19/01/2021
Oh my, I hear you. I've been having quite a few of these days lately. I'm guessing many of those reading identify too. Life is so very, very tough at the moment. I hate this time of year at the best of times with the grey cold days and the sparkle of Christmas a rapidly fading memory but the promise of spring still so far away, throw in lockdown, lack of being able to socialise and get 'in person' support and trying to balance work, schooling at home and everything else and the days - and nights - seem unforgiven and endless.
I don't have any magic answers I'm afraid, I wish I did. I find the following help when I'm really struggling to get through the day, especially as a parent:
* Aim for survival - nothing more. Keeping everybody warm and fed and safe is enough, it really is.
* Be kind to yourself - you're not a bad parent if you have a bad day, weeks or - at the moment, year. Whatever you do (or don't do), or say today doesn't matter, apologise to your child(ren) and move on. Tomorrow is a new day.
* Have a PJ day, snuggle together on the sofa with a big blanket and your child(ren), make some popcorn, eat ice cream out of the tub, watch ALL the Netflix, Cbeebies and Disney+ (incidentally, these days will become some of your children's favourite memories)
* Get some daylight, first thing in the morning if you can, if not anything will help. If you have the money, a SAD lamp can really help, otherwise a bright white (energy saving), or blue light bulb close to you is useful too.
* Put some upbeat music on and jiggle (I would say dance, but then people worry they can't dance) around your home, sing loudly (however out of tune) too
* Put on wellies and coats and get outside - however 'bad' the weather is. Stomp in puddles, squelch mud (yes - even the adults).
* Have a bath together with your child(ren) if you have a bath. Throw in all the toys and bubbles
* Pick up the phone and call someone (don't Zoom, we've all had enough of it! an old fashioned phone call can be really uplifting)
* Go to bed early, as early as your child(ren), even better, snuggle up in bed with them. 6pm is not too early.
* Check what you're eating, deficiencies in magnesium, Vitamin D and B vitamins can really impact moods. Take care of your microbiome too, gut health has such a strong link to mental health.
Please don't hesitate to call your GP, or a helpline such as too if you're still struggling. There are services available to you, they may look slightly different to those pre-covid in their delivery, but they're still there.
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