trauma in a safe supportive way. Get in touch to have a chat about how I may be able to support you @ tandemtherapy.co.uk