Abi Giles Therapy

19/07/2025

Can we pleeeaase take a minute for the rug 😍😍😍 I'm not sure if it's a moth or a butterfly so here are some words for both 🥰

'The moth's attraction to light can represent the pursuit of knowledge, enlightenment, or spiritual growth. However, it can also serve as a cautionary tale about blindly chasing after something that may be harmful.'

'The butterfly's journey from caterpillar to chrysalis to winged adult is a powerful symbol of personal growth, transformation and change.'

How fitting 🖤

🦋🖤🦋

18/07/2025

Just sitting here in my very own therapy room, with my own art work, in complete gratitude ❤️📖 thought I would share a little corner with you all and yes that is a 🦢 because I have free will 😅 I cannot wait to welcome all of my lovely clients into this space 🖤

16/07/2025

Transformation isn’t loud. Sometimes it begins in a quiet room, with the courage to say, ‘I need something to change.’

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27/02/2025

Hello all 👋🙏

I thought I would take a minute to reintroduce myself, my name is Abi, I'm in my fifth year in private practice and last week was a huge milestone for me as I qualified as a level 7 Psychotherapist 🎉

After graduating my 4 year core training just over 2 years ago, I gained over the 750 client hours needed, submitted my written exam, and 6 months later was able to take my oral exam. (Which I'm very proud to say I passed with incredible marks!) and here we are ❤️

I often wonder how I want to use this page, and I find myself always questioning whether I should or could post something, because it's a 'bit too sweary' or sounds a bit 'unprofessional' for a therapist. But one thing I've learned about this journey is to remain authentically you.

I will always remember when I was about to start seeing clients years ago, I was filled with imposter syndrome, thinking I was never going to be good enough to sit in 'that' chair!

Then, my supervisor said to me 'Abi, you're never going to be that therapist wearing a fu***ng pashmena' (I had to Google what a pashmena was!!! 🤣) and that one sentence carried soo much permission. For me to still be me...AND be a good therapist. I was never going to be the 'stereotypical therapist' (not that one of those exists anyway), but I certainly wasn't going to wear a pashmena. (No discrimination to any pashmena wearers out there!)

So now, I'm just me. I swear in the therapy room sometimes, I work in a way that will sometimes confront societal norms, I'm creative and I do my best to meet my clients exactly where they're at. I use my intersectional identity, my societal and economic marginalization to influence my practice in all the ways I used to be ashamed to do.

So welcome to my page. A 🤏 sweary with many f***s to give ❤️

19/02/2025

Found myself watching after life again. Such a brilliantly heartbreaking and funny series. So, incase nobody told you today....🧡❤️💜

23/11/2024

This is a webinar that I am offering for TA therapists. To enhance your knowledge and understanding of working with this client presentation. Suitable for those in training and post CTA level.

There are only 25 spaces available.

I hope to see you there ⭐️

Hey there! Join us for a virtual event where we'll dive into the topic of working with self-harm for TA therapists. Let's learn and grow tog

06/09/2024

01/09/2024

What does the change in seasons mean to you?

Hibernation?
Recoup and restore?
Hustle and fastness?
Joy?
Sadness?
Calm?
Chaos?
New beginnings?
Endings?

Take a minite to reflect on what this time means for you.

Do you align with the hustle, bustle and commercialism around this time of year? Or do you retreat, reflect and restore? Or is it both?

Hello Autumn 🍁🍂🎃🍁

31/08/2024

Take a minute to check in with all versions of you. It could be the most profound thing you do.

We carry versions of ourselves within us. And if at some point a version of you went through something, maybe scary, maybe alone. Then that version stays. And carries the pain.

Listen. Feel. Be there. Heal.

27/08/2024

The capacity for mature adult love is not an absence of an unconscious fantasy but the ability to hold and contain them in the relationship.

19/08/2024

The f**k it button.

This is a concept that I have used in my own therapy and that I now use with my clients.

It might sound like this...

'How close are you to pressing your f**k it button right now?'

'Do you think you might have pressed your f**k it button when you did that?'

Or even...

'That sounds a little bit f**k it buttony'

What I mean when I say this is, are you self sabotaging right now?

What does self sabbotage look like to you?

The more you can understand the ways in which you think, feel and behave when you're sabotaging, the more you can avoid pressing your f**k it button.

The f**k it button can feel like a great way to distract, avoid or even have fun. BUT, it almost always ends up with a negative feeling and can be a great way to confirm those negative beliefs about yourself. Or another thing you can use to beat yourself up.

Ever thought, f**k it, I literally don't care anymore?? Then after felt ashamed of your behaviour?

I think many of us are either familiar with feeling this way or have felt this way in the past.

The way through is to start to become aware of:

1. What does your f**k it button look like? What behaviours might you be doing if you have pressed your f**k it button?

2. What typically happens on the way to pressing your f**k it button. How might you be feeling at this time?

3. What do you actually need right now?

4. How will you feel after you've pressed your f**k it button?

Working with a therapist to explore all of these questions can help you to develop ways of living that no longer require the f**k it button 😉

19/08/2024

Do you spend time comparing yourself to other people?

Stuck in a rut of putting yourself down?

Wishing your life away by wanting to be someone else?

If you're forever looking outwards you're never looking inwards.

You're going to be with you your whole life.

Don't let you go to waste ❤️