Samantha Lapping Therapist

10/01/2026

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09/01/2026

I often think about how many adults feel like they are still navigating childhood rules they never agreed to.

Rules like:
• keep the peace, even if it costs you
• do not need too much or ask for help
• stay small so others do not feel uncomfortable
• be useful, not emotional
• love has to be earned
• if something feels wrong, it must be your fault

These scripts are not conscious choices. They are survival strategies learned early on, when safety depended on adapting rather than being authentic.

That is why relational work matters. We are not just talking about feelings, we are noticing and dismantling the old rules that have been quietly shaping relationships, self worth, and boundaries for years.

Samanthalappingtherapist@gmail.com

07/01/2026

A lot of people blame themselves for choosing the wrong partners, but the issue usually runs deeper than “bad judgement”. What you are drawn to is often shaped by the emotional environment you grew up in, not by what is actually good for you.

If unpredictability, emotional distance, or having to work for attention was normal early on, your nervous system learned to associate those states with connection. Familiar does not feel good, but it does feel known. Safe, by contrast, can feel flat, uncomfortable, or even suspicious because it does not match what your body learned to expect.

This is why healthy relationships can initially feel boring, awkward, or hard to trust, while emotionally unavailable or chaotic dynamics create intensity. That intensity is not chemistry, it is your nervous system recognising a pattern it knows how to survive in.

Therapy helps you slow this process down. Instead of asking “why do I keep choosing this?”, the work becomes “what does my system recognise as normal?”. Once that awareness is there, you can begin to make choices based on safety, consistency, and self respect rather than familiarity.

Choosing differently is not about willpower. It is about retraining what your body understands as connection.

Contact me: samanthalappingtherapist@gmail.com

06/01/2026

Hello, I’m Samantha let me introduce myself….

05/01/2026

If therapy has been on your “I’ll do it this year” list for about three years now, let’s talk.

The new year has a way of shining a light on what we’ve been avoiding. Old patterns. Same relationship stuff. That feeling of being stuck but not knowing why.

I’m back after the break and have a small number of spaces available.

Starting doesn’t mean you’re failing. It means you’re paying attention.

Email me: samanthalappingtherapist@gmail.com

01/01/2026

New year. Same you. And that’s not a problem.

January has a habit of shouting at us.
New goals. New habits. New personality by Monday.

But therapy isn’t about reinventing yourself because the calendar flipped.
It’s about understanding why you do what you do.
The patterns. The triggers. The bits you learned early on and are still carrying now.

If last year was about surviving, fair enough.
If it was about repeating the same dynamics again and again, also fair enough.

This year doesn’t need pressure.
It needs curiosity.
And honesty.

You don’t have to become someone new to feel better.
You just need space to make sense of what’s already there.

If 2026 is the year you want to work on how you relate to others and yourself, I’m here.

Happy New Year.

Samanthalappingtherapist@gmail.com

29/12/2025

You’re not fully resting.
You’re not fully back in life.
And suddenly your brain starts time-travelling.

Back to the school run.
Back to work.
Back to routines you were desperate for a break from.

And on top of that comes the quiet pressure whispering:
“This year has to be different.”
“I can’t repeat the same patterns.”
“I need to get it right this time.”

It’s exhausting.

This space often stirs up anxiety, guilt, and a strange sense of urgency. As if you’re meant to emerge on January 1st as a more sorted, healed, motivated version of yourself.

Truth?
Nothing magical happens at midnight.

You don’t have to have clarity.
You don’t have to feel ready.
You don’t have to fix your life in a week.

If this time of year brings up dread, self-criticism, or that familiar knot in your stomach, it’s not because you’re failing. It’s because transitions stir stuff. Especially if you’ve spent years surviving rather than choosing.

Maybe this year isn’t about doing everything differently.
Maybe it’s about noticing your patterns with a bit more honesty and a lot less shame.

That’s often where real change actually starts.

If this limbo feels heavy, you’re not alone. And you don’t have to carry it quietly.

Please email me: samanthalappingtherapist@gmail.com

23/12/2025

19/12/2025

If you’re struggling right now, please don’t carry it alone.

Sometimes things build quietly. Sometimes they crash in all at once. Either way, support is there and you deserve to use it.

If you’re in immediate danger or feel unsafe, contact emergency services or one of the helplines listed here. They are there to listen, not judge.

If things feel heavy but not urgent, and you’re thinking about therapy, you’re welcome to get in touch.

I offer a calm, confidential space to explore what’s going on beneath the surface, at your pace.

Email: samanthalappingtherapist@gmail.com

Reaching out is not a weakness. It’s often the first act of self-respect.

My sessions will resume on January the 5th. I hope everyone has a nice Christmas 🎄✨

16/12/2025

Saying goodbye to a client at the end of our work together…

There are emotions, kind words, and a reminders of why this job matters so much.

Not because therapy fixes people.
But because when someone feels safe enough to look at their patterns, their relationships, and themselves honestly, real change can happen.

Watching a client grow in confidence, relate differently, and trust themselves more is a privilege I never take lightly.

Endings in therapy can be emotional. They also matter.
They show that something has shifted.
That the work has done what it needed to do.

Grateful for the people who trust me with their stories.
And so proud of the work we do together ✨

15/12/2025

Christmas is fast approaching.
Which usually means more time with family, more expectations, and old patterns creeping back in.

If you often end up feeling drained, guilty, or snapping at people by the end of it, this is your reminder to get some boundaries in place now, not once you’re already overwhelmed.

Boundaries aren’t about being harsh or selfish. They’re about protecting your energy, your mental health, and your peace.

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• say no without the guilt spiral
• stop over-explaining yourself
• handle tricky conversations with more confidence

Grab it now and give yourself a better Christmas.

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12/12/2025