30/03/2026
If your mind is going round and round in circles - read this!
Mind churning - when something happens that doesn’t feel good and we start dissecting it again and again, explaining to ourselves, others, and giving ourself a label.
-I’m not good enough
-I’m overwhelmed
-I don’t ever stick at stuff
-I’m embarrassing
Because when we give ourselves a label, that one moment or slip up becomes an identity in our minds.
The more we label and go over the incident, the more our brain believes it’s true, and the more we see ourselves as the label, Not because of the moment, or the feeling, but because we’ve rehearsed it so much the label has stuck.
The moment was temporary, but we made it feel permanent by explaining, reinforcing, and re-living it
Instead:
If we give the moment some space and time it will probably just disappear.
-Acknowledge the feeling
-Observe it without making it part of our identity (e.g. I’m feeling embarrassed not I’m embarrassing)
-Keep it small by not giving it a negative meaning (e.g. Everyone will be laughing behind my back)
-Take a long slow exhale to reset our physiology out of fight and flight
-Explore what’s really true and decide whether to take action or let it go
-Take a small positive step forwards into the next moment
That’s us displaying leadership in our own lives - living the next moment with purpose. Understand the past, learn from it, but don’t get stuck there.
Moments are things we move through not something we become...
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