20/11/2025
Disenfranchised grief - The death of our pet can be as distressing as the death of a person. I had my Angel for 18 years and it is still painful 3 years later.
In society folk often say get another one and grief for our pet is minimized - this is is called disenfranchised grief, grief that is not really socially acceptable.
This can also be seen in other ways for example: people who have dementia family may grief their loss before they die. When they die people say you knew they were dying, it doesn't help with feelings or grief to hear such remarks. They've more than likely grieved the same person twice.
We grieve at end of a relationship whether this be a friendship, an affair or a romantic relationship. Being made redundant from a job. People grieve in the same way they do following a bereavement.
This is natural and is as valid as the loss of a beloved person.
If you are struggling then counselling may be of benefit for you. Counselling can provide a safe space for you to talk about your loved one, about what you're missing about them. A place to make sense of what's happened and how you will adjust to them not being here. If you are struggling please send me a direct message on here or visit my website for more information about me and how I work at www.pendulumofpeace.com
