07/01/2021
Can anyone help with Feedback on my proposal for my 5 books. I want to know does the proposal make you want to read my books., to know more? Thanks x
Proposal of Five Books
Authors Name and Pen Name: Sharon Shaw
Book Titles: A Child Inside: Understanding, Healing and Freedom Following Childhood Abuse and Trauma.
Working towards Complete Freedom, Keeping Balance in a Unbalanced World.
No one has the Power to Save You, Only You Hold that Power. Linking Psychotherapy, Psychology, Spirituality and Research into healing (not written yet)
What Is The Topic Of Your Books?: Childhood Sexual. Emotional and Mental Abuse/Trauma, Infidelity and Dysfunctional Relational Dynamics, Finding Internal Spiritual Guidance, General life struggles, financial, relationships etc
Tell Us About Your Writing:
Would like a post on some insights on what finally prompted you to write the book?
Just after finishing 5 years of studying Psychotherapy/Psychoanalysis I stayed in believing in what my intuition was telling me, that my partner was cheating. This was hard as close people around me were telling me I was insecure. My partner was saying that he thought “I wanted it to be about someone else so it wasn’t about me”. I eventually found evidence that proved my intuition was right, I felt empowered. I decided that I would always listen to my intuition even if people around me were telling me something different. I would always seek internally to listen, to understand and move to find evidence to show that my intuition is correct. I was always aware I had this knowing/intuition but I didn’t fully believe in it even though many times it had been right in what it would tell me. On reflection as a child no one around me talked about intuition or a sense that I might get in my stomach. On reflection as I grew I repressed this knowing by refusing to believe in it as I thought I was weird as being that child when I voiced what I was told, friends around me would say I was weird or too deep.
At this time, I was dealing with a lot emotionally and mentally with our breakdown of our family unit and wanting to ensure that our children were safe and had time to understand changes that would be happening within our family. I kept sitting listening to my intuition that guided me in what to do.
My intuition was telling me that I needed time to understand and heal from this betrayal and that it was important that my ex stayed with us within our family home so we all had time to understand what changes would be happening, no matter what other people would say to stay with myself. People around me thought it was weird that I would allow him to stay but I found it was so healing, in going back to him to ask questions so that I had more understanding. I had acknowledged from reflecting on my past that having personal understanding, helps me to heal and let go.
I also acknowledged at this point in time that I was only dealing internally with this betrayal, my past painful life experiences were not coming back up. This experience shocked part of me as my past experiences would always come back up before. Whenever I experienced betrayal in the past, it was so painful and I now understand that within that pain was also pain from childhood abuse in so many ways. I acknowledged that because I had the opportunity in University (studying psychotherapy for 5 years) to complete lots of personal development building my self-awareness and experienced personal counselling. These processes gave me safe connections and the opportunity to tell my story, to show my pain to people that could just accept me, this process helped me to see me and develop self-love and understanding my own truth to past trauma. Through me seeing me, and my dysfunctional development, I can now see why possibly others might project out and hurt others in so many ways.
I wanted to go deeper to understand my development of healing emotionally, mentally and spiritually and seek to find my core beliefs. I also wanted to share this with others so they could copy or be inspired to do their own process. After a year of separation I acknowledged I started to feel anxious when going out. I knew this was possibly the start of a breakdown as I experienced one when I was about 18 years old.
A Counselling contract had come to an end and my intuition was not to take any more work on. To give myself time to continue with my personal counselling and start to write out my story and process of healing in writing books. My intuition was telling me this process will help me to understand deeper and ensure I have fully healed from past and present trauma, that sharing my story will give hope and help millions of people.
I had so many fears I started to write them down and understand where these fears interlinked into my past experiences, I used safe connections my counsellor, mum, and friends to communicate on anything I felt stuck on. This process was hard and frightening to start with but so insightful, that would empower me more to keep doing the process. I started to get light bulb moments in understanding my development and mental defences that created fear, that I now acknowledge I had built or taken from others as a child in order to try to keep myself safe, but these defences had become dysfunctional as an adult as they kept me closely around people that weren’t actually safe or good for my own emotional and mental wellbeing or they closed me down and made me fearful as an adult to live my life free to be honest and open and to explore.
I now don’t have the same fears and other people’s thinking doesn’t affect me the same, therefore I am free to share all of myself within my books, in a hope that people will take whatever they need from my story and inspire them to look back to their own childhood and understand their own life story, emotions, thoughts and build on their own intuition. My wish as a child and still now is for people to heal, from pain, hate and fear in understanding themselves. I believe that this process will break many cycles of perpetration at different levels. My intuition tells me that all I can do is share, openly and honestly, so that is what I am doing, sharing myself with love and hope for our world to heal.
Who are the main subjects of the book and what impact do they have on the story you are telling?
Myself, my abusers and other close relations, how their dysfunctional interactions (all at different levels) and my own internal dialogue has scripted my thinking, my own defences and fear creating internal conflict and mental health issues at different times throughout my development. Through acknowledging my intuition (spiritual guidance) and deciding to follow what it was telling me I started to deeply heal by giving myself time to write my books, reflecting and telling my story, where I find deeper meaning and life lessons. I was able to admit my full story first, to people I felt safe with, my counsellor and my mother, my emotions, thoughts and analysis of my experiences.
Now with professional language and with a more deeper personal understanding of my life experiences through meditating (listening to my intuition) and seeing myself within my books. I am ready to disclose my story to the world and show my internal conflict and at times dysfunctional behaviour which I now believe was just at a lighter level to what my abusers interactions were but held the same emotions of Pain, Fear and Hate. I now see that wobbling in this mindset interlinks within their dysfunctional interactions (which were at a deeper dysfunctional level) that I experienced as a child such as manipulation, control and blame through the abuse I suffered.
This self-awareness has given me wisdom of life and human development backed up with researched theory. This gave me the courage to go back to my second sexual abuser and seek further understanding in writing to him. Why had I experienced sexual abuse as a child? Giving me closure and helping me to have more personal understanding to fully heal see my mental defences that I had built as a child in order to try to protect myself but had become dysfunctional to my development and at times behaviour.
This self-awareness has given me more self-control to change my mindset and undo what was done, heal and forgive. All this process has built my self-love, self-confidence, self-belief and a deeper level of self-awareness and wisdom.
My development links into many theories of psychology, science and spiritualism and then my process of healing links into many psychotherapy approaches, spiritual growth and science based human development.
What kind of research have you done on the topic?
I have 36 years of personal experience of sexual, emotional and mental abuse and living in trauma from these experiences. I have studied 5 years of psychological theories and psychotherapeutic approaches, completed a 9,000 dissertation on “What Are the Associations Between Sexually Abused Children Becoming Adults that Sexually Offended and Sexually Abused Children Becoming Survivors?” I am undertaking my masters (due to complete July 2021) and continue to commit to further learning through BACP and many other mediums to give more language to my knowledge.
I practice psychotherapy with many people who have suffered these kinds of abuse from childhood or adult experiences. I am forever researching and analysing life experiences that impact on people’s emotional, mental wellbeing and behaviour through listening to people’s stories from any form of interactions whether that be family, friends, clients, strangers, reading, science, spiritualism films etc. I love learning from many sources as I now see and believe there is learning and truth in everything.
Why do you think this topic will interest readers?
I believe abuse happens in many forms and at many levels, therefore I believe we have all suffered some form of abuse, trauma therefore most of us struggle with mental illnesses and depression at different levels and different times through our lives.
I also believe that we can all get stuck at times in trauma and in negative life experiences, whether that be emotionally, mentally or both and we all at times struggle to control our behaviour again at different levels and in different ways. Whether that is saying things to others (when in anger) that we know deep down that we shouldn’t say or attacking in aggressive physical behaviour or whether that is attaching to mediums that become dysfunctional to ourselves such as food, alcohol, drugs, relationships etc.
I believe many people will relate to my life experiences, emotions and thoughts, I hope to inspire people to move to heal and build upon their own self-awareness and wisdom.
What is the book’s main takeaway?
There is always hope within us, if we give ourselves time in understanding and healing if we don’t give in and find support to look inwards. To find personal understanding with self-love, will help us to find our individual truth which heals. That this process offers internal peace, love and happiness which can be shared with others with even more acceptance of where others might be, making it easier to forgive but also moving away to protect ourselves.
Who do you believe is your target audience?
Anyone from 15 years old
What Message (s) do you hope to convey through this work?
That it is healing and so freeing to tell and explore your life story to someone you feel safe with, because it allows the individual to completely see themselves in pain, hate and fear but with love and acceptance for themselves giving the individual further understanding into why they, others or both have made mistakes and possibly moved in their behaviour to hurt themselves or each other in so many dysfunctional ways.
That once we heal ourselves have more deeper understanding, we can then choose to go back with our own truth to explain and help others heal too, allowing us all to live in internal peace and happiness which I believe will only duplicate outwards to change our world for the better.
Is there a quote or line of text you would like us to consider incorporating into the press release?
“Before I save someone else, I’ve got to save myself, before I blame someone else, I’ve got to save myself and before I love someone else, I’ve got to love myself” Ed Sheeran, 2017
Please supply us with a comprehensive Author biography. Please make sure you include details of where you currently live.
Sharon Shaw, Doncaster, England was a 8 year old girl with a big dream of wanting to help heal the world by promising herself that she would always show her love and truth to everyone. This dream became jeopardised by Pain, Fear and at times Hate. Experiencing from the age of 6 years old sexual, emotional and mental abuse plus many other hard life experiences. Sharon developed into an adult that was lost in hiding all that she was through being in Pain and Fear from past and present experiences…not no more.
Now 36 years later having healed and gaining deeper understanding of her development and internal conflict through studying psychotherapy for 5 years, mediating and experiencing many people who offered her safety and love within their interactions…Sharon is here to tell and show her love and truth to the world, by sharing her story, development and self-analysis in a hope that this process fulfils her childhood dream of inspiring others to learn to understand who they have been and who they could become, which she hopes will help in the process of healing our world.
Please tell us of any media that your book, previous books or you as an individual have attracted, either recently or in the past five years.
First Book, A Child Inside 57,000 words was published January 2018 by Authoright (this book was taken back by Sharon In September 2018, Sharon holds all copyrights to her work)
Sharon was interviewed by ITV news, BBC Radio Sheffield, Trax FM, South Yorkshire Times, Spanish Radio Station, Bradford Radio Station
There was an article written by The Daily Mail femail with a photo shoot this has not yet been published
Sharon is looking to self-publish her books by July 2021 if there is no interest from major publishers
Second Book, Working towards Complete Freedom. 65,000 words are completed and need to be edited.
Third Book, Trying to Keep Balance In an Unbalanced World. 92,000 words are completed and need to be edited.
Fourth Book, No One has the Power to Save You, Only You Hold that Power. 83,000 words are completed and need to be edited.
Fifth Book, Linking Psychotherapy/Psychology, Spirituality and Research into healing and building Self-awareness (not written yet)
