Recovery Trauma Ltd

20/12/2025

Your nervous system is always trying to protect you —
even when it looks like “overreacting.”

We survive through 4 trauma response modes:
🔥 Fight
💨 Flight
🥶 Freeze
🫶 Fawn

None of these mean you’re dramatic or broken —
they’re survival strategies your body learned during unsafe moments.

Here’s the truth 👇
Sometimes you’re angry for no reason (fight).
Sometimes you run from everything (flight).
Sometimes you feel numb + stuck (freeze).
Sometimes you please people to avoid conflict (fawn).

Every mode has a story.
Every mode has a purpose.
Every mode deserves compassion.

💛 I want to know…
👉 Which trauma response mode are you in TODAY?

🔥 Fight — snappy, reactive, angry?
💨 Flight — overwhelmed + can’t sit still?
🥶 Freeze — numb, blank, shut down?
🫶 Fawn — saying “yes” when you mean “no”?

Comment your mode below —
there’s no shame here, only understanding. 💬👇

20/12/2025

🎄❤️ Christmas isn’t joyful for everyone — and that’s okay.

For so many people, the holidays can feel overwhelming, lonely, triggering, and emotionally exhausting. If you’re someone who is:

🎅 Feeling alone this Christmas,
💰 Struggling financially,
🕯️ Missing a loved one who passed away,
💼 Working through the holidays,
🌲 Spending Christmas with a toxic or unsafe family dynamic,
🧠 Battling your mental health and trying to keep going…

✨ I see you. I honour you. You are not alone. ✨

Christmas can amplify childhood wounds, trauma memories, grief, money stress, relationship pain, family pressure, or emotional abandonment. Many people carry silent battles behind closed doors — especially trauma survivors.

🌟 Your struggle does not make you weak.
🌟 It makes you human.
🌟 And healing is not linear.

If this season feels heavy:
🤍 Rest is allowed.
🤍 Boundaries are allowed.
🤍 Going low-contact or no-contact is allowed.
🤍 Not celebrating is allowed.
🤍 Choosing peace instead of people-pleasing is allowed.

At , we hold space for the parts of Christmas no one talks about — the trauma, the triggers, the grief, the loneliness, the shame, the family expectation, the burnout, and the inner child who still wishes things felt safer.

✨ You are valued.
✨ You are loved.
✨ You belong here.
✨ And your story matters.

If you relate to this post, save it, share it, or send it to someone who deserves to feel seen. ❤️‍🩹

👇 Comment below if Christmas feels different for you 🤍👇

20/12/2025

✨ A Professor Proved You Can Emotionally Detach From Someone in 15 Minutes ✨
(and it actually works)

Here are the 6 questions that shift your brain from emotion → logic 👇

Question 1:
What does this person actually do for me every day?
(Most people struggle to name even three things.)

Question 2:
If I met this person today, knowing everything I know now –
would I still choose them?
Most people’s answer: no.

Question 3:
How often have I changed myself or my boundaries for this person –
and how often have they done the same for me?
If love feels one-sided, it isn’t love.
It’s attachment.

Question 4:
What am I getting from this relationship that I could not
give myself, or receive through others?
Once your mind realises something is replaceable,
it stops holding on.

Question 5:
Who have I become beside this person – better or worse?
If the answer is “worse”, your brain begins to detach
to protect you.

Question 6:
If my best friend were in this relationship,
what would I tell her to do?
When logic speaks, emotion listens.

After answering these, wait 24 hours and read them again.
Your emotional chemistry resets.

Sometimes, the cure for attachment
is simply telling yourself the truth. 🤍

20/12/2025

Many traits people admire in you might not be personality… they might be trauma.

Hyper-independence.
Perfectionism.
Avoiding conflict.
Overthinking.
People-pleasing.

These patterns are not random — they were built in childhood to keep you safe.

When you grow up unsupported, you learn to do everything alone.
When love was conditional, you learn perfection protects you.
When conflict meant emotional danger, you learn silence is survival.

What looks like:
“strong,”
“selfless,”
or “calm”
might actually be wounds dressed up as strengths.

Healing isn’t about blaming your past —
it’s about understanding it.

Once you recognise these trauma responses, you can:
✨ build healthier boundaries,
✨ ask for support,
✨ feel your feelings safely,
✨ and learn that you do not have to earn love.

This is what recovery looks like:
rewriting who you are without trauma making the decisions. 💛

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20/12/2025

So many people think they’re experiencing “love”…
when they’re actually experiencing trauma patterns replaying themselves.

When love in childhood was unpredictable, conditional, or painful, the nervous system grows up believing:
chaos = chemistry,
anxiety = excitement,
caretaking = connection,
and self-abandonment = loyalty.

These “love behaviours” aren’t personality traits —
they are trauma responses that once protected you:
✨ fixing people to feel needed,
✨ chasing those who won’t choose you,
✨ forgiving instantly to avoid conflict,
✨ losing yourself to feel worthy,
✨ needing approval to feel safe.

None of this makes you weak.
It makes you human.

The truth is:
we don’t fall in love with what is healthy —
we fall in love with what is familiar
until we heal.

Awareness is the turning point.
Love becomes real when it stops hurting. 💜

19/12/2025

18/12/2025

PTSD isn’t “just in the mind.”
It affects the whole body, the nervous system, sleep, emotions, and sense of self.

People with PTSD often carry:
• Nightmares + flashbacks
• Racing thoughts + insomnia
• Self-blame + shame
• Hypervigilance + anxiety
• Feeling abandoned, unsafe, or disconnected
• Guilt for things that weren’t their fault

What you see in this image is what PTSD feels like internally —
a mix of overwhelm, fear, exhaustion, and memories that won’t stay in the past.

If you’re living with PTSD:
You’re not weak.
You’re not “overreacting.”
Your nervous system is stuck in survival mode, doing its best to protect you.

Healing is possible through trauma-informed therapy, nervous-system work, safe connection, and compassion for yourself.

You deserve peace, safety, and a future not shaped by trauma.
You’re not alone. ❤️

17/12/2025

🎄 Christmas Grounding Exercise for Men — Explained

This exercise uses simple physical sensations to bring your nervous system back into the present moment.

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☕ Hold Warm Mug

Feel the warmth in your hands.
Notice the weight of the mug.
Take a slow breath while holding it.

Why it helps:
Warmth signals safety and steadiness to the nervous system.

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❄️ Step Into Cold Air

Go outside or open a door/window briefly.
Feel the cold on your skin and notice your breath.

Why it helps:
Cold cuts through mental overload and brings instant alertness.

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👃 Smell Cinnamon

Smell cinnamon, spices, or something Christmas-related.
Take one slow inhale through your nose.

Why it helps:
Smell grounds you quickly because it connects directly to the emotional brain.

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💨 Feel Hot Air

Let warm air blow onto your hands or face.
Focus only on the sensation and pressure.

Why it helps:
Strong sensation helps with numbness, shutdown, or dissociation.

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📦 Lift Heavy Box

Hold or lift something heavy.
Feel your muscles engage and your feet on the floor.

Why it helps:
Weight and effort create stability and help release stored stress.

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🧊 Submerge Head in Ice Water

Briefly place your face or head into cold water with ice.
Return to normal breathing afterward.

Why it helps:
Cold water triggers a strong reset response and can stop spirals fast.

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🔑 Key Message

You don’t need to talk.
You don’t need to explain.

Use the body.
Presence comes from sensation, not thinking.

17/12/2025

Trauma doesn’t always look the way people expect.
Often, it lives quietly in the nervous system.

Here are common effects of trauma — and why they make sense:

👀 Hypervigilance
Your body stays on high alert, scanning for danger. You may feel easily startled or overwhelmed.

🫧 Dissociation
A protective response where you feel numb, spaced out, detached, or unreal.

🔥 Irritability or anger
Unprocessed fear and pain can surface as frustration, self-criticism, or anger toward others.

⏳ Persistent fear
A constant sense that something bad is about to happen, even when you’re safe.

🪞 Low self-worth
Trauma can distort self-image, leading to guilt, shame, or a harsh inner critic.

🌙 Sleep disturbances
Nightmares, vivid dreams, or intrusive memories that keep the nervous system alert.

🛑 Feeling unsafe
Especially during rest or stillness, when the body no longer has distractions.

If this resonates, nothing is “wrong” with you.
Your nervous system learned to survive.

Healing is possible. 🤍

15/12/2025

What is a trigger?

A trigger is not an overreaction.
It is the nervous system responding to something that once felt unsafe.

Triggers happen when the body detects a familiar pattern — a tone of voice, a look, a situation, a loss of control — and reacts before the rational mind has time to evaluate whether danger is present now.

That’s because trauma is not stored as a story.
It is stored as sensation, emotion, and survival response.

What a trigger can feel like

A trigger may show up as:
• sudden anxiety or panic
• emotional flooding or shutdown
• dissociation or numbness
• hypervigilance
• physical sensations like tightness, nausea, pressure, or pain
• an intense urge to escape, freeze, or protect oneself

These reactions are not character flaws.
They are adaptive responses that once helped the body survive.

Why triggers exist

The nervous system’s job is safety, not logic.
If something resembles a past threat, the body reacts as if the threat is happening again — even if the person consciously knows they are safe.

This is why people often say: “I know I’m okay, but my body doesn’t.”

What trauma healing actually means

Trauma healing is not about eliminating triggers or forcing calm.
It is about building safety in the present so the nervous system no longer has to stay on high alert.

Healing involves:
• recognizing and naming triggers without judgment
• orienting the body to the present moment
• restoring a sense of choice, boundaries, and agency
• gently widening the body’s capacity to stay regulated

Over time, the body learns a new truth:
This is now. I am safe enough. I have options.

An important reminder

Triggers do not mean you are broken or failing at healing.
They mean your nervous system learned something very well — and is now learning something new.

Healing is not linear.
It is relational, somatic, and deeply human.