Rainbow Counselling

22/02/2026

In relationships, it’s rarely the surface argument that’s the real issue.
Often underneath we find:
– a fear of not being important
– a fear of being rejected
– a fear of not being heard
When couples begin to recognise the vulnerable feelings beneath the reactions, something powerful happens — they start to turn towards each other rather than against each other.
That’s where change begins. 🌱
I offer couples therapy in North Wales and online.

31/01/2026

Why do couples keep having the same argument, even when they love each other?
Often, it isn’t about the surface issue at all.
One partner may feel overwhelmed and shut down.
The other may feel unheard and pursue harder.
The more this happens, the more distressed and disconnected both people feel.
Relationship ruptures can feel painful, anxious, heavy, tight, exhausting, because past experiences don’t stay in the past. They quietly shape how safe, seen, or threatened we feel with the person closest to us.
Trauma doesn’t just live inside individuals, it shows up between people.
I work in depth with couples and relationships, helping partners slow things down, understand what’s really happening beneath the conflict, and find ways to repair disconnection rather than repeat it.
If any of this resonates, you’re not “doing relationships wrong” , something important is asking for attention.
You can find more information about my couples and relationship work on my website:

25/01/2026

Trauma doesn’t live in your thoughts — it lives in your nervous system.
That’s why you can know you’re safe and still feel on edge or reactive.
If you’ve ever wondered, ‘Why do I react like this when I know better?’
That isn’t weakness — it’s a brain that learned to survive.
When something overwhelming happens, the survival part of the brain takes over.
Trauma-informed therapy works with the brain, not against it.

17/01/2026

EMDR works best when it’s used thoughtfully.
I often describe EMDR as gentle and paced — and it can be. But it’s important to say that EMDR is most effective when it’s introduced at the right time and in the right way.

For complex or developmental trauma, EMDR needs to be approached carefully. The early phases — understanding your history, building safety, stabilisation, and resourcing — are essential, not optional. Sometimes that work takes time, and sometimes EMDR isn’t the right approach at all.

EMDR is very effective although not a cure-all. It’s one therapeutic approach among many, and part of my role is to assess whether, when, and how it can be used safely and ethically.

Good trauma therapy isn’t about pushing techniques. It’s about pacing, readiness, consent, and collaboration — and sometimes the most skilled decision is to slow down.

If you’re curious about EMDR, I’m always happy to talk it through — openly and without pressure.

10/01/2026

✨ EMDR: gentle, grounded, and backed by the brain ✨
EMDR can feel surprisingly calm. You stay in the present, fully in control, while we work together to “unstick” emotional patterns linked to stress, trauma, overwhelm or long-standing anxiety.

Many clients say they feel clearer, less reactive and more settled as their system begins to integrate what they’ve been holding.
It’s not about re-traumatising yourself — it’s about helping the brain finish a job it couldn’t complete at the time. EMDR uses bilateral stimulation to support the brain in processing memories safely, so the emotional charge softens and you can move forward without being pulled back.

If you’d like to know more about the process or whether EMDR might help with something specific, feel free to message me privately.
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Rainbow Counselling provide a wide range of counselling services in Conwy North Wales

03/01/2026

🌿 A gentle introduction to EMDR
Sometimes experiences get 'stuck' in the nervous system — not because we’re weak, but because our brain didn’t get the chance to fully process what happened at the time.

EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitisation and Reprocessing) works by helping the brain do what it naturally wants to do: process, make sense, and move on.

Using gentle, guided bilateral stimulation (such as eye movements or tapping), EMDR supports the brain to reprocess distressing memories so they feel less overwhelming and more in the past — where they belong.

People often notice:
Memories feel less intense
Emotional reactions soften
New insights or a sense of relief emerge
EMDR isn’t about reliving everything in detail or “forcing” change. It’s a collaborative, paced approach, always guided by what feels safe for you.

If you’re curious and would like to read more:
You can explore evidence-based information via EMDR UK:
👉 https://emdrassociation.org.uk
Or find out more about how I work with EMDR here:
👉 https://www.rainbowcounselling.wales
You’re always welcome to get in touch if you’d like to talk things through or ask questions 💬

Rainbow Counselling provide a wide range of counselling services in Conwy North Wales

27/12/2025

As I reflect on the past year, one of the best investments I’ve made in my practice has been training in EMDR.
And not just the basic training — I’ve really dedicated myself into developing my EMDR practice further. and have beeb working hard all year.
I offer attachment-informed EMDR, with additional training in IFS-informed, parts-based approaches that can be thoughtfully integrated where appropriate.
This can be particularly helpful for trauma, anxiety, panic, and more complex experiences — especially when talking alone hasn’t been enough.
The work is always gentle, relational, effective and led by the client.
Feel free to message me if you’d like to know more 💛

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18/06/2025

Happy 2nd birthday to therapy cat and chief paper shredder at Rainbow Counselling, Tango 😻

16/05/2025

This is a great resource for understanding Post Traumatic Stress Disorder and Complex PTSD.

PTSD and CPTSD self-help NHS Guide

Work through a self-help guide for PTSD and CPTSD based on Trauma-Focused Cognitive Therapy (TF-CT).

24/02/2025

Seems like 20 year old Tw***ie wanted to join in an EMDR session Today whilst Tango was clearly bored of it all and fell asleep 😹

16/12/2024

Supervision now offered here at Rainbow Counselling for qualified and student counsellors
https://www.rainbowcounselling.wales/counselling-supervision-north-wales/

To book at initial session, click on the link below
https://www.rainbowcounselling.wales/book-an-appointment/

Costs For Counselling Sessions to Suit You Initial Sessions: This session is important to establish if counselling is right for you. The first session is £35 for individuals and couples. (No obligation or pressure to return). Further face-to-face sessions – Individuals … Read More

09/12/2024

Healing doesn’t mean the damage never existed... 🌿❤️