Clear Minds Counselling & Psychotherapy

22/01/2025

A child thrives when they feel seen, safe, and soothed. 💛

✨ Seen: When their feelings are noticed and validated.
✨ Safe: When they trust they won’t be harmed, judged, or shamed.
✨ Soothe: When they are comforted in distress, not left to handle big emotions alone.

These aren’t just childhood needs—they’re human needs. When we don’t receive them early on, we spend adulthood searching for them. Healing begins when we learn to give them to ourselves and others.

19/06/2024

And sending them away or putting them in a “naughty corner” teaches them, that they can’t and shouldn’t express their emotions, with those closest to them.

For a child who is exaggerating injuries, they may feel that they need more nurturing. A child who is “over-dramatic” may feel that they are often over-looked in the family. A child who puts themselves first might feel that they are only important if they are first. When children seems to fish for praise or they lie about their abilities, it could mean that they have low self-esteem. A child who is hurting siblings or constantly doing something to upset you, might be getting bullied, have a new sibling or something else cause them to feel bad and it is coming out to make other feel bad too. Children don’t enjoy “attention seeking” behaviour, they do it because they need help and the only way they will get help is with your attention.

More information in my book
Guidance from The Therapist Parent

Available on my website www.thetherapistparent.com and on Amazon

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