Therapy with Flo

30/11/2025

Empower vs Rescue 🛟

It’s not your job to make someone more of themselves. It’s not your responsibility to fix their broken parts, fill their empty spaces, or complete the pieces they refuse to work on. You can love someone, support them, encourage them, but you cannot build a whole person out of someone who isn’t willing to grow on their own.

Too many times we exhaust ourselves trying to be the glue, the healer, the strength, the inspiration for people who haven’t even decided to meet us halfway. We pour love into voids they won’t acknowledge, and we give energy to souls who haven’t learned how to hold themselves up. And it hurts because it leaves you feeling like no matter how much you give, it will never be enough.

The truth is, everyone has to choose their own growth. Everyone has to face their own shadows. You can walk with someone, but you cannot walk for them. You can care deeply, but you cannot carry someone who refuses to stand.

So let go of the idea that you need to complete anyone. You don’t. Love is not about filling someone’s emptiness. It is about two whole people choosing each other, not depending on each other to feel whole. You deserve that kind of love, not the kind that drains you, but the kind that meets you where you are and grows with you.

27/11/2025

It’s been a busy yet important start to the week and marking 16 days of activism against gender based violence. Please join this important event tonight at the Lexicon and join the conversation, hope to see you there 🙏🏻

All are welcome to mark White Ribbon Day this Thursday, 27 November.

Bracknell Forest Council, in partnership with Berkshire Women's Aid and Kaleidoscopic UK, is holding a lantern parade and civic ceremony in The Lexicon.

Join us from 5.45pm in Princess Square, The Lexicon Bracknell, for a parade, speeches and remembrance. See link in first comment for more info.

22/11/2025

Inspired by , we wanted to illustrate how you can defy gravity in your own life! Save this post for when you need reminding. 🌟 ⁠💚

18/11/2025

This , remember: It is OK to put yourself first sometimes.

01/11/2025

True connection and confidence starts when you begin to cultivate a loving relationship with yourself💕

External validation is temporary and fleeting— leaning on your self-worth instead creates a lasting impact on your self-perception.

Reflect: How do I view myself? How can I begin to care for myself more?

26/10/2025

Sometimes we need to survive for the right time and conditions to thrive 🙏🏻

23/10/2025

Domestic Abuse, a poem by Nikki,
A survivor of domestic abuse

If I could tell myself, ✋🏻

That the romance, the joy,
That intoxicating feeling,
It wasn’t love.
It would be short lived.
It was a dupe,
A hoax,
A tragically well known pattern and ploy.
That the dreams and hopes we had were mine and mine alone.
That he never wanted to live them with me.
That he would criticise, accuse, threaten, confuse and destroy me,
Until I doubted every piece of my now dusty mind, body and soul.
That this so-called love
would become fear.
Fear of what wrong I would do that day,
Fear of what he would seek to find
And manipulate.
Fear of simply being me
And the consequences.
That through fear,
I would lose myself.
I would lose confidence.
I would lose friends and independence.
I would lose rational thought
That this is exactly where he wanted me
So confused I would romanticise the love we once had
SO desperate to get it back I would cling
Onto any ounce of conniving kindness.
So trapped and hopeless that saying in fear was better than attempting escape.
If I could tell myself,
That this was not love,
That this was not my fault,
That there was a way out, I would.
And I would wrap my arms around the scared shell of a woman and hold her.
I would hold her and hold her some more,
Until she felt the warmth of my heart and the safety of my embrace
Until she remembered who she was
And believed she could be again 💞

21/10/2025

“We change not by trying to become something else, but by fully accepting who and where we are.”

Gestalt therapist, Arnold Beisser

19/10/2025

Today…

🤗Check in with yourself
❤️Check in with your heart
🙏🏻Check in with your soul
👥Check in with your friends
💞Check in with your loved ones

… pick up the phone 📱 📞☎️
…pop round for a cuppa ☕️

(Don’t just sent a message - connect)

11/10/2025

Anxiety can show up not just in your thoughts, but in your body too.

These symptoms can feel overwhelming, but you’re not alone. Counselling can provide a safe space to explore what’s happening and find ways to manage anxiety with support.

Save this post as a reminder, or share for others. 💙

22/08/2025

Boundaries are there for friends, family, intimate relationships, co-workers and they can be set emotionally, physically, mentally and spiritually.

Be curious about what you need and what you don’t need? What takes from you, how much and when? Ask yourself who are the giving and the taking in your network and how do they leave you feeling? Who leaves you feeling depleted every time?

Boundaries is about balance, self care and self respect, it’s about equality in relationships and it’s about recognising when the balance is off 🙏🏻

In my most recent newsletter, I talked about the fact that friendships drift. That there are few words more joyful and more vulnerable than “best friend.” What happens when you’ve been supportive and you start to feel unseen or maybe even taken for granted?

21/08/2025

🚨 Nationwide Emergency Alert Test — Sunday 7th September, 3pm

The UK’s new emergency alert system will send a loud siren, message, and vibration to every compatible phone even on silent. Survivors of abuse with hidden phones could be put at risk if the device is discovered.

You can opt out in your phone’s settings to protect your safety:
✅ iPhone: Search “Emergency Alerts” in settings → Turn off Severe & Emergency alerts

✅ Android: Search “Emergency Alerts” in settings → Turn off Severe & Emergency alerts (and other threat categories if listed)