Control and Change

Control and Change Multi award winning Mind Coach & Hypnotherapist
Anxiety, grief, weight-loss, addiction, confidence & more Welcome to Control and Change.

The Control system is a direct, positive and successful method of creating rapid and permanent changes to the way you think, feel and behave. By using direct communication with the most powerful and creative part of your mind, the CONTROL system puts you back in charge of your own thoughts and responses. CONTROL can be used to change almost any current pattern of thought you are unhappy with. Here

are just a few:

Stress and Anxiety Management
Fears and Phobias
Weight Control and Diet and Nutritional Change
Stop Smoking and other addictions
Health Issues due to Nutritional Deficiencies
Obsessive and Compulsive Behaviour
Confidence & Performance
Sleep issues, Insomnia and Pain Control
Poor Memory and Fatigue

Using direct communication, hypnosis, positive visualisation and the power of imagination, to change your pattern of behaviour, responses and feelings. Change the way your powerful and creative subconscious mind works for you. Take back control and be in charge. Please like our page and visit the website: www.controlandchange.co.uk for the very best advice and support for a healthy, happy body and mind.

“Lets get Control and Change.”

About Me:
After many years of struggling with my own weight, nutrition and related symptoms, I began a journey that led me to lose three stone as well as the related health issues. I had so much more energy and had discovered a lot about nutrition. Friends and family started to ask how I had done it and could I help them? I then decided to train and qualify as a Nutritional Therapist. A few months after this, I was faced with a particularly stressful period at work and home. I was introduced to the Control System and attended a Control workshop. Coming away after one day, totally relaxed and in control, I made a decision. I went on to study and qualify as a Control Practitioner and Remedial Hypnotist! During and shortly after this time, I had began to change peoples lives and help them feel in control, balanced and happy again. Taking away stress, fear of heights, anxiety, stopping people from smoking, losing weight and many more. Finally a great opportunity arose. My holistic approach to client care and local knowledge was partnered with an offer to work with, and at, the Lordswood Osteopathic Clinic. Control and Change was born. The clinic is conveniently located at the Lordswood Leisure Centre in Chatham, in the heart of the medway towns and close to the M2 junction 3. Easy links from Gillingham, Sittingbourne, Gravesend and Canterbury and a short hop from Junction 6 of the M20 and Blue Bell Hill from Maidstone, Ashford and surrounding areas. The centre is situated in a quiet country setting overlooking 20 acres of playing fields, with free parking for over 100 cars and disabled access. Regular local buses (166, 167 & 701) stop around half a mile from the Centre.

Not been without that for 10 plus years!Pause for a moment.What went well this week?Not perfect. Just progress.A real li...
30/04/2026

Not been without that for 10 plus years!

Pause for a moment.
What went well this week?
Not perfect. Just progress.

A real life shift:
Remember the 5 legged dog?

A recent insomnia client sent me this:
“Last night I had no relaxation music through the night (not been without that for 10 plus years) and I was fine. Been sleeping well thanks to you. I am feeling grateful for the improvement”.
Your mind responds to how you speak to it.

Criticism = more resistance
Encouragement = more forward motion

⚠️ If you ignore your wins:
Self-doubt grows
Confidence shrinks
Anxiety strengthens
How will your mind know you have won?

💡 Try this:
👉 “I handled that better”
👉 “I gave it a go”
👉 “That took courage”
👉 “I want more of that!”

👉 What can you thank yourself for?

What did you notice yesterday?🧠 Your mind is always learning:Avoid = “That worked, stay safe”Action = “Maybe this isn’t ...
29/04/2026

What did you notice yesterday?

🧠 Your mind is always learning:
Avoid = “That worked, stay safe”
Action = “Maybe this isn’t so bad”

⚠️ If you keep avoiding:
The fear & anxiety grows
The story gets stronger
The judgement cuts deeper

💡 What if instead of fear…
You brought curiosity?
“What if this goes better than I expect?”

👉 What did you learn about yourself?

When anxiety builds… your body follows.💡 Try this:👉 Breathe in for 4👉 Out for 6👉 Repeat for 30 seconds🧠 Why it works:You...
28/04/2026

When anxiety builds… your body follows.

💡 Try this:
👉 Breathe in for 4
👉 Out for 6
👉 Repeat for 30 seconds

🧠 Why it works:
You’re telling your nervous system:
“I’m safe”

⚠️ If you don’t interrupt it:
The thoughts spiral
The body reacts
The anxiety grows

👉 Try it now and notice the shift

𝗘𝘃𝗲𝗿 𝗻𝗼𝘁𝗶𝗰𝗲 𝗵𝗼𝘄 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗺𝗶𝗻𝗱 𝘁𝗮𝗹𝗸𝘀 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗼𝘂𝘁 𝗼𝗳 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗴𝘀?“I can’t do that…”“That will go wrong…”“What if I panic?”👉 That’s not ...
27/04/2026

𝗘𝘃𝗲𝗿 𝗻𝗼𝘁𝗶𝗰𝗲 𝗵𝗼𝘄 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗺𝗶𝗻𝗱 𝘁𝗮𝗹𝗸𝘀 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗼𝘂𝘁 𝗼𝗳 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗴𝘀?
“I can’t do that…”
“That will go wrong…”
“What if I panic?”

👉 That’s not weakness
👉 That’s your mind trying to protect you

🚖 𝗛𝗲𝗿𝗲’𝘀 𝘄𝗵𝗮𝘁’𝘀 𝗿𝗲𝗮𝗹𝗹𝘆 𝗵𝗮𝗽𝗽𝗲𝗻𝗶𝗻𝗴:
It’s like getting into a taxi and saying: “Not here.”
The driver can’t help you…
because you haven’t told them where you’re going.

If your mind doesn’t have a clear destination…
it fills the gap with doubt.
Will you even know if you are there?

⚠️ 𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗵𝗶𝗱𝗱𝗲𝗻 𝗰𝗼𝘀𝘁:
Avoiding feels better short-term…
But long-term?

Your world gets smaller
Your confidence fades
The fear & anxiety grows

💪 𝗧𝗵𝗶𝘀 𝘄𝗲𝗲𝗸:
You don’t need to feel ready
You just need to take one small step

👉 What are you avoiding right now?
👉 DM me and we will get there together.

Thankful Thursday?Let’s take a moment to notice something…Your mind is a bit like a child.It responds to praise, encoura...
23/04/2026

Thankful Thursday?
Let’s take a moment to notice something…

Your mind is a bit like a child.
It responds to praise, encouragement, and kindness.

Think about when a child shows you their drawing…
A five-legged dog, a purple horse 😄

You don’t criticise it.
You don’t point out what’s wrong.
👉 You smile
👉 You praise it
👉 You stick it on the fridge

…and what happens?
They want to do more.

So what if you did the same with your mind?

Instead of:
“I should’ve done that better…”
“That wasn’t good enough…”
“Why can't I stop being anxious?”

Try:
👉 “I’m pleased I showed up”
👉 “I really enjoyed doing that”
👉 “I was calm and relaxed”

Why it matters:
This is how you build:
Confidence
Momentum
Self Esteem

Not through pressure… but encouragement.
Trust your mind and it will trust you.

🤝 ….and you?:
What’s ONE thing you’ve done this week you can give yourself credit for?
Maybe not a 5 legged pink dog….but maybe a chat, trip or that little strut into the restaurant?

Drop it below 👇
Let’s celebrate the wins together ❤️

🤔 Wednesday WonderWhat did you learn about yourself this week?Not just what you did…But how you felt, reacted, or maybe ...
23/04/2026

🤔 Wednesday Wonder

What did you learn about yourself this week?
Not just what you did…
But how you felt, reacted, or maybe held yourself back.

Here’s something powerful:
Your mind is always learning.

If you avoid something (recording a video, a social event, public speaking)…
your mind learns:
👉 “That worked. Let’s do that again next time.”
…and that’s how anxiety, overthinking & imposter syndrome grow.

What if you got curious instead?
👉 “What if this goes better than I expect?”
👉 “What if I can handle this?”
👉 “What if this is actually… enjoyable?”
Curiosity invites the mind to wonder without fear.
Even a small shift in the language can change the answers.
What if….this was the new What if?!

🚀 Growth (this is where it matters):
Every time you try something new…
you grow as a person and and so does your mind.
More self esteem.
More confidence.
More momentum.

This week’s gentle challenge:
Pick one small thing you’d normally avoid…
and do it with a different energy.
Not perfect.
Just curious.
With wonder.

🤝 Your turn:
What have you learned about yourself this week?
Or what are you willing to try differently?

Drop it below 👇

Let’s learn and grow together ❤️

Monday MotivationHow’s your Monday feeling… calm, busy, or a bit overwhelming?Maybe you’ve got:A meeting coming upA soci...
20/04/2026

Monday Motivation

How’s your Monday feeling… calm, busy, or a bit overwhelming?

Maybe you’ve got:
A meeting coming up
A social event later
Or even just the thought of a busy place feels like a lot

Here’s something to remember:
👉 It’s not the situation causing the anxiety…
👉 It’s the anticipation and overthinking around it

Your mind is trying to prepare you… but it goes too far.

🎯 Try this today:
👉 Focus on the next small step, not the whole event
👉 Slow your breathing (in for 4, out for 6)
👉 Remind yourself: “I’ve handled things like this before”

You don’t need to feel 100% confident…
You just need to take the next step

🤝 Your turn:
What’s coming up for you this week?
Or where do you feel the overthinking kicking in?

Drop it below 👇

You’re not doing this alone 💙

Does your anxiety stop you from getting help for your anxiety?Stress and anxiety don’t just affect your thoughts. They c...
13/04/2026

Does your anxiety stop you from getting help for your anxiety?

Stress and anxiety don’t just affect your thoughts. They can disturb your sleep, affect your digestion, lower your immune system, and impact your relationships and confidence.

…..You’re not broken. You’re overwhelmed…. You’re burnt out….
and that can be changed.

As an award-winning hypnotherapist and mind coach, I see how stress and anxiety affects people in different ways.

I also see people recover, shift and change.

Whether you’re a busy parent, a high-achiever feeling stretched too thin, or simply someone who can’t remember the last time they felt truly calm, I’m here to support you.

Message me to take that first step together.

Do you lie awake, mind racing and just cannot get to sleep?Is your racing mind stopping you from getting a relaxing nigh...
06/04/2026

Do you lie awake, mind racing and just cannot get to sleep?

Is your racing mind stopping you from getting a relaxing night’s sleep?

Stress awareness month is here to calm those anxiety based "What If?" questions.

Break the loop between stress, worry about bedtime and even fear of sleep.

Message or comment “STRESS” for the details of something new, quick and fun to help!

When working with the mind I sometimes encounter one last barrier to completing the task….Change Is Scary! The mind can ...
02/04/2026

When working with the mind I sometimes encounter one last barrier to completing the task….Change Is Scary! The mind can find it a little scary and hold back for a moment. To resolve this I always say the same thing….Change IS Scary, but never changing is terrifying.

This is the same with new clients when beginning to reach out for help and support. I gently remind them that a comfort zone keeps us safe, secure and … comfortable. Therefore by definition, out of that is….uncomfortable.

One thing is for sure though…..we have been there before. When we changed jobs, took a driving test, rode a bike, the first filing or tooth out. When it passed we had new experiences, new strength and new knowledge. The comfort zone had expanded and change was made.

If your zone is in need of expanding, give me a call and we will prove that change can also be exciting.

Every anxiety challenge you have faced has eventually reached a stage where you are now telling others how you overcame ...
30/03/2026

Every anxiety challenge you have faced has eventually reached a stage where you are now telling others how you overcame it.

Every one of your stories in some way has had some degree of workable ending...because you are still here!!

This doesn’t mean everything will work out for the best...we all have examples of when things haven’t worked out the way we wanted...but everything worked out in some way.

You might not know how to solve the next one, but you know you most likely will. Then you will be telling people about that solution and how you once again achieved some kind of an ending to this story.

If you are not at the end and it is not ok, give me a call and we will tell the ending of this story together!

A Friday message to live by!Another week survived, maybe thrived, definitely done as we head into the weekend.Shorter we...
27/03/2026

A Friday message to live by!

Another week survived, maybe thrived, definitely done as we head into the weekend.
Shorter week next week, 4 day weekend for some, choc for others....

"If you think you can, or think you can't, you're right" ...... so follow the ape and DO IT!! 😂💪

Drop a comment "Banana, Banana!" if you agree!

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Lordswood Osteopathic CLinic
Chatham
ME58YE

Opening Hours

Monday 9:30am - 10pm
Tuesday 9:30am - 10pm
Wednesday 9:30am - 10pm
Thursday 9:30am - 10pm
Friday 9:30am - 10pm
Saturday 10am - 10pm
Sunday 10am - 10pm

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