14/12/2025
Please can we stop asking women when they’re having a baby / another baby!???
Is it just me whose mind is absolutely blown by this?
I can’t take any more 😢
I would say people mean well, and most do, but 3 times in the past few months when I’ve said “no” the response has been “oh my god - you can’t leave her on her own”.
How on earth do you think that makes parents feel 💔 I don’t know how people cope who have just been through a traumatic birth event of any kind either or suffered a loss.
It’s so so personal and invasive and sensitive. I end up explaining and justifying the 100 reasons instead of just simply saying no, or declining to answer at all.
Having a baby in Lockdown has scarred us for life, & Lockdown should never have happened.
I’m finding it harder people asking me when I’m having a second, compared to when they used to ask if I’m having one at all.
The hilarious bit is - the reason i was asked is because I’ve lost some weight- so they asked if the weight loss was because I’m now “ready for another”! 😂What the hell.
God forbid I lose weight FOR ME because it’s taken me 5 years to reach some kind of new normal.
And if you dare have 3+ kids then all you’ll hear is “Christ you’ve got your hands full!” (Don’t get me wrong I’m sure I will have said all of these things to others at some point too) Yet if you have none then you’re looked at differently again.
You’re too fat, you’re too thin, you don’t have kids, or you do but not enough of them, you go out partying and feel like you’re looked at as a crap parent or you stay with them 24/7 and “parent too hard”.