24/03/2024
Lately I’ve been pondering opposites, spurred by some seemingly unrelated symptoms in the right side of my body and it got me thinking about left/right, feminine/masculine, yin/yang, dark/light etc and how I might integrate these two aspects within and bring a sense of the whole.
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As the days lengthen and the rise of spring pushes us into the masculine energy of doing, I find myself on day one of my cycle, on day one of our holiday in Norway. It’s been a busy time. I’ve been holding a lot and even though I’m heeding the call to rest, it’s hard to fully embrace and accept the dark, yin of my being when those around me seem to be so up for it! The old me would override, take a paracetamol and ‘tighten my bra strap’. Either afraid to be different or seen to be ‘weak’ or it just wouldn’t have even occurred to me that I had a deeper need let alone give myself permission to take care of it.
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As I enter perimenopause, resting during my bleed is becoming a non-negotiable and even though it’s not always possible, I realise that when I’m around others it’s tinged with shame that I would voluntarily rest when I’m not unwell. That somehow having my period isn’t a good enough excuse to take to my bed or sofa or other lolling place. Culture has conditioned us as women to believe that it’s not ok to feel this way as it’s not convenient when there’s stuff to get done and people to please!
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So here I loll, staring out the window embracing the via-negativa that .school talk about (the yin/feminine half of the cycle), being with my womb and giving it the attention that it needs. My right sided masculine, doing self can have a break. Until the via positiva comes around again. Weaving in and out of the dark and the light.
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