18/04/2026
Retired Army Major Tony Kirk from Barry struggled to come to terms with a diagnosis of Parkinson’s until he was supported, by a Clinical Psychologist working within the Parkinson’s Service at Cardiff and Vale UHB, to reframe it and be kinder to himself.
Now 69, Tony was diagnosed in the summer of 2021. Although he was aware Parkinson’s was a possibility, he said it had never been something he had considered in depth. “It’s only since being diagnosed that I armed myself with some information and knowledge about what it is,” he said.
Arming himself with knowledge is something Tony has spent much of his life doing. After leaving school at 15, he joined the Army and completed a three year apprenticeship as an aircraft helicopter engineer. During a 35-year career in the Armed Forces, he took advantage of education opportunities, gaining a degree in aerospace engineering and a master’s degree in education. By the end of his military career, Tony had reached the rank of Major, worked as a training consultant and had helped to support the peace settlement in Bosnia. He retired from the Army at 50 and went on to do military training for Boeing until the age of 60.
Five years later Tony noticed he wasn’t walking in a straight line. “I always felt I was wandering from side-to-side, and I guess I just put that down to my broken body, having been in the army for 35 years,” he said. He had also lost his sense of smell, a common early symptom of Parkinson’s, but had attributed that to a previous nose operation.
In Wales there are approximately 8,600 people living with Parkinson’s, a progressive neurological condition with multiple motor and non-motor symptoms some of which include tremor, stiff muscles and slow movement, as well as loss of smell, anxiety and depression.
Tony’s Parkinson’s diagnosis brought shock, particularly following earlier serious health problems. “I’d already gone through prostate cancer and a heart attack,” he said. “I’m thinking, ‘what else is life going to throw at me?’ It was quite a challenging time, both for me and my wife, Chris.”
In the months that followed, Tony admits having “dark thoughts” about what the diagnosis could mean to him. “Whilst it wasn’t a terminal diagnosis, it was limiting and would affect my quality of life,” he said. “I’d been used to a very physical, able life… and I could see that being eroded.” He felt he was losing aspects of his identity that he’d held close.
Tony was introduced to a Clinical Psychologist working within the Parkinson’s Service at Cardiff and Vale University Health Board. The service is one of only a small number in the UK with specialised Parkinson’s psychology support embedded within the clinical team, providing early and personalised interventions. “Jointly, we decided she might be able to help me. And she has significantly,” Tony said.
Through psychological support, Tony began to adapt his outlook. “The sessions have given me a safe space to talk about my worries and emotions,” he said, explaining that the psychologist helped him develop coping strategies and “let go of some of my old ways of thinking, which were good and appropriate in a different life, but not in the life I have now.” Tony describes Parkinson’s as an “anti-social neighbour” he must learn to get along with. “The sessions with the psychologist have helped me transition and come to an acceptance of my noisy neighbour. I can now say I’ve got Parkinson's, it will limit me, but I’m going to do what I need to do today and be thankful for the things I still can do” he said. He has embraced the mental and physical challenge of finding “workarounds” to continue achieving his goals in new ways.
One of the most important lessons has been learning self-compassion. “In the Army there was little compassion,” Tony said. “I’ve learned to say to myself, ‘it’s okay. Stop. You don’t have to win.”
Tony now shares his experiences with trainee psychologists. “I go in and give them a day in the life of a person with Parkinson’s,” he said. “That is therapy for me… it makes me feel like I’m still contributing. And that's been an important part of my life, the ability to touch other people's life as an educator, as a trainer.”
During Tony hopes sharing his story will encourage others to seek the support they need to accept and live well with a Parkinson’s diagnosis.