Sandy Tanner Wellbeing

09/01/2026

We had a fantastic start to the New Year with our Women’s Wellbeing group this week.

I had a lovely surprise when they gave me these flowers and card to show their appreciation for me running the groups.

I have so much appreciation for all of them as well.

We have insightful discussions about the functioning of our minds, the formation of our experiences, and the role thought plays in our lives.

These conversations have led to some amazing shifts in perspective: greater, more profound relationships with ourselves and others and how we show up in the world.

I feel privileged to be involved.

If you’d like to join us, we meet at the Dry Dock in Weymouth every Tuesday morning.

If you’d like to learn more, message me and we can arrange a chat. 🥰

08/01/2026

Love this

THURSDAY 8th JANUARY 2026

Spill the coffee....
Laugh.
Can’t find the thing you’ve just put down....
Pause.
Life has a way of making you feel like you’re doing something wrong, when actually… it’s just the timing that’s slightly off.
Breathe.
Step back.

08/01/2026

The spirit of awakening is to live with a loving, wise, kind, connected, and compassionate heart. 💛

31/12/2025

𝗟𝗮𝘀𝘁 𝗖𝗵𝗮𝗻𝗰𝗲

This is it… Last few hours for early bird pricing.

If you've been feeling the pull to come home to yourself, to find that steadier place beneath the noise, this is your invitation.

The Calm Sense Programme starts 20th January.
Book by the end of today, 31 December, and save £120.

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31/12/2025

𝗦𝗶𝗺𝗽𝗹𝗲 𝗧𝗿𝘂𝘁𝗵

Your worth isn't something you earn.

Your calm isn't something you achieve.

Your enough-ness isn't up for debate.

These things were always true. You’ve just forgotten.

Let's remember together.

𝗖𝗮𝗹𝗺 𝗦𝗲𝗻𝘀𝗲 starts on 20 January. Take advantage of the early bird offer and register before the end of today, 31 December, and save £120.

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30/12/2025

𝗪𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗰𝗵𝗮𝗻𝗴𝗲𝘀 𝘄𝗵𝗲𝗻 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗲 𝗵𝗼𝗺𝗲 𝘁𝗼 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿𝘀𝗲𝗹𝗳?

You stop needing everyone's approval.

You trust your own sense.

You move through life with less noise.

You relate to others with more presence.

You see that you were never broken.

This isn't self-improvement. It's self-return.

𝗖𝗮𝗹𝗺 𝗦𝗲𝗻𝘀𝗲: 6 weeks, starting 20th January. Save £120 if you book by 31 Dec.

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29/12/2025

𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗻𝗼𝗶𝘀𝗲 𝗵𝗮𝘀 𝗯𝗲𝗲𝗻 𝗰𝗼𝗻𝘃𝗶𝗻𝗰𝗶𝗻𝗴.

For years, it told me:
“You should be better.”
“You need to earn your place.”
“You’re not quite enough yet.”

And like most people, I took those thoughts seriously…
because they felt familiar.

But the more I understood the nature of thought:
The more I recognised how transient and impersonal my thoughts actually are…
The more I realised how my state of mind could affect my relationship with my thoughts…
The less solid those old stories became.

And in their place, something simple emerged:
A kind, natural appreciation for the person I already am.

Can I still get stuck in the habitual patterns of thinking?
Of course,
and I can still get caught up in overwhelm at times…

But my thoughts don't have nearly as much power as they did:
I don't take my thoughts as seriously…
And, because of this, they don't stick around for as long.

A reflection for you:
What thoughts are you giving power to?

26/12/2025

I created 𝗖𝗮𝗹𝗺 𝗦𝗲𝗻𝘀𝗲 because so many people believe they’re the problem.

They think they lack confidence.

They think they’re too emotional.

They think they should be stronger, calmer, and more disciplined.

But the truth is far simpler...

If you recognise this in yourself, please believe me, you are not the problem.
The problem lies in listening to the noise in your mind.

When that softens, you come back to yourself… naturally.

Calm Sense is a space to remember that.

Over six weeks, we'll explore what it feels like to:
𝗧𝗿𝘂𝘀𝘁 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿𝘀𝗲𝗹𝗳 without overthinking.
𝗦𝘁𝗮𝘆 𝗴𝗿𝗼𝘂𝗻𝗱𝗲𝗱 even when life gets noisy.
𝗦𝘁𝗼𝗽 𝗮𝗯𝗮𝗻𝗱𝗼𝗻𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿𝘀𝗲𝗹𝗳 to keep the peace.
𝗙𝗲𝗲𝗹 𝗮 𝗻𝗮𝘁𝘂𝗿𝗮𝗹 𝗰𝗼𝗻𝗳𝗶𝗱𝗲𝗻𝗰𝗲 that doesn’t depend on others.
𝗦𝗲𝗲 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿𝘀𝗲𝗹𝗳, and others, with clarity and compassion.

Calm Sense isn’t self-improvement...
It’s self-return.

𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗽𝗿𝗼𝗴𝗿𝗮𝗺𝗺𝗲 𝘀𝘁𝗮𝗿𝘁𝘀 𝗼𝗻 𝟮𝟬 𝗝𝗮𝗻𝘂𝗮𝗿𝘆, 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗲𝗮𝗿𝗹𝘆 𝗯𝗶𝗿𝗱 𝗿𝗲𝗴𝗶𝘀𝘁𝗿𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻 𝗲𝗻𝗱𝘀 𝗼𝗻 𝟯𝟭 𝗗𝗲𝗰𝗲𝗺𝗯𝗲𝗿.

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23/12/2025

𝗙𝗼𝗿 𝗮𝗹𝗹 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗼𝘃𝗲𝗿𝘁𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗸𝗲𝗿𝘀 𝘄𝗶𝘁𝗵 𝗯𝗶𝗴 𝗵𝗲𝗮𝗿𝘁𝘀

If you’re the person who tries to keep others happy…
who overthinks every decision…
who feels everything deeply…
who carries the weight of everyone else’s expectations…

Please know this:
Your sensitivity isn’t the problem.
Your mind has just been very noisy.

My Calm Sense small-group coaching programme is a gentle place to find your centre again... to reconnect with the steadier self beneath the noise.

𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗽𝗿𝗼𝗴𝗿𝗮𝗺𝗺𝗲 𝘀𝘁𝗮𝗿𝘁𝘀 𝗼𝗻 𝟮𝟬 𝗝𝗮𝗻𝘂𝗮𝗿𝘆, 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗲𝗮𝗿𝗹𝘆 𝗯𝗶𝗿𝗱 𝗿𝗲𝗴𝗶𝘀𝘁𝗿𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻 𝗲𝗻𝗱𝘀 𝗼𝗻 𝟯𝟭 𝗗𝗲𝗰𝗲𝗺𝗯𝗲𝗿.
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22/12/2025

A couple of months after the moment when everything opened up for me…

When I finally felt I could be unapologetically myself…
Another insight arrived.

It didn’t come in a workshop or during a deep conversation,
or after hours of introspection.
It happened on an ordinary day.

I suddenly realised:
𝗜 𝗱𝗼𝗻’𝘁 𝗵𝗮𝘃𝗲 𝘁𝗼 𝗽𝗿𝗼𝘃𝗲 𝗺𝘆𝘀𝗲𝗹𝗳.
𝗡𝗼𝘁 𝘁𝗼 𝗮𝗻𝘆𝗼𝗻𝗲.
𝗡𝗼𝘁 𝘁𝗼 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝘄𝗼𝗿𝗹𝗱.
𝗔𝗻𝗱 𝗻𝗼𝘁 𝗲𝘃𝗲𝗻 𝘁𝗼 𝗺𝗲.

It was such a simple recognition, but it softened something I’d been carrying for years.

I had spent so much of my life subtly trying to earn my worth…
trying to be good enough…
trying to justify why I deserved space, love, respect, and belonging.

Even when I was doing well externally, internally I was still quietly keeping score.

And then this soft, unforced clarity showed up:
I don’t need to prove anything. I never did.

The relief of that…
It wasn’t loud.
It wasn’t triumphant.
It was more like an exhale I didn’t know I was holding.

Do I still fall back into proving myself sometimes?
Of course. I’m human.
Old thinking is sticky.

But now I see it sooner.
I feel the tension of it.
And I remember that proving was never part of my natural state.

It was just learnt.
And anything you learn can dissolve the moment you stop giving it power.

If you recognise yourself in this…
If you’re tired of trying to be 'enough' for everyone but yourself…
You’re not alone.

This is exactly the kind of shift we explore gently in 𝗖𝗮𝗹𝗺 𝗦𝗲𝗻𝘀𝗲.
Not by doing more, but by seeing more clearly.

You haven’t lost your steadiness.
You’ve just been caught in the noise.
𝗔𝗻𝗱 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗰𝗮𝗻 𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗲 𝗵𝗼𝗺𝗲 𝘁𝗼 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿𝘀𝗲𝗹𝗳 𝗮𝗴𝗮𝗶𝗻 𝘄𝗵𝗲𝗻𝗲𝘃𝗲𝗿 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗿𝗲𝗺𝗲𝗺𝗯𝗲𝗿.

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19/12/2025

A great reminder, especially during this time of year.
Be gentle with yourself and give yourself permission to pause and listen to what you need right now. 🥰

Taking care of your mental well-being goes beyond just relaxation techniques—it’s about taking small, yet powerful actions to soothe your nervous system. From the calming effects of hugs to the stress-relief of yoga and laughter, there are countless natural ways to find peace in your day. These practices don’t just benefit the mind, but can rejuvenate your body and soul as well.

Engaging in grounding activities like walking barefoot on grass or pet therapy can reconnect us to the Earth and offer relief from stress. Whether it's cold exposure or simply practicing deep breathing, your nervous system can find its balance naturally.

These free regulators are powerful tools that anyone can incorporate into their life. Embrace these holistic practices for a calmer, healthier you.🌸🧘‍♀️

18/12/2025

𝗪𝗵𝗲𝗻 𝘆𝗼𝘂’𝘃𝗲 𝗵𝗮𝗱 𝗲𝗻𝗼𝘂𝗴𝗵...

There comes a point where you’re just… done.

Done with overthinking.

Done with holding everything together.

Done with feeling like you’re failing at being human.

That moment matters.

Because it’s usually the moment you become open to seeing something new.

Calm Sense was created for people who’ve reached that point; people who sense that life wasn’t meant to be this hard.

If you feel the pull, trust it.

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