Chelmsford Counselling and Hypnotherapy

04/04/2022

As April is I thought I would share with you this helpful planner from to bring some self care into your life.

I always find it strange when working with clients that they can find time to do all the jobs around the house but can never find enough time to do things for themselves like taking time out to do some mindfulness mediation or have time for a pamper evening.

Taking care of your mental health is just as important as your physical health but is something that a lot of people don’t consider. Is it because they put others before themselves, or maybe they don’t value the benefits that self care bring? Whatever the reason they are putting themselves at risk.

So for this month, just give it a try, even if you can’t do the whole month, pick a few suggestions from the planner above and give them a go. I’d love to hear which ones you’re going to try and how you get on.

17/12/2021

I saw this on a friend’s page and wanted to share this with you.

You never know what other people are going through, especially at this time of year. Please take the time to be kind, patient and understanding, it might just be the thing that helps someone get through the day.

Courtesy of and

10/10/2021

What a fantastic weekend supporting Mates - Mens Mental Health Awareness Croup on what is

If you or someone you know is suffering with mental health, please seek help. It’s not a failure or being weak, it’s a strong, powerful thing to do. You are not alone.

If you’re a man check out

23/09/2021

If you or someone you know is in a bad place, perhaps feeling suicidal, please seek help. By just talking to another person, be it a friend, a support group like the Samaritans or a trained counsellor, you can get the help you need. Sometimes when you’re in a dark place, you can’t see a way out, but talking about your problems with a third party can shed some light on it and hopefully find a solution. As they say “a problem shared is a problem halved”

I offer counselling and hypnotherapy sessions, either face to face or via zoom/FaceTime.

DM me for details.

23/08/2021

Thanks to and for sharing this fun Venn diagram.

If you are in need of assistance, please contact a therapist like myself. I can assure you, I’m much less annoying then a 4 year old or The Backstreet Boys when it comes to helping you find the answers.

27/07/2021

Don’t feel that you have to stay in a toxic relationship with someone just to make them feel happy. Your feelings and emotions count too!

Make time for the people who make you happy and feed your soul!

Sometimes it’s hard to stay no or stand up for yourself, so you are continually taken advantage of.

If this is you, or someone you know, let me know. I offer counselling and hypnotherapy sessions which help with self esteem, confidence building and the art of saying NO!

08/07/2021

Please share this. If you are in a domestic violence situation, please get help….

Not everyone is looking forward to the match tonight...
Instances of domestic abuse increase 26% when England play and 38% if they lose.

26/06/2021

DEPRESSION TIPS:

Shower. Not a bath, a shower. Use water as hot or cold as you like. You don’t even need to wash. Just get in under the water and let it run over you for a while. Sit on the floor if you gotta.

Moisturize everything. Use whatever lotion you like. Unscented? Poundland lotion? Fancy 48 hour lotion that makes you smell like a field of wildflowers? Use whatever you want, and use it all over your entire dermis.

Put on clean, comfortable clothes.

Put on your favorite underwear. Cute black lacy panties? Those ridiculous boxers you bought last christmas with pink love hearts on the butt? Put them on.

Drink cold water. Use ice. If you want, add some mint or lemon for an extra boost.

Clean something. Doesn’t have to be anything big. Organize one drawer of a desk. Wash five dirty dishes. Do a load of laundry. Scrub the bathroom sink.

Blast music. Listen to something upbeat and dancey and loud, something that’s got lots of energy. Sing to it, dance to it, even if you suck at both.

Make food. Don’t just grab a Kit Kat bar to munch. Take the time and make food. Even if it’s beans on toast. Add something special to it, like a soft boiled egg or some veggies. Prepare food, it tastes way better, and you’ll feel like you accomplished something.

Make something. Write a short story or a poem, draw a picture, color a picture, fold origami, crochet or knit, sculpt something out of clay, anything artistic. Even if you don’t think you’re good at it. Create.

Go outside. Take a walk. Sit in the grass. Look at the clouds. Smell flowers. Put your hands in the dirt and feel the soil against your skin.

Call someone. Call a loved one, a friend, a family member, call a chat service if you have no one else to call. Talk to a stranger on the street. Have a conversation and listen to someone’s voice. If you can’t bring yourself to call, text or email or whatever, just have some social interaction with another person. Even if you don’t say much, listen to them. It helps.

Cuddle your pets if you have them/can cuddle them. Take pictures of them. Talk to them. Tell them how you feel, about your favorite movie, a new game coming out, anything.

May seem small or silly to some, but this list keeps people alive.

*** At your absolute best you won’t be good enough for the wrong people. But at your worst, you’ll still be worth it to the right ones. Remember that. Keep holding on.

*** In case nobody has told you today I love you and you are worth your weight and then some in gold, so be kind to yourself and most of all keep pushing on!!!!

Find something to be grateful for!

May I please get 2 friends or family members to copy and re-post? I am trying to demonstrate that someone is always listening.




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**copied and pasted, feel free to do the same**

16/06/2021

So true, it doesn’t hurt to be kind.

Thanks to We Love Winnie the Pooh for sharing.

11/06/2021

ANTHONY HOPKINS - Powerful words.

′′Let go the people who are not prepared to love you. This is the hardest thing you will have to do in your life and it will also be the most important thing. Stop having hard conversations with people who don't want change.

Stop showing up for people who have no interest in your presence. I know your instinct is to do everything to earn the appreciation of those around you, but it's a boost that steals your time, energy, mental and physical health.

When you begin to fight for a life with joy, interest and commitment, not everyone will be ready to follow you in this place. This doesn't mean you need to change what you are, it means you should let go of the people who aren't ready to accompany you.

If you are excluded, insulted, forgotten or ignored by the people you give your time to, you don't do yourself a favor by continuing to offer your energy and your life. The truth is that you are not for everyone and not everyone is for you.

That's what makes it so special when you meet people who reciprocate love. You will know how precious you are.

The more time you spend trying to make yourself loved by someone who is unable to, the more time you waste depriving yourself of the possibility of this connection to someone else.

There are billions of people on this planet and many of them will meet with you at your level of interest and commitment.

The more you stay involved with people who use you as a pillow, a background option or a therapist for emotional healing, the longer you stay away from the community you want.

Maybe if you stop showing up, you won't be wanted. Maybe if you stop trying, the relationship will end. Maybe if you stop texting your phone will stay dark for weeks. That doesn't mean you ruined the relationship, it means the only thing holding it back was the energy that only you gave to keep it. This is not love, it's attachment. It's wanting to give a chance to those who don't deserve it. You deserve so much, there are people who should not be in your life.

The most valuable thing you have in your life is your time and energy, and both are limited. When you give your time and energy, it will define your existence.

When you realize this, you begin to understand why you are so anxious when you spend time with people, in activities, places or situations that don't suit you and shouldn't be around you, your energy is stolen.

You will begin to realize that the most important thing you can do for yourself and for everyone around you is to protect your energy more fiercely than anything else. Make your life a safe haven, in which only ′′compatible′′ people are allowed.

You are not responsible for saving anyone. You are not responsible for convincing them to improve. It's not your work to exist for people and give your life to them! If you feel bad, if you feel compelled, you will be the root of all your problems, fearing that they will not return the favours you have granted. It's your only obligation to realize that you are the love of your destiny and accept the love you deserve.

Decide that you deserve true friendship, commitment, true and complete love with healthy and prosperous people. Then wait and see how much everything begins to change. Don't waste time with people who are not worth it. Change will give you the love, the esteem, happiness and the protection you deserve."

Anthony Hopkins

If you or anyone you know needs to talk, contact me here or via my website www.chelmsford.counselling.com

24/05/2021

Very true. If something is troubling you, no matter how small, consider counselling. As the old saying goes “a problem shared is a problem halved”.

10/05/2021

It’s Mental Health Awareness Week, a week which is supposed to focus our minds on the vast spectrum of mental health issues, but do we really know what to look for.

It is sometimes quite difficult to spot a friend, relative or colleague who is suffering with mental health problems until it is too late.

Just last week I heard that a friend of a friend, who my husband and I had met a few times had killed himself. There was no apparent reason - he was young, fit, happily married, he had children and a good job, there was no money troubles and he had a nice home.

So what drove this seemingly happy and solvent individual to su***de? His family and his friends may never know.

The late, great Robin Williams put it so succinctly when he said ....”All it takes is a beautiful fake smile to hide an injured soul and they will never notice how broken you are.”

Unless someone tells you how they are feeling, how broken they are, we may never know and cannot help. By reaching out and sharing how you are feeling it can be the lifeline that helps you out of the dark pit of depression and despair.

You may think it won’t help, but just sharing how you feel, talking through your problems with someone, can be just what you need. What’s the worst that can happen if you talk to someone? What’s the worst that can happen if you don’t?

As they say “a problem shared is a problem halved”.

If you or anyone you know is suffering with any mental health issue, please reach out and seek help, be it to a friend, family member, the Samaritans, mental health practitioners or your GP. Don’t suffer in silence.

I offer counselling and hypnotherapy sessions at a reduced rate and even for free if necessary.

01/05/2021

Quote of the day - always remember that you could be the people who makes the difference in someone else’s life💕

19/03/2021

What a good idea - anyone getting married, why not try this. Also a good idea for those who've been married awhile.
For any help with your relationship, I offer couples counselling. Don’t get angry, go to counselling! 💕
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17/02/2021

The happiest people are the givers, not the takers. Positive thoughts, emotions and deeds rather than negative, needy vibes, help boost endorphins and serotonin levels in our bodies. Do something nice for someone else today, even if it’s saying hello to a fellow shopper, commuter or co-worker, complimenting someone on their dress sense, or holding open a door. Trust me, it will make their day and yours.

14/02/2021

Happy Valentine’s Day even if you’re on your own, the post important love is self love and care. Here are
12 steps to self care - be kind to yourself, there’s only one you! 💕

14/02/2021

Happy Valentine’s Day everyone.
Cherish your partner - they are worth more than gold, silver or all the riches you may desire, because true love cannot be bought and is lost if you don't invest the time and effort.

How poetic and profound of me, I may have to go and lie down in a darkened room now and think about the above statement.

Sometimes it’s not all hearts and flowers in your love life and just like any partnership, it needs work go keep it functioning at its best. Communication is the key. If you have a gripe talk it out with each other.

For help with your relationship, why not book an online counselling session with me.

09/02/2021

I think the thing I’ve missed most during this pandemic is hugging. On the few occasions I have seen family members who are not in our household and/or friends, I have had an overwhelming urge to hug them, so tightly. I’m not sure if it’s because we have been apart for so long, or it’s because it’s forbidden/not allowed or maybe it’s just because it feel so good, but I feel we all need a hug right now because we’re all going through the worst time in our lives.

It’s amazing to think that something so simple as a HUG can bring so much pleasure and feelings of warmth. Try it today, if you can with those you live with, to boosts your mood, confidence and immune system. Feel the love 💕

For more help with confidence and self worth, book in for an online session of counselling or hypnotherapy. See my website for details
ChelmsfordHypnotherapist.com
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09/02/2021

Be kind to those who need your love, friendship and support

07/02/2021

For all the people who don’t believe in the power of the mind, watch this video.

The mind is such a powerful mechanism and can be tricked into believing something that isn’t true - like being told you’re not clever or bright, believing that you’re scared of spiders or heights, learning bad habits like overeating, smoking or nail biting.

However these things can be reversed with the aid of Hypnosis and counselling.

If you’re suffering from poor self-esteem, a lack of confidence, you want to lose weight, stop smoking, nail biting, hair pulling, or just feel good about yourself and lose your fears and phobias, get in touch with me. I offer Hypnotherapy at a special discounted rate - why? Because I want to help you be the person you were meant to be! Send me an email today. Lyn@chelmsfordhypnotherapist.com lyn@chelmsfordcounselling.com
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07/02/2021

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07/02/2021

I didn’t know that..... singing reduces stress?! But it does make sense. Music has the power to change our mood, lift our spirits and touch our souls. How often have you heard a song on the radio and it’s reminded you of a memory or an event. Try it today, put on your favourite tune and sing along, perhaps even dance, smile whilst you do it and feel those endorphins (our body’s own natural “happy hormone”) flow through your body, making you feel happier and less stressed.

If you’re suffering with stress or anxiety, and it’s becoming a real problem, why not contact me to talk through what is at the root of the problem. I offer daytime, evening or weekend sessions via FaceTime or zoom (whilst we are in lockdown).

See my websites for details
ChelmsfordHypnotherapist.com
ChelmsfordCounselling.com
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