Mel Horsey Reflexology

30/10/2025

This is some information for you, if you are open-minded about medical matters, and interested to learn more about natural ways to look after yourself. I am looking more into what Dr Myhill teaches about staying healthy. Her approach is not for the fainthearted! This video is about supporting our immune systems to deal with viral infections. See what you think :)

Health Talk: Prevent Viral Infections with Dr Sarah MyhillJoin us for this engaging seminar with College of Naturopathic Medicine's Patron Dr Sarah Myhill wh...

08/04/2025

Interesting graphic from The World Reflexology Network 🙂

10/11/2024

With David Wayte and Helga Dittmann.

Helga has been visiting from Germany, to teach ‘Emotional Release Reflexology’, and I’ve just spent two very happy days with some lovely fellow reflexologists, learning all about it from her.

David was my first ever reflexology teacher, and since he recently moved away from Derbyshire, it has been so good to see him again.

If you would like to learn more about Emotional Release Reflexology, pm me. I’m keen to begin practicing it now. Having received this therapeutic approach myself, I can see it can be a powerful way of allowing for the body to let go of the emotions often stuck inside.

04/10/2024

I am gifting ‘taster’ sessions of reflexology at this lovely event in Darley Abbey on Sunday. There may be one still unbooked!

If you are free, come and say hello. These always have a special and friendly atmosphere.

06/02/2024

Oh, dear, she has zonked right out.
And, I need to move my body. Put the heating on! Refresh mug contents. Here goes!

30/01/2024

Have you ever wondered, who you really are? I did, for decades, realising that feeling like ‘myself’ was a rare thing.

I used to hold back from admitting my true point of view, from fear of being thought less of. Or, for fear of not being good enough.

First example, I began learning reflexology, which is a holistic therapy that has no ‘hard science’ to explain it or justify it (as yet) - because that just felt right for me. But I worried about what all my super-intelligent, logical left-brained friends would think of it.

When I realised my comedy queen, Victoria Wood, had made a truly unpleasant character out of a reflexologist, I squirmed.

And I had to say yes to my intuition, my inner sense of purpose. And be prepared to pursue my learnings anyway. I remember feeling crippled with self doubt in some situations, imagining that this or that person would think less of me, for my choice of job.

It is so freeing, to use up less and less of my time and emotional energy, worrying about what other people think, and adjusting how I show up, to fit in with them.

My teacher calls this particular authenticity- muffler, ’GOOP’.

That is to say, we limit ourselves to try to keep the Good Opinion of Other People. When, in fact, what those other people think about us is none of our business.

We are scared of rejection, yet, as I bet you may have heard before, “The people who mind don’t matter, and the people who matter, don’t mind”.

Remember that, if this sometimes applies to you! Hold to what lights you up 🤩.

Is GOOP an unwanted factor in your life?

❤️Do feel free to share this post if you think someone might be glad for the insight❤️.

20/01/2024

“Outer world follows inner world” - Peter Sage

“You cannot solve the problem at the same level of consciousness that created the problem” - Albert Einstein.

I know I have been a bit quieter on fb for a little while. I’ve been using the midwinter spell to do a whack-load of learning. Still doing it!

‘Going into the cave’ is essential to me. Since I learned multiple ways of doing that, it has stopped being always a marathon with the Call The Midwife DVDs.

Instead of having a phase of zoned-out exhaustion, nowadays I’m more likely to have my head in a personal development learning video. Or a book. And, my head took a break while I did a bit of meditation, this morning and all the other mornings.

It is not always easy. Building habits that are a shift from my long-conditioned normal goes against a tonne of justifying inner voices that argue for comfort or distraction every time.

The thing about my course is, that now I’ve done it once, I’ll always have access to it. I dip in there every day, and this and my buddies far and wide keep me connected to the inspiring information and my own intentions for me.

So this isn’t about learning a few tips and forgetting them when the course finishes. I’m in it because this information speaks to me. It fits with my idea of integrity. Meanwhile there will always be peers to learn with, who are on the same page, and who made the same decision to transform their life.

What I have found is that what we give our attention to, gets bigger. So, in my case, sitting down to meditate is just normal now. Every day has a good start this way.

The whole point of my learning programme, is that ‘Outer world follows inner world’. For one, this means our inner world of thoughts and feelings, and what we do with our mind - is primary. It is more important than what we see on the outside.

This doesn’t just mean addressing what’s inside, that we think may not serve us. It’s also about -on purpose- creating new from within.

What a dare! Well, I figured it would make life interesting 😆😂.

❤️ If you read this far, please drop me a heart, I appreciate the support ❤️

Of course I would love to share about this thing I’m doing. What if you decided to change gear on your life, just because you can? Message me if you would like to know more about it 🥰.

16/01/2024

What comes first? Mental clarity, or physical health? Can we have one, without the other?

09/01/2024

Oh, my!!! Did I ever share that I journal - mainly to listen to myself?

And, because being listened to is a way I feel loved?

Loving ourself is crucial. I believe that it’s something many people do not learn to do, as a child.

Our challenge is to learn ways to do it, and *feel* it, as an adult.

Journaling may not work for everyone, and it has always helped me. What you see below, is what I did to my journal last night.

I never did that before. And that stuff needed to be heard.

It might sound crazy, but I feel loved just looking at that page. Do I want to be in that state all the time? No!

And I’m not. Just writing it down helps me to begin accepting and processing.

Do you listen to yourself? Can you love you, even when you don’t feel good?

❤️I am always happy to listen if you want to talk about things I raise. Message me, or leave a comment, and put me a heart here if you found this helpful in any way. ❤️

PS, 🙏 thank you so much, for reading (or just scrolling on!) - I never expected to feel so much supported by posting things, as has turned out. And I am made up whenever something resonates with you and you tell me about it 😍xx

03/01/2024

💨💨💨Did you ever feel as if something just put out your light?☁️☁️☁️

I had that experience this week.

I believe that, under the layers of ‘stuff’ that we preoccupy ourselves with, each of us is a being of light.

That might mean different things to different people. To me, it’s about who we essentially are. It took me 50+ years to begin to be conscious of this possibility.

Doing such a lot of self-development work is one way I encourage myself to be self-aware. And being part of a big peer group who are interested in the same thing, there’s always someone I can talk to, about this.

Putting this week’s ‘state’ into words with my buddy Sue Bide helped me greatly today.

“I feel like I’m being smothered by a massive heavy cloud”, I said.

The more we bring our mental-emotional state into our awareness, the easier it is, to address it or allow it to move on. Or get help with it. Or, ask the right questions about it.

I don’t always get a full answer. And I find it helpful to follow the nudges that come to me.

My mind came up with a quotation when I noticed the feeling was a heavy one.

It’s something the spiritual writer Neville Goddard says in interpreting the deeper meaning of a bible quote, in his book ‘The Power of Awareness’.

He says: “You give praise for the spirit of heaviness when you maintain a confident attitude instead of succumbing to despondency”.

I know that allowing a heavy feeling to go unquestioned is best avoided. Today I am blessed with time to look in myself for this feeling, and consider what thoughts are behind it. And ask myself how many of them are really true 🤣😂😆 (I have reached the point where I can laugh at this lot!)

I do so appreciate you listening to all this, if you did 😃🙏!

❤️ Do leave me a heart or a comment if any of this sounds familiar, and feel free to share the whole post if you like.❤️

Wonky lighthouse drawings all my own work.

29/12/2023

Love yourself first. Love others from the overflow.

27/12/2023

⚡️⚡️⚡️What is the something that gets triggered, when you are triggered?⚡️⚡️⚡️

Do you know where it comes from?

When my first child was about a year old, one day I found myself ‘incandescent’ with rage.

I completely lost it. My child not cooperating with a nappy change seemed to release a monster. I blared, bellowed, and bawled. And then I cried.

I thought I was such a ‘nice’ person. My infant was just being a tiny little kid. How could I ‘explode’, and apparently for no reason?

There must be a reason, and it pertained to emotions I’d never processed or expressed, from many years before.

As my journey as a parent progressed, there were more episodes of rage, ‘red mist’, loss of control, triggered by my unwitting children, but not caused by them.

The shame of it built, and I realised, that this was what had happened for my Dad. My pattern had been experienced by me, before. When I was a frightened child who didn’t understand the stuff that adults carried around in their heads.

My Dad is in the photo below. He’s the one sitting in the middle at the back.

My parenting experiences allowed me to feel ever more compassionate for my Dad, after having hated him as a young adult.

One day, as we sat together in my Mom’s room at their nursing home, I took a chance while she had left the room, to ask him about what I was beginning to grasp.

“Dad, sometimes I’ve been so angry with my children, have completely lost my temper. And I know that the way I felt was nothing to do with them. It was anger from somewhere else, that I was carrying around.

You had this when we were children.”

He nodded, slowly.

“Dad, do you know where your anger came from?”

There was a long pause, whilst he considered. My Dad was 97 at the time, and had vascular dementia which created huge blanks in his memory of recent minutes. And his recall of times gone by was great.

“Well,” he said at last, “I hated my Dad”.

I asked him if he wanted to talk about that, and he related memories of times he had either felt angered, frightened, or shamed by his Dad.

I realised these things had been traumas that never got processed. Like his memories from wartime, of unspeakable things done by one people to another, he had been carrying them around ever since.

I have learned that repressed emotions can be elusive so-and-so’s. And with the right help, and a firm intention, patience and determined self awareness, we can unveil them bit by bit.

And deactivate. On I go, to learn more and more about breaking that pattern!

❤️leave me a heart if something here has started echoes from your experience. Please do share if you would like to❤️.

🌿Message me if you would like to talk about it. Did you find yourself playing out your parents’ patterns, even when you thought you would avoid them? Has it meant that you have more compassion for them, than you ever did before?🌿