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09/03/2026

23/02/2026

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We spend so much of our lives trying to trim the edges of our souls so we can fit into the pre-cut boxes the world has laid out for us.
We’re told that if we just tried harder, or focused more, or stopped being so "sensitive," we could finally be the productive, consistent, "normal" people we’re supposed to be. We treat our brains like broken machines that need to be fixed, rather than unique ecosystems that need to be understood.

Jenara Nerenberg’s "Divergent Mind" is the map I wish I’d had a decade ago. It’s a deep, validating look at how neurodivergence—ADHD, autism, synesthesia, and sensory processing differences—presents in women, who have spent a lifetime masking their struggles just to get through the grocery store or a staff meeting.

Here is what it looks like to stop apologizing for how your brain is wired:

1. "Sensitive" is not a personality flaw; it’s a nervous system reality.
For years, the word "sensitive" has been used as a weapon to tell women they are "too much." Nerenberg flips this on its head. She explains that for a divergent mind, the world is literally louder, brighter, and more intense. Your brain isn't "overreacting"; it's processing more data than the average person. When you realize your sensitivity is a physiological fact, you can stop blaming your character and start adjusting your environment.

2. The "Mask" is what's draining your life force.
Many women are experts at "masking"—mimicking social cues and suppressing their true selves to blend in. But Nerenberg shows the devastating cost of this performance: burnout, anxiety, and a total loss of self. This book is a permission slip to take the mask off. To admit that you need the noise-canceling headphones, or the "dark room" days, or the specific routines that keep you grounded.

3. We’ve been using the wrong yardstick for "success."
Our society is built for the "neurotypical" brain—the one that thrives on 9-to-5 schedules, open-office plans, and constant social interaction. If you don't thrive in those settings, you’re told you’re failing. But "Divergent Mind" argues that some of the most creative, empathetic, and visionary breakthroughs come from the brains that see the world differently. You aren't failing at being "normal"; you are potentially thriving in a category the world hasn't named yet.

4. Design a life that supports your wiring instead of fighting it.
The most practical takeaway from Nerenberg is the shift from "fixing" to "designing." Instead of trying to force yourself to be a morning person or a social butterfly, what if you designed a career and a home that honored your sensory needs? It’s about moving from a place of "What is wrong with me?" to "What do I need to function at my best?"

I closed this book feeling a massive sense of relief. It felt like someone had finally handed me the manual for a language I’d been trying to speak my whole life without a dictionary. It doesn't promise that the world will stop being loud, but it promises that you don't have to break yourself trying to quiet it down.

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09/02/2026

It’s Children’s Mental Health Week! Whatever age your little ones are, it’s so important that you do take time to nurture their mental health. Children can worry about a whole heap of things including school, friendships, fitting it, being good at something they love, the list goes on! This image from Mental Fills Counseling Tools covers everything you need to be doing to make sure your child feels safe and loved.

09/02/2026

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Brené Brown wrote "I Thought It Was Just Me (but it isn't)" before she became Brené Brown. Long before the TED talk that broke the internet, before vulnerability became a word everyone used without understanding what it costs to actually practice it.

This is her first book. It's Rawer. Unpolished. And written for women drowning in the quiet, relentless belief that they're not enough and that if people really saw them, really knew them, they'd turn away.

The title alone breaks you open: that secret terror you carry that you're failing, faking, barely holding it together while everyone else seems fine; you think it's just you. That you're uniquely broken. Uniquely inadequate. The only one who hasn't figured out how to be a person yet.

But it isn't just you. It's all of us. Performing. Pretending. Terrified someone will see through the act.

And shame - that crushing, suffocating voice that says you are not enough; it thrives on that isolation. It grows in the silence. It feeds on the belief that your struggle is yours alone.

Brown spent years researching shame, trying to understand why it has such a vicious grip on women specifically. And what she discovered was this: shame dies when we stop hiding it. When we speak it out loud to someone who doesn't flinch, doesn't judge, doesn't try to fix us - just says, quietly, *me too*.

This book is about that journey. From 'what will people think?' to 'I am enough'. From curating a life that looks acceptable to risking one that feels real. From drowning in shame to learning how to breathe through it.

This book feels like sitting across from someone who's been where you are and made it through. And Brown doesn't write from above her struggles; she writes from inside them. She shares her own shame, her perfectionism, her terror of being ordinary, her journey toward believing she's worthy even when she's messy.

And she gives you tools. How to identify shame triggers. How to practice empathy instead of judgment. How to build communities where vulnerability isn't punished but honored.

Read this if you're exhausted from pretending. If you're terrified people will discover you're not as together as you seem. If you've spent your entire life asking 'what will people think?' and you're ready - finally, desperately ready - to start asking 'what do I think? What do I need? What do I want?'

Brené Brown won't make shame disappear. But she'll show you how to stop letting it have the last word.

And she'll remind you, over and over, until you start to believe it: you're not the only one struggling.

You just thought you were.

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29/01/2026

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08/01/2026

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Word of the Week: Masking

This week’s word is masking.

What is it?

Masking is the process of hiding, suppressing, or altering natural responses, behaviours, or needs in order to fit in, stay safe, or avoid negative judgement.

For many neurodivergent people, masking isn’t a conscious choice. It’s a learned survival response. Over time, the brain learns which parts of itself are “acceptable” and which are not, and adjusts accordingly.

Masking can look like copying others, forcing eye contact, rehearsing conversations, suppressing stimming, staying quiet, or pushing through when something feels overwhelming.

How does it affect those with difficulties with it?

Masking can be incredibly costly.

It may look like:

• appearing “fine” at school or work, then collapsing at home
• extreme exhaustion after social interaction
• anxiety, low mood, or burnout
• difficulty identifying needs or emotions
• people not believing support is needed because things look OK

Masking uses a huge amount of cognitive and emotional energy. Over time, that constant self-monitoring can lead to burnout, shutdown, or a complete loss of sense of self.

Masking is not confidence.
It’s not resilience.
It’s effort.

How can I help?

You help by making masking less necessary.

That might mean:

• accepting differences without comment or correction
• not praising children or adults for “coping so well” without checking the cost
• offering choices rather than expectations
• allowing people to opt out, stim, move, or be quiet
• believing someone when they say they’re struggling, even if it’s not visible

Safety reduces masking.
Acceptance reduces masking.
Understanding reduces masking.

When people don’t have to perform, they can focus their energy on learning, connecting, and being themselves.

Emma
The Autistic SENCo
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19/12/2025

JOYFUL MINDS
There are books you read, and there are books that quietly read you back. This one entered my space through sound, through voice, through pauses that felt intentional. Somewhere between a long drive and a reflective moment, Gabor Maté’s calm, almost fatherly tone, carried by Daniel Maté’s sensitive narration, began to peel back layers I did not know I had. This was not just listening, it felt like being gently guided into truths the body has been trying to say all along.

1. The body keeps a record the mind tries to erase: One of the strongest messages that stayed with me is that the body does not forget what the mind chooses to suppress. Gabor Maté shows again and again that when emotions like anger, grief, fear, or resentment are pushed aside in the name of being strong, polite, or good, the body quietly absorbs the burden. Over time, it speaks through illness. Listening to the audiobook, the stories of patients made this impossible to ignore. Disease is not always an enemy attacking us, sometimes it is the body’s honest response to years of emotional silencing. This lesson challenged me to stop seeing sickness as random and start seeing it as meaningful communication.

2. Saying yes too often can cost the body dearly: The author repeatedly connects chronic illness with people who are overly nice, self sacrificing, and unable to say no. As I listened, I could almost hear the compassion in his voice for those who learned early in life that love was conditional. Maté explains that when we constantly abandon ourselves to meet the needs of others, stress hormones stay activated, weakening the immune system over time. This lesson landed deeply because it reframes people pleasing as not just a personality trait, but a serious health risk. The body pays the price for every boundary we fail to set.

3. Childhood is where stress quietly takes root: One of the most sobering lessons from the book is how early life experiences shape adult health. Gabor Maté does not accuse parents, instead he invites understanding. Through the narration, it became clear that children adapt in order to survive emotionally. They suppress anger, deny needs, and disconnect from feelings to maintain attachment. Decades later, the body remembers what the child could not express. This lesson helped me see that healing is not about blame, but about recognizing patterns that started long before we had language for them.

4. Stress is not always loud, sometimes it is polite and smiling: The book expands the definition of stress beyond trauma and crisis. Maté explains that hidden stress includes emotional repression, constant self control, and the pressure to appear fine when one is not. Listening to the audiobook, his gentle emphasis made this point even more powerful. Stress is not only what happens to us, but what happens inside us when we deny our truth. This lesson reminded me that calm appearances can hide intense inner tension, and the body eventually exposes what the voice refuses to say.

5. Healing begins with awareness not force: Rather than offering quick fixes, the author emphasizes awareness, compassion, and authenticity. As I listened, there was a noticeable softness in the narration whenever healing was discussed. The body does not heal through pressure, it heals through safety. Recognizing emotional patterns, reconnecting with feelings, and learning self compassion are presented as essential steps. This lesson taught me that recovery is not about fighting the body, but about finally listening to it with honesty and patience.

6. Authenticity is a biological necessity: Perhaps the most profound lesson from the book is that being true to oneself is not a luxury, it is a requirement for health. Maté makes it clear that when we disconnect from our true emotions and needs, the nervous system remains in survival mode. Over time, this imbalance shows up physically. Hearing this through the audiobook made it feel deeply personal. Authenticity is not just about emotional freedom, it is about survival. The body thrives when the self is allowed to exist fully and truthfully.

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16/12/2025

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