Rainbow Counselling

12/04/2026

EMDR isn’t just for trauma…
Most people think EMDR is only for big, obvious trauma.
But I also use it for:
• Anxiety that won’t switch off
• Overthinking and rumination
• Mild phobias (driving, flying, social situations)
• That constant ‘on edge’ feeling
It works with how your brain stores experiences, not just what you consciously remember.
Sometimes the things we struggle with now are linked to patterns your brain learned a long time ago.
And the good news?
They can be updated.
For more information get in touch by email, text, WhatsApp or phone:
www.rainbowcounselling.wales
sarah@rainbowcounselling.wales
T:07788 130 331

03/04/2026

Many couples would love to be heard and understood by their partners yet in order to be heard we need to know what it feels like to truly listen, even if we don't agree. Change often happens from this point.

28/03/2026

It’s not just about what you see on the surface, there’s often a deeper story and that’s where change begins

ChatGPT helps you get answers, find inspiration, and be more productive.

21/03/2026

Thinking of EMDR?

15/03/2026

If anyone is trying to book a session from the calendar, apologies, there’s a tech error which should get sorted tomorrow. Bookings can still be taken by phone. 🙏

14/03/2026

In times of grief, I often find myself reflecting on how our ancestors lived.
For most of human history, people lived in small tribes or communities. When something painful happened — grief, loss, hardship — you didn’t carry it alone. There were people around you. You were held by the group.
Today, many of us live very different lives. We’re often expected to cope quietly, privately, independently. And yet our nervous systems were never designed to carry everything alone.
A space for grief to be fully witnessed and understood can create a small version of that early human tribe — a place where people can begin to make sense of their experience and feel less alone with it.
Sometimes healing begins simply by not having to carry something on your own.

09/03/2026

The inner critic.
Many people have a voice in their mind that can be surprisingly harsh.
“You should have done that better.”
“Why did you say that?”
“You’re not good enough.”
“You always get things wrong.”
Over time, people often start to believe that voice is simply the truth.
But what if that voice isn’t actually trying to harm you?
In many cases, that critical voice began as a way of trying to protect you — perhaps by pushing you to get things right, avoid mistakes, or prevent rejection.
The difficulty is that the strategy can become very harsh over time.
Instead of trying to silence the critic completely, it can sometimes be more helpful to pause and ask:
What is this voice trying to protect me from?
When we begin to approach ourselves with curiosity rather than judgement, something important shifts.
Understanding often softens the criticism far more effectively than fighting it.
If this resonates with you, you’re certainly not alone. Many people discover that their inner critic has a story behind it.

28/02/2026

🌿 “Why does the past still feel like it’s happening now?”
This is something I hear often in trauma therapy.
Trauma isn’t just about what happened —
it’s about how the nervous system holds the experience.
EMDR helps the brain reprocess those memories so they feel like something that happened then, rather than something you’re still living now.
Healing is possible. 💛

22/02/2026

In relationships, it’s rarely the surface argument that’s the real issue.
Often underneath we find:
– a fear of not being important
– a fear of being rejected
– a fear of not being heard
When couples begin to recognise the vulnerable feelings beneath the reactions, something powerful happens — they start to turn towards each other rather than against each other.
That’s where change begins. 🌱
I offer couples therapy in North Wales and online.

31/01/2026

Why do couples keep having the same argument, even when they love each other?
Often, it isn’t about the surface issue at all.
One partner may feel overwhelmed and shut down.
The other may feel unheard and pursue harder.
The more this happens, the more distressed and disconnected both people feel.
Relationship ruptures can feel painful, anxious, heavy, tight, exhausting, because past experiences don’t stay in the past. They quietly shape how safe, seen, or threatened we feel with the person closest to us.
Trauma doesn’t just live inside individuals, it shows up between people.
I work in depth with couples and relationships, helping partners slow things down, understand what’s really happening beneath the conflict, and find ways to repair disconnection rather than repeat it.
If any of this resonates, you’re not “doing relationships wrong” , something important is asking for attention.
You can find more information about my couples and relationship work on my website:

25/01/2026

Trauma doesn’t live in your thoughts — it lives in your nervous system.
That’s why you can know you’re safe and still feel on edge or reactive.
If you’ve ever wondered, ‘Why do I react like this when I know better?’
That isn’t weakness — it’s a brain that learned to survive.
When something overwhelming happens, the survival part of the brain takes over.
Trauma-informed therapy works with the brain, not against it.

17/01/2026

EMDR works best when it’s used thoughtfully.
I often describe EMDR as gentle and paced — and it can be. But it’s important to say that EMDR is most effective when it’s introduced at the right time and in the right way.

For complex or developmental trauma, EMDR needs to be approached carefully. The early phases — understanding your history, building safety, stabilisation, and resourcing — are essential, not optional. Sometimes that work takes time, and sometimes EMDR isn’t the right approach at all.

EMDR is very effective although not a cure-all. It’s one therapeutic approach among many, and part of my role is to assess whether, when, and how it can be used safely and ethically.

Good trauma therapy isn’t about pushing techniques. It’s about pacing, readiness, consent, and collaboration — and sometimes the most skilled decision is to slow down.

If you’re curious about EMDR, I’m always happy to talk it through — openly and without pressure.