The Grounded Self

26/06/2025

🌿 I'm back, with a new name and a deeper purpose.

Some of you might remember me from, Healthy Thoughts Process, where I supported young people through emotional struggles for almost four years. After taking time to grieve, heal and retrain, I’m now reopening my practice. This time, I’ll be working with adults.

It’s called The Grounded Self, and the name means something to me.

Because healing doesn’t always look like moving on. Sometimes, it looks like coming back to who you really are.

I offer trauma-informed, body-based therapy for adults in a way that’s safe, flexible and genuinely supportive. If you’re feeling anxious, overwhelmed or like you’ve lost touch with yourself, I’d love to work with you.

🟢 £45 per session
🟢 Online or in person
🟢 Flexible options available

Feel free to message me to book or ask any questions. There’s no pressure.
Thank you to everyone who has supported me on this journey. It means more than you know.

With love,
Coleen x

28/04/2023

I have outgrown many things...

I have outgrown relatives who gladly offer criticism but not support.
I have outgrown my need to meet my family’s unrealistic expectations of me.
I have outgrown shrinking myself for people who are intimidated by my intelligence
and outspoken nature.

I have outgrown friends and family who cannot celebrate my accomplishments.
I have outgrown people who conveniently disappear whenever life gets a little dark.

I have outgrown those who take pleasure in gossiping and spreading negativity.
I have outgrown dull, meaningless conversations that feel forced.
I have outgrown those who don’t take a stand against ignorance and injustice.
I have outgrown trying to please everyone.

I have outgrown society constantly telling me I’m not beautiful, smart, or worthy enough.
I have outgrown trying to fix every little flaw.
I have outgrown my tendency to fill my mind with self-doubt and insecurity.
I have outgrown trying to find reasons
not to love myself.
I have outgrown anything and anyone that does not enrich the essence of my soul.
I have outgrown many things, and I’ve never felt freer. 🌿

Creator and Author - Mike Harrigan.

I Am.
You Are.
We Are.
Oneness.
Global Consciousness..

29/01/2023

I've been devoured by my grief and trauma again and it got me thinking...

It's a strange thing to look in the mirror and not even recognise yourself anymore.
To be so fundamentally impacted by a single point in time that you know you're forever changed by it.
This change is cellular.

It's a change you never asked for, never wanted, and yet somehow it became yours to bear.
Somehow, you have to find a way to make peace with this - the version of you that carries the memories, the pain, the anger, the despair, the confusion, the sadness, the loss, the longing, the grief.

I keep crying, holding out my hands and saying, "I've got this big ball of 'stuff' and I just don't know what to do with it. Where does it fit?"
For a long time I've struggled to explain it but here goes...

It's like a foreign object that's trying to enter my body, but my body is freaking out and doing it's best to reject it.
This "stuff" doesn't belong here, in my body, my mind, yet I have no choice but to accept it, cos it certainly ain't going anywhere, that's for sure.
So, I have to find a way to make it fit, to convince my body to accept this awful, unnatural, ball of sh*te that is now mine to own.
I've no idea how the hell to do that but I'm trying. Every day I'm trying.

Murder wrecks everything.
It ripples and poisons and festers. It makes you doubt everything, lose trust, hope, and identity.
It shakes the very foundations of everything you thought you knew and believed. It twists and taints and robs.
Murder is a destroyer of worlds.

I will find a way through this, and shed a million more tears in the process. I will grow and heal.
But I will never, ever be the same again.

27/01/2023

This! 👌🔥🙌

https://www.facebook.com/100050898094916/posts/744314197275177/

10/01/2023

25/11/2022

I just wanted to apologise to you all.
I haven't been active on here for quite some time.
There's a number of reasons for this...

The murder of my baby nephew and loss of my Granny took a huge toll on my life.
The past three years have been wrought with grief, trauma, illness, more losses, court cases, meetings, desperate attempts at survival, and the list goes on.

Amidst all of this I've been working on trying to create a trauma recovery center here, in Northern Ireland, and fighting to appeal the unduly lenient sentence of 13 years handed down to my nephew's murderer.
I've also been pushing to try to get the law amended with regards to baby murders.

There's been a lot going on and keeping up with social media has been the last thing on my mind.
Facebook is taking a major nosedive anyway, I doubt it's going to last much longer.

I'll keep the page going as there's a lot of useful information that has been shared since it's inception, but my main focus will be on the goals mentioned above.

I hope you're all doing as well as you can be and please remember that you're always welcome to reach out if you need some support or just someone to talk to.

Peace and love ✌️💗
Coleen

25/11/2022

Healthy relationships are everything 💚

04/09/2022

The Power of Together

I could hear the birds sing
As the dawn fought it's way towards the horizon.
We sat around the campfire,
Sharing stories and energies with both friends and strangers.
Exploring experiences each of us had -
Experiences that could extinguish stars with the intensity of both its love and pain.
Holding space for one another while we strive to find the wisdom in those wounds.
Weeping uncontrollably,
Lost in the grief we shared, held, nurtured and honoured.

The birds kept singing.
The dawn finally broke.
And together, in the warmth of that beautiful
August morning...

We healed.

©ExplodingSunDesigns

30/08/2022

This Suffering Can't Go On

For too long we've been silent,
While the suffering expands.
Depression, addiction, su***de,
Wreaks havoc across our land.

We've lost fathers, mothers, siblings,
Children and friends too.
People who really mattered,
People like me and you.

Our community is in pain,
With nowhere they can turn.
I'm done with the excuses,
It's time for the tide to turn.

The system is badly broken,
Not fit to serve its purpose.
Designed to help and support,
Yet it only seems to hurt us.

Alone we might struggle,
But together we stand strong.
Demanding change is necessary,
This suffering can't go on.

©ExplodingSunDesigns

***de

21/08/2022

I Fear I'm Losing My Mind

It's easy to get stuck in the darkness,
Forget how to feel alive.
No energy, motivation or lustre,
Barely a will to survive.

I question what keeps me going
Amidst this cloud of existential dread.
My heart tells me not to give up,
I wish it could convince my head.

Being a human is complicated,
It's messy and unrefined.
Lost in attempts to figure it out,
I fear that I'm losing my mind.

©ExplodingSunDesigns

14/08/2022

35,000 followers on my TikTok channel! 🤯

It's incredible how thirsty people are for knowledge and information on the topic of trauma and trauma recovery.
If this is something you're interested in, why not jump on the page and take a look?
The more informed we are the easier it will be to help ourselves and others who are suffering. 🧡



https://www.tiktok.com/.traumarecovery.ni?_t=8UowE7ds1RN&_r=1

11/08/2022

Wisdom. 🙌
Shame and punishment do not inspire improvement, but what it does instill, is fear and trauma. No child needs that.