Lau Counselling

22/07/2024

The Train of Life

• Lessons from the Past: The past is like a collection of train stops - each one offering lessons. But constantly revisiting those stops during disagreements only reinforces pain. Instead, let’s acknowledge the lessons and keep moving.

• Release the Brakes: Imagine our emotional train - the one that carries us forward. When we hold onto frustrations, it’s like pulling the emergency brake. We’re stuck, unable to focus on the present or future.

• Delayed Departure: A breakdown delays our journey. Similarly, dwelling on past hurts delays our progress. It’s healthier to release that brake, even if it means a longer wait for the next opportunity.

• Future Travel Debates: When planning future trips (literal or metaphorical), we have a choice. We can drag past baggage into the debate, or we can treat each journey as unique. Learn from the past, but don’t let it derail your future adventures.

So, let’s keep our eyes on the tracks ahead and embrace the scenic route of growth!

14/07/2024

Back Yourself

Have you ever doubted yourself on the basis of what others think of you? Have you ever came up with an idea and then it was down played or waved away because someone doesn't think it would work; there's too much competition or you don't have what it takes to make it happen?

Well how would you feel if you backed yourself? Believe in yourself. Go all in with what you want to do and see the magic happen. Wouldn't it be great to prove someone's belief wrong and feel like a winner in your own achievement if you just backed yourself. Do what you need to do and believe it's possible. It all starts from an inspiration and going all out to take the necessary actions and giving it all you got, starting by believing in yourself. Yes you will come up with challenges and difficulties but they're just mini puzzles waiting for you to solve and making your dreams possible.

Sometimes life happens and things don't work out then at least you gave it a try but what if you proved yourself it could work despite what others might think or try to talk you down. Often people pass judgement because, without realising, it's actually they don't believe it would work for themselves so why would it work for you? But you are not them because we are all unique individuals. Is it a wonder why somethings work for others and not everyone because we are all different.

Back yourself and see what happens. If you have difficulties with your thought processes, take the first step to get help and get them in order. Start achieving and believe in yourself.

15/05/2024

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08/05/2024

26/04/2024

A New Habit

If you could take one action today to positively impact your mental health, what would it be?

Consider starting with a small step — one that you can consistently repeat to form a new habit. Understand that there will be days when this new habit is missed or doesn’t quite happen, and that’s perfectly okay. Imperfections are part of the journey.

Life was never meant to be flawless, but intentionally nurturing positive feelings can attract happiness. Embrace change, even when it feels challenging. Remind yourself of your aspirations and desires — these serve as your compass, guiding you toward determination and persistence.

Remember, there’s no fixed timeline for progress. Some may reach their goals swiftly, while others may take longer. What matters most is moving at a pace that feels comfortable and authentic to you, rather than conforming to external expectations.

Wishing you well on your journey towards mental wellbeing!

17/03/2024

One Day

The spiral of despair often begins subtly, a culmination of sad and unhappy moments that build-up into what appears to be one day of despair. But that day is merely the tip of the iceberg, the visible manifestation of deeper struggles.

Feeling drained, despondent, and devoid of purpose, it becomes easier to retreat into the solace of bed, hoping the weight of melancholy will lift on its own. Meanwhile, loved ones stand by, perplexed and concerned, their attempts to offer support met with resistance.

From the outside, it seems like a sudden downturn, but beneath the surface lies a labyrinth of unresolved emotions, triggers and trials that have amassed over time. Days blur into weeks, weeks into months as life loses its meaning and direction.

Amid this emotional fog, it's bewildering to articulate the turmoil within, let alone seek assistance. Yet, that one day serves as a beacon, signalling a cry for help. You're not alone in this struggle; there are caring souls willing to lend a hand, waiting for your trust to allow them into your life, to help you so you can help yourself.

10/03/2024

Negative Thinking

Why do some of us seem fixated on negative thinking? Could it be a result of our exposure to adversity, challenging relationships, childhood trauma, or difficult parenting?

Despite its lack of benefit in fostering happiness or achieving our goals, we find ourselves persistently drawn to negativity. It's akin to an addiction, as challenging to break as any substance dependency.

Perhaps it's a form of avoidance, a subconscious tactic to evade confronting something uncomfortable or unpleasant. By focusing on the faults of others, we justify our own insecurities and self-doubt.

But what if we could change that? Imagine if we could flip a switch and embrace a positive mindset instead.

03/03/2024

Rejected By A Parent

Being rejected by a parent as a child can leave a profound mark, fostering feelings of inadequacy and self-doubt. The inner refrain of "What's wrong with me?" becomes a haunting echo of unresolved pain.

But it's crucial to recognize that the issue doesn't lie within you. Rather, it's rooted in the struggles of the rejecting parent, whether they acknowledge it or not. Often, they're simply repeating patterns learned from their own upbringing, perpetuating a cycle of hurt.

It's not about assigning blame; many of these parents have faced their own hardships and rejections. Behaviours are inherited, passed down through generations until someone decides to break the chain. This courageous individual seeks understanding and help, putting an end to the cycle.

By acknowledging their own struggles and committing to change, they become beacons of hope for future generations. Through their healing journey, they pave the way for a different legacy - one built on love, acceptance, and resilience. Are you ready to heal and start something new?

25/02/2024

Focus On The Now And The Future

Feeling tied to the past? Remember, it doesn't hold a monopoly on your future. Your past isn't a sentence but rather a syllabus, shaping your experiences and lessons learned. Embrace them, then step boldly forward. See it as a compass, guiding you with its accumulated wisdom.

As we evolve, so do our relationships. Some, once vital, now feel out of sync with our current selves and lifestyles — and that's okay. Whether they endure or dissipate, each connection serves a purpose in its time. Life's beauty lies not in flawlessness but in its ever-changing landscape. Embrace the challenges, relish the joys, and cherish the people who enrich your journey, for like flowers in a field, they bloom and fade, making room for new blossoms. Rather than living in the past, focus on the now and walk to the future.

21/02/2024

When There's More To Positivity...

Positivity is a fantastic starting point, but let's take it a step further. It's about embracing action and nurturing ourselves in ways that uplift our spirits. Consider the journey of self-care as a series of small, empowering steps that accumulate over time. Begin with gentle practices like meditation and light exercise, and gradually enhance your surroundings by decluttering both physically and digitally. Maybe it's time to curate your contacts and messages to foster a more positive environment.

Reflect on what brings you joy and fulfilment. Visualize your goals and the steps needed to achieve them. And remember, asking for support is a sign of strength, not weakness. It's natural to encounter obstacles along the way, but let's shift our perspective: are they genuine hurdles or mere excuses? Let's challenge ourselves to break free from the comfort of sadness and hopelessness.

You might say, "I've tried, but it hasn't worked." Yet, have you truly given it your all? Have you approached it with unwavering determination, exploring different methods until you find what resonates? Just like learning to walk, stumbling is part of the process. Each setback is an opportunity to refine your approach and reaffirm your worthiness.

Don't let fear of judgment or past conditioning hold you back. It's time to embrace your true potential and step into a brighter, more vibrant version of yourself. You deserve to thrive, and with perseverance and self-belief, you can achieve remarkable transformation. Let's embark on this journey together and unleash the brilliance within you!