21/11/2025
Bore da,
Here’s a piece on what’s at the root of most of our problems.
Following the Living Room’s 12 Step group session today, I was asked, is the human heart’s desire to be loved for itself the root cause of all addictions - in as much as dependent people look for that love in all the wrong places?
Well, It was a great question and a profound insight — and one that sits close to the heart of recovery wisdom.
In many ways, addiction is the ache of a heart that longs to be loved simply for being itself but has lost faith that such love is possible. When that longing is unmet, the heart goes hunting: for warmth in alcohol, for belonging in crowds, for relief in substances, for affirmation in work, s*x, food, gambling — anything that momentarily hushes the loneliness.
But these are substitutes, not sources. They can mimic love’s glow, but they cannot offer its embrace.
You could say:
At the root of addiction lies a sacred hunger —
the longing to be held, to be seen, to be valued
without condition.
And when the true water cannot be found,
we drink from broken wells.
In that sense, dependent people aren’t weak or flawed; they’re simply searching — often desperately — for the love, connection, and acceptance they were made for, but searching in places that can never give it back.
And recovery?
It’s the slow, brave return to the truth that we are lovable — as we are — and that the love we sought outside cannot heal us until it takes root within.
To learn more contact us via: www.living-room.uk
www.stafell-fyw.uk
www.recovery-council.
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