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The quality of our life is a direct result Of how much uncertainty we can comfortably live with. TR

Anthony Robbins &
Maddanes center for
Strategic Intervention Coaching
N.L.P Practitioner
Meta-Health Practitioner
(GNM) German new medicine
Reiki Practitioner Pt 1 & 2
P.P.F coaching system

Whitstable Kent
AC accredited

14/01/2026

Most of us grew up in families where we didn’t consciously decide who to become.
We adapted.
We sensed what was needed.
We noticed which version of us kept things calm, earned approval, or avoided trouble.
So different parts stepped in.

The smiling one who keeps everyone comfortable.
The quiet one who stays out of the way.
The strong one who doesn’t need help.
The responsible one who grows up too early.
The rebel who pushes back.
The caretaker who looks after everyone else.

None of these parts are wrong.
They’re intelligent responses to the environment we grew up in.

But when those parts keep running our lives automatically, we end up with identity confusion as adults: Not knowing who we really are
Feeling pulled in different directions
Feeling like we’re playing roles rather than living authentically

This is why so many people say things like
“Part of me wants this… but part of me wants that.”
That’s not weakness.
That’s unexamined patterning.
This is what my upcoming book
🫴 Part of Me👈 explores —
how these roles form,
why they stick around,
and how understanding them brings clarity instead of conflict.
You’re not broken.
You adapted.
And awareness is where change starts.

13/01/2026

What if your symptoms aren’t random?

Most people are taught that symptoms mean something is broken.

But what if the body isn’t malfunctioning — what if it’s responding logically to something unresolved?

Human Reboot explores the hidden emotional and behavioural patterns behind stress, illness, and repeated life cycles — without fear, labels, or blame.

👉 LEARN MORE

31/12/2025

January 1st:

“I’m a new person.”

January 3rd:

“I’m tired.”

January 7th:

“Who am I kidding.”

😂
It’s not laziness.
It’s not lack of motivation.
It’s different parts of you wanting different things.
One part wants change.
Another part wants comfort.
Another part panics the moment change actually starts.
So January becomes December…
but in gym clothes.
Real change doesn’t come from trying harder or waiting for the “right time.”
It comes from understanding who inside you is actually running the show.
When those parts stop fighting, things finally stick.
This year doesn’t need a new you.
It needs a more integrated one.

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22/12/2025

Part of Me
💥Transcend Your Fu**ed Upness💥
Most people aren’t broken.
They’re over-adapted.
This book is for anyone who’s ever said:
“Part of me wants this… and part of me doesn’t.”
It explains where that split comes from — and how to stop living from it.

Coming soon.

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21/12/2025

I don’t believe in coincidences, but I do believe in patterns.

Every person I’ve worked with who’s experienced fibromyalgia has had something very specific going on in their life at the time.
What shows up again and again is long term emotional overload combined with internal conflict.
These are often people who have spent years adapting to difficult situations. Suppressing how they feel. Putting others first. Keeping the peace. Carrying responsibility while ignoring their own limits.
There is usually a history of feeling trapped. Not able to leave a situation. Not able to say what needs to be said. Not able to be themselves without consequences. Resentment builds, but it stays inside.
The nervous system remains on high alert for too long. Everything feels heavy. Pain becomes widespread rather than local. The body feels like it is constantly bracing.
This is not a failure of the body.

In nature, when stress and conflict are experienced as ongoing with no clear resolution, the body adapts. Sensitivity increases. Protective responses spread. It is a biological response, not a mistake.

Is that a coincidence?

Or could it be that the body responds when holding it all together for too long becomes impossible?

No blame.
No judgement.
Just a pattern worth noticing.

21/12/2025

I don’t believe in coincidences, but I do believe in patterns.

Every woman I’ve worked with who’s experienced breast related issues has had something very specific going on in her life at the time.
It is not simply about being caring or nurturing.
What I see repeatedly is a deep emotional conflict involving someone she loves and feels responsible for. Often a child or a partner. A shock or ongoing distress linked to fear for their safety, fear of loss, or the feeling of not being able to protect or hold things together.
Separation is common too. Emotional distance. A breakdown in closeness. Feeling cut off from someone she loves while still carrying responsibility for them.
This is not a failure of the body.
In nature, tissue adapts in response to perceived threat, stress, and emotional shock. It is a biological response, not a mistake.
Is that a coincidence?
Or could it be that the body sometimes responds when the instinct to nurture and protect is experienced as threatened or impossible?

No blame.
No judgement.
Just a pattern worth noticing.

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21/12/2025

I don’t believe in coincidences, but I do believe in patterns.
Every man I’ve worked with who’s experienced prostate issues has had something very specific going on in his life at the time.
There is almost always a s*xual conflict sitting somewhere beneath the surface.
That might be feeling rejected or unwanted. A loss of intimacy in a relationship. Feeling inadequate as a man, s*xually or emotionally. Sometimes it is resentment around s*x being used as control. Sometimes it is shame, comparison, or the quiet feeling of no longer being enough.
Alongside this, there is usually an issue around power and authority. Feeling undermined. Disrespected. Controlled. Decisions being made for him rather than by him. A sense that his voice no longer really matters.
What I see again and again is quiet anger. Not explosive rage, but swallowed frustration. Holding things in. Letting things slide that actually hurt.
These men keep functioning. They keep providing. They keep showing up.
But not as themselves.
Is that a coincidence?
Or could it be that the body sometimes speaks up when a man feels he no longer can s*xually, emotionally, or in life?
No blame.
No judgement.
Just a pattern worth noticing.

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19/12/2025

Most patterns aren’t chosen because they’re good for us.
They’re chosen because they’re known.
And when life has felt unpredictable,
familiarity can feel like safety ,even when it isn’t comfortable.

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19/12/2025

Wanting things to be different doesn’t automatically make change easy.
Often there’s a part of you that’s ready to move
and another part that’s still trying to stay safe.
Both can exist at the same time.

LifePatterns
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19/12/2025

Overthinking often gets judged as a flaw.
But most of the time, it’s just caution doing its job.
It’s your mind trying to protect you from future pain — not sabotage your life.

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EmotionalAwareness

19/12/2025

When someone else’s voice has been louder than your own for a long time,
your instincts can feel quiet or unreliable.
Relearning self-trust is a process — and it’s allowed to take time.

Relationships
SelfReflection

13/12/2025

Ever feel like you’re fighting with yourself?
Like one part of you wants to change… and another part refuses?

You’re not broken.
You’re not weak.
You’re not confused.

You’re human — and you have parts.

My new book, Part of Me, is a practical guide to understanding why we think, feel, react, push, pull, sabotage, hide, or overcompensate the way we do…
and how these patterns shape every relationship in our lives.

If you’ve ever wondered:

“Why do I do that?”

“Why do they act like that?”

“Why do I feel two different ways at the same time?”
— this book will finally make it make sense.

Part of Me — coming soon.
A Practical Guide to Understanding Yourself and Others.

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