Jane Barclay, Therapeutic Counselling & Psychotherapy Exeter

24/04/2026

Soooo true...

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15/04/2026

Trauma Healing is Real ❣️

'I have been researching, writing , studying, healing and holding space for individuals, couples, groups, families for many years and it’s becoming more important than ever before to acknowledge the importance of trauma and grief and how it not affects us personally but our lives, families and communities.

How often do I see now parents asking for psychiatric help to help their children?

It is sad and yet it’s alarming. Yes, children need to be held in processing their emotions in a safe and loving space . How can parents do that when they are not holding space for themselves to feel, express and process their emotions?

Children need connection, children need a healthy and nourishing energy to grow and thrive in their own time and space, knowing and trusting their family members love them truly.

How can parents truly show love and compassion, intimacy and respect to their children’s development and their individual lives when they have not learnt to be held in the same way in their own childhood.

Healing doesn’t mean we sit and blame our parents, siblings, and family members for how life happened to us.

Healing means we learn and practice gently and softly to express ourselves freely and lovingly and in this space forgive, learn and detach with love.

Children need parents to model for them how to feel safe in their own bodies and create a safe space where God’s presence is guiding them through the process. Breathing through how things should be, projections, comparisons, taking things personal, fear, insecurities and opening to the gifts every child is conceived and born with.

Yea every child invites the parent to open their hearts and deepen their connection with the feminine, the flow of life and embracing themselves , being truthful whole and detached from the outcome… a real and vulnerable space for connection, communication and evolution…

Children are not the problem. They don’t need medication. They don’t need help. They need to feel seen, heard, respected, supported and celebrated… they need emotionally and physically present parents who are growing with them , being the parent and being open to life and the evolution of life.

emotionally mature adults who parent children is what children need. Healthy relationships that offer them a blueprint for their own lives, a space to make mistakes, and learn feeling safe and whole.

Parents, ask for help, heal your own inner child wounding and step into the adult you are today and lead….you are Divinely Chosen by your children and you have everything they need to the Parent.

I have been working for years with parents or a parent on their own inner child wounding, their family dynamics growing up and embracing themselves to hold space for themselves and their partners and children…

Our parents did the best they could with the knowledge they had, the support offered and its time to break the cycle and be the change the world needs… create a healthy environment for yourself and your family…

To book an appointment with me, you can message me directly at The Soul Journey with Sarah Moussa or email me at moussa.sarah@gmail.com'

From Sarah with Love ❤️
Shamanic Healer 🌸
Specialized in Trauma, Grief, Family Dynamics, Ancestral Healing, Womb Healing, Somatic Experiencing and Embodiment.

💌 Sarah Moussa - The Writer

15/04/2026

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14/04/2026

This is the couplet that warmed my heart...

'The sage does not destroy the ego.
He simply does not live inside it.'

Sometimes ego stands tall,
sometimes it shakes,
sometimes it disappears quietly.
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None of these make us wrong —
they just show which season our heart is in.
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This reflection is only my small understanding.
If any part speaks to you, take it gently.
If not, let the wind carry it away.
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For anyone still learning to understand themselves
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One morning during practice,
the master asked:
“Ego… is it good or bad?”
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Nobody spoke.
Maybe the question was too big.
Maybe everyone was waiting for someone else.
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I quietly said:
“Ego is a path.
Not good, not bad.
Just something we all walk through.”
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The master smiled gently,
as if saying:
live it, and you will know.
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So I shared what I’ve come to see —
not from books,
but from living,
failing,
growing,
and watching myself change.
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1. The Ego That Stands Too Tall
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When I was young, my ego stood high.
Shoulders tight, heart tight,
always ready to defend myself.
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I looked strong,
but inside I was fragile.
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A small disagreement felt like an attack.
A little correction felt like shame.
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Now I see it more clearly:
A big ego is not confidence.
It is fear wearing armor.
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2. The Ego That Feels Strong
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Later, my ego became steady.
Calm, logical, emotionally stable.
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People liked this version of me.
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But even strength has its quiet edge:
It can become firm,
a little distant,
quick to judge what it does not feel.
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Sometimes “strong” does not see.
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That was something I had to learn.
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3. The Ego That Shrinks Too Much
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There were seasons
I made myself small.
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I said “never mind” too easily.
I stepped back when I should have stayed.
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People called it humility.
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But inside, I knew —
it was not humility.
It was the fear of being seen.
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4. The Ego That Trembles
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Sometimes the ego becomes fragile.
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A small comment shakes us.
A passing opinion lingers too long.
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This ego is not wrong —
just tired.
It has not yet found where to rest.
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And in truth…
we all pass through this,
even if we don’t show it.
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So which ego is right?
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The master kept listening.
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Because none of them are wrong.
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They are simply different shapes
we take along the way.
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The practice is not choosing
the “best” ego.
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It is noticing:
which one is speaking today?
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To see it clearly
is already a quiet loosening.
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And what about the Middle Path?
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In daily life,
a steady ego may look like balance.
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But even balance
can still be something we hold.
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The sage does not destroy the ego.
He simply does not live inside it.
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Ego becomes like a jacket —
worn when needed,
put down when not.
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Act without clinging.
Speak without defending.
Help without showing.
Leave without regret.
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This is a quieter kind of freedom.
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And for people like us…
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We are still learning.
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Some days we defend too much.
Some days we shrink too fast.
Some days we stand steady.
Some days we tremble.
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It’s all part of the path.
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Cultivation is not becoming perfect.
It is loosening
one small knot in the heart.
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Loosen a little,
the mind becomes lighter.
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The mirror becomes clearer.
The road becomes softer.
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And if we see this today…
that is already something quietly gained.
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Urban Monk | Living Tao

14/04/2026

this is a VERY LONG read. worth it to understand where we are from a systems understanding. What we do matters now more than ever - this is not the time to sign off and give up, but take small actions that enable more connection, honesty and communication between us humans and more-than-humans. I like his sign off... [BTW bifurcation most simply means dividing into two]

"At the time of bifurcation, small acts that normally have far less impact can create extraordinary results. That is why each one of us matters in this hour. Not to panic and give in to the noise, but to recognize this is a time of great change. To prepare diligently for yourself and your community. To protect the vulnerable, now and further into the bifurcation. To anchor love and light in simple acts of kindness. To not forget our better selves as we walk together across the bridge.

This is the great work of this hour. The smallest act of loving in this hour has enormous power. The understanding of what is occurring has enormous power. Each one of us, born to this hour for a reason, sets ripples across the world field in ways we cannot imagine. So when we understand and are not so afraid, when we share that cup of tea and listen, when we sit around a fire with community and laugh, this all has a profound and sacred effect. It is what we are doing here. And it matters deeply."

Thanks Mark A. Shryock and Manda Scott for sharing

13/04/2026

If you've opened this, I invite you please read to the end...

'Do you realize absolutely everything you need; you already have?

You keep fighting your own lizard 🦎 brain 🧠

If you commit to yourself, and love yourself a little …
maybe you start talking and communicating better with yourself.

The way you communicate with yourself is the way you communicate with others.

It’s certainly possible to develop better styles — communication styles are behaviors, and it is possible to change how we behave.

You likely to find you’re having fewer arguments that get out of control, have faster paths to solutions, and feel more connected and supported by each other.

We might even find it’s not that difficult to change bad patterns.

That’s because we already possess what we need for effective communication.

Be nice to yourself…
Talk nice to yourself…
And your communication with others will start improving immediately.

“Watch your thoughts, they become your words;
watch your words, they become your actions;
watch your actions, they become your habits;
watch your habits, they become your character;
watch your character, it becomes your destiny”

I would like to take this opportunity to clarify this quote.

This quote commonly credited to Lao Tzu, it’s not in the Tao Te Ching, neither is anything similar that could be credited to Lao Tzu.

Most likely belongs to:
John W. Beckwith, 1831-1890, first appeared in a newspaper from 1885.

Original text:
Plant a thought and reap a word;
plant a word and reap an action;
plant an action and reap a habit;
plant a habit and reap a character;
plant a character and reap a destiny.

“Life’s prototype is your perception”
'

道 德 經
TTC 71
“Knowing that you do not know is the best.
Not knowing that you do not know is an illness.

Truly, only those who see illness as illness
Can avoid illness.
The sage is not ill,
Because he sees illness as illness.
Therefore he is not ill.”



"If you know, that's good,
If you know you know, that's better,
If you don't know, that's no big deal,
But if you don't know that you don't know
Then who's behind the wheel"
Steve King, c. 2005

12/04/2026

I've never been comfortable with the notion 'self-sabotage'. Much prefer the practise of identifying and listening to the Shadow (J M Barrie got it!) Unrecognised, split off, desolate, Shadow may scream for attention if whispers don't work, but I subscribe to the belief that even the strongest forms forms of acting-out come from self love ie attempts to reduce suffering (including forcing others to suffer)...

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Did you know that most women doing shadow work are actually making their shadow stronger? A Jungian psychologist discovered why traditional shadow work backfires and found a 3-minute Taoism-based quiz that reveals your exact shadow pattern so it finally loses its grip on your life.
Read about the breakthrough here 👉🏼

02/04/2026

All this, yes. And healable...

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25/03/2026

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Beautiful Beth Hart, whose song 'Leave the Light In had tears streaming when I first saw her in Reading over a decade ago. Check out her songs, and with Joe Bonamassa too...