CHICS-Coach House Inspired Counselling Services. Life Coaching & Hypnosis

02/08/2025

A client asked me ‘what will I do to cure them’this week.

My reply, i will teach you some coping strategies to regulate you sympathetic nervous system. Then as we explore what happened to you. Your’ll be able to use them to stay in a calm relaxed state.

Counselling is like exercising. It’s uncomfortable to start with. But once you get the hang of it, it gets easier.

Clients just need the right tools to start them off.

23/07/2025

I I had a wonderful, long overdue holiday, but I was so excited to get home last night.

When I was in Calais I was concerned about people jumping onboard, having heard so many horror stories. But realised that whilst this can happen and we need to be mindful. Our brains have a way of blowing it out of all proportion. Leading to fear and over thinking.

Just to be clear, I never saw a soul hanging around ports or shore lines, anywhere. The News can be so Fear provoking. The anxiety it evokes is awful at times.

My Coach called it the bad News. Which I think it really is. The less of it I see the better.

Anyway, home now and ready to start sessions again. All fresh and rested.

🤩

22/07/2025

22/7/25- Dunkirk and Calais L’shuttle.

We enjoyed a cooked breakfast and buffet in Dunkirk before looking round the museum about operation Dynamo.

A joint effort by The allied forces to rescue 340’000 troops from Dunkirk beach.

It was great to see all nations working together to help each other.

This included ‘the forgotten Hero’s’ who were the Indian army and their Mules. Pictures below. Which I had no idea were even involved in world war 2. Until today.

The off to L’Shuttle in Calais while we wait for our train home.

It’s been a fantastic 2 weeks. I loved it and can’t wait for the next one. 😁

22/07/2025

22/07/2025

21st and 22nd July 25- Brugge day trip and meal out in Dunkerk.

We travelled for so long we end up back near Calais 2 days early. So a nifty trip to Bruges and a night in Dunkerk were a great way to soak up the time before our train home tonight.

21/07/2025

20/7/25 - world war 1 and 2 war graves. Abberville France.

I felt very grateful to these fallen hero’s. If it wasn’t for these people, we may not have the life and freedom we do.

So I just wanted to visit their resting place and remind myself of the sacrifice they made.

🌹

20/07/2025

If only 🙏💞

20/07/2025

Pondering Attention Seeking or Attention Needing behaviour.

Working with Children and Adults who appear to need all attention on them has led me to deepen my understanding of what creates this scenario.

The obvious go to was how they were or are parented. Did they have enough love/ understanding as children🤔 , was the parent consistent or maybe gave too much attention and now they can’t share🤔

I thought through family breakdowns/ ACE’s/ Trauma. All of which plays a part.

One thing that stays firmly fixed in my
thinking, ‘is it attention they seek or are they in a survival state’, not knowing how to be calm and fearing being alone, not knowing how to take care of their own needs. It’s way more complex than just annoying behaviour.

My understanding so far, leads me to Histrionic Personality Disorder/ Emotionally Unstable PD developed due to ongoing and persistent neglect Abuse or Traumas.

Where the person will behave in ways that get the attention on them good or bad. Even self-harming when none of this works, they will up the anti and go to the next level. And so on.

It’s become a focus of mine and I’m hoping to understand more as I read, listen and reflect. Any little pointers, from my Professional Mental Health Friends or Followers, Feel free to share knowledge or good resources (podcasts/books/ training etc)in the comments below.

20/07/2025

Heading back towards Calais 19th and 20th July 25. Ready to return to uk Tuesday.

450 miles yesterday felt like an eternity from Chamonix to Champagne.
And today another 150 as we head up to Abberville in France to visit the war memorial and Graves. In the rain 😓 but at least it’s a comfie temperature. We ll get our rain mac and wellies on🤗

19/07/2025

Please support our team as they face their fears and jump from a plane 12,000 feet above ground, free falling at up to 125mph!. They are hoping to raise vital funds to purchase equipment that will enhance our veterinary care at the hospital.

19/07/2025

Mont Blanc 18th and 19th July- we left Lake Garda at 8am and arrived back in Chamonix at around 3pm yesterday. Determined to ride the cable car to the Summit of Mont Blanc.

Trying to book, we were told the weather in the morning may not permit us to go on it.

By good fortune the sky looked clear when we got up at 5am so off we went.

It was amazing. We loved it. So worth the drive back here and the 81e. I was thinking next time I may take a little walk around the glacier. Which looked terrifying.

We could see people camped out in tents and some climbers were abseiling.

All in all a great experience.

18/07/2025

This little duck was having a lovely time on the surf today. He spent ages going out and coming back in on the surf. Bless him