Samantha Lapping Therapist

15/04/2026

ADHD and emotional dysregulation.

13/04/2026

ADHD check… what do you struggle with most?

Then:
1. Focus
2. Forgetting things
3. Overwhelm
4. Starting tasks
5. Emotional dysregulation

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09/04/2026

These myths don't just stay as ideas, they shape how you see yourself.
They turn into self-doubt, shame, and a constant feeling of "why can't | just get it together?"

This is the work I do…
Helping you understand what's actually going on, so you can stop fighting yourself and start working with your brain instead.
Because most of the time...
You're not the problem.
The understanding you've been given is.

08/04/2026

“You’re too much.”

Too loud.
Too emotional.
Too sensitive.
Too intense.

If you’ve got ADHD, there’s a good chance you heard this growing up.
Directly… or indirectly.
And over time, it doesn’t just stay as something other people say.
It becomes something you believe.

So you start to:
• tone yourself down
• second guess what you say
• hold back your reactions
• apologise for things that don’t actually need apologising

Or you go the other way…

You stay big, expressive, full of energy
but carry this underlying feeling that it’s “wrong”.

Either way, there’s a cost.
Because what gets labelled as “too much” is often:
• emotional intensity
• quick thinking
• passion
• spontaneity
• a nervous system that feels things deeply and fast

And for people who don’t understand it…
It can feel overwhelming.
Not because there’s something wrong with you, but because they don’t have the capacity or awareness to meet you there.

So you adapt.

You shrink.
Or you mask.
Or you push people away before they get the chance to reject you.

That’s the bit most people don’t see.
The impact runs deep.

It can look like:
• people pleasing
• fear of being rejected
• overthinking every interaction
• struggling to feel “acceptable” in relationships
• swinging between “too much” and “not enough”

And underneath it all…
There’s often shame.
Not just about what you do.
But about who you are.

✨This is where therapy comes in✨

Not to “tone you down”.

But to help you understand:
• where that belief started
• how it’s shaped your relationships
• why your nervous system reacts the way it does

And to start separating:
what’s actually you
from what you were made to feel about yourself

It’s also about learning:
• how to regulate without suppressing
• how to communicate without over-apologising
• how to stay present instead of shutting down or overreacting

And after that work?
Things start to shift.
You don’t feel the need to shrink yourself as much.
You stop over-analysing every interaction.
You choose people who can actually meet you.
You still feel deeply.
You’re still expressive.
You’re still you.
But without the constant voice telling you it’s “too much”.

Because the truth is…
You were never too much.
You were just in spaces that didn’t know what to do with you.
And that’s exactly the kind of work I do with clients. If this resonates then please reach out, my email is samanthalappingtherapist@gmail.com

07/04/2026

ADHD was already a lot… then perimenopause entered the chat.

06/04/2026

I took a 10 day break from social media… and it reminded me of something I talk about a lot in sessions….How disconnected we can become from ourselves without even realising.

When we’re constantly distracted, scrolling, comparing, consuming… we lose touch with what we actually feel.

Over the last 10 days I felt more grounded,
more present, more connected to my family… and to myself.

Less noise = more clarity.

It’s not about never using social media.
It’s about noticing how it impacts you.
Does it leave you feeling calm… or a bit “not enough”?

Sometimes the most powerful thing you can do for your mental health is step back and give yourself some space.

You don’t need to escape your life,
you might just need to come back to it.

26/03/2026

I’m going to be taking a break from social media for just over a week.
I want to be more intentional about how I show up.

When your work is about connection, it’s easy to stay switched on, always thinking, always sharing, always present.

So I’m taking a step back (only for 10 days)

Creating a bit more space.
A bit less noise.
A chance to slow things down.

This is something I talk about a lot in therapy too. We don’t always need to push harder or do more.
Sometimes the work is in pausing.

I do have some availability so please contact me to ask any questions about starting therapy and il get back to you as soon as I can. My email is: samanthalappingtherapist@gmail.com

25/03/2026

Are you tired of hearing this??

You’re not lazy.
But I know you’ve been told that.

You start things and don’t finish them.
You feel motivated one minute, gone the next.
Simple tasks feel weirdly heavy.

So you tell yourself:
“I just need to try harder.”

But here’s the truth…

You’re not struggling with effort.
You’re struggling with regulation.

Focus. Energy. Motivation. Emotions.
They don’t stay steady for you.

And when you don’t understand that, it turns into:
• guilt
• shame
• beating yourself up for things you can’t “fix” with willpower

This is the work I do.

Helping you understand your brain, not fight it.
Because when you stop calling yourself lazy…

Everything starts to make a lot more sense.
Samanthalappingtherapist@gmail.com

23/03/2026

19/03/2026

Things we are told as children that may affect us when we are adults…

17/03/2026

Neurodiversity Week, and honestly, this is something I see all the time in my work.

So many people walk into therapy believing there’s something wrong with them.

They’ll say things like
“I’m too sensitive”
“I can’t cope like other people”
“I just feel a bit… different”

And somewhere along the way, that’s been turned into shame.

But a lot of the time, we’re not looking at something that needs fixing.

We’re looking at someone who’s been trying to fit into a world that wasn’t built for their brain.

ADHD isn’t laziness.
Autism isn’t a lack of care.
Dyslexia isn’t a lack of ability.

But when you grow up feeling misunderstood, you start to internalise it. You start masking, people pleasing, overthinking everything. You try to become someone who fits.

That’s exhausting.

And it’s usually where the anxiety, low mood, and self-doubt start creeping in.

Therapy isn’t about “fixing” that.

It’s about understanding yourself properly for maybe the first time. Making sense of how your brain works, how you feel, and why.

Because when that clicks, the shame starts to loosen.

And you can stop fighting yourself all the time.

If you’ve always felt a bit out of step with the world, there’s usually a reason for that.

And it’s worth understanding.

Please contact me to start your journey.

16/03/2026

Before I became a therapist in private practice, I worked in addiction services.

Every day I sat with people who were trying to rebuild their lives from the ground up. I saw courage, relapse, honesty, denial, grief and hope, sometimes all in the same conversation.

That work taught me something I still hold onto now. People don’t struggle because they’re weak. They struggle because life has shaped them in ways they’re often still trying to understand.

Now in my private practice, the work looks different, but the heart of it is the same. Sitting with people while they make sense of themselves, their relationships, and the patterns that keep repeating.

It’s still the most meaningful work I know.