Zoe’s Story
Growing up as a child in Colchester Essex I had a fantastic time, I was happy and confident until some traumatic events in my life changed me. My brother had a very serious accident when I was ten years old, he was hospitalized for a year and I felt like the blanket of security, I had had previously taken for granted, had been taken away from me, watching my parents nurse my brother and seeing my brother in such a very vulnerable position was terrifying and worrying and understandably I was not coping very well. My brother recovered albeit still with life changing injuries.
Fast forward to 1990, I was aged thirteen it was the time of the recession, my fathers business was hit badly and owing thousands of pounds to the banks. Hiding his feelings so well due to his earlier acting career, my father unbeknownst to anybody was experiencing manic depression, and in the May of 1990 he committed su***de leaving me with a huge array of emotions. Along with the brutality of grief, I also felt anger that I had been abandoned – that he had chosen to leave me, lack of self esteem at the overwhelming feeling that had I been “good enough” he would never have chosen to leave me and the fear that something else was going to happen at anytime, that I couldn’t rely on anything or anybody, that the fragility of life was always omnipresent, I could not focus on the present I was frozen in this limbo never planning anything for my future as everything was so breakable nothing guaranteed. I went from a confident, positive child with an exciting future ahead to a sad child with a distinct dislike of myself without the ability to plan and look forward to a future. As I got older my self esteem and lack thereof meant that I would never finish things, my love of art and a keen interest in my career meant that I was finally being told that I was good at something, however that never really rang true to me, it was only years later that through a chance class of yoga and a taster session of meditation I finally felt at peace, neither worrying about my future or thinking of my past just being purely in the moment, using my breath which is always there to calm myself, the confidence that I had lacked had started to build so much so that after shortly being diagnosed with type 1 diabetes I had the confidence to go backpacking across the world with my insulin in a thermos flask!
In 2009 I had the absolute pleasure of becoming a mum for the first time and with birth of my daughter I experienced all the joy and intrepidation of being a new mum, I knew from first hand experience that you cannot control what happens to you in life but you can control how you deal with these experiences. I wanted to give my daughter the ability to be able to meditate and learn mindfulness so she can have a tool kit for her emotions that she could tap into as and when she needs to. And so this inspired me to take the opportunity to learn more about mindfulness and meditation specifically for children, which ended up with me training as a Contented Kids Mindfulness coach, and now I have the pleasure of teaching not just my own children these techniques but others as well. I love seeing the help and peace that learning these techniqques can give children.