30/03/2026
People often have no idea what to do, and for fear of upsetting you more, step back or say things that they were taught to say, or even say nothing.
This can make us feel more isolated, as if no one understands or knows what it really feels like to grieve someone.
The biggest thing is just to show up, be there, listen, don’t try to fix something that can’t be fixed, don’t tell us “they are in a better place “ or “they had a good life” as if that’s helpful. Be there, in person, on the phone, by text or message, be there for us.
Please listen, or sit with us if we are quiet, help so the things we can’t even think we need to do. People bought us shopping and that was so helpful as even to do that was too overwhelming.
It may feel hard for you, but it makes such a big difference.
