Be Mindful Fife

28/09/2025

27/09/2025

"Your pain, your sorrow, your doubts, your deepest longing, your fearful thoughts...are not mistakes, and they aren't asking to be healing.
They are asking to be held. Here, now, lightly, in the loving arms of present awareness.” - Jeff Foster.

27/09/2025

27/09/2025

So remember- anger is about our protection system.

Normally the anger is trying to protect us from feeling what is below it - what feels too vulnerable.

Anger often jumps out to protect me when someone approaches my wounds of rejection, shame, grief, humiliation and hurt.

So when we say ‘try sitting with your anger”. It’s not because the anger is wrong.

For me it’s about sitting and gently holding my anger to see what it’s trying to protect me from.

Then I have an opportunity to acknowledge, and at some point soothe myself and ultimately accept that it’s okay to feel this vulnerability because I’m perfectly imperfect- a human being .

The more I do this the less anger jumps out unskilfully and frightens people away.

I’ve been working on this all year. Don’t get me wrong it’s horrible & uncomfortable to sit with and talk about my feelings of rejection and hurt etc because I don’t want to own them as my stuff. Does anyone?

But it’s liberating to bring them out into the light. If I don’t it provides fertile ground for shame to fester around them (there is something wrong with me) and that leads to isolation and loneliness. Shame loves those conditions.

Worse is when we project this anger into blaming other people or groups of people. "You are the cause of my anger" and then finding groups of people to agree with you and so you can really vent at them with righteousness. When I studied Rwanda - It was one of the key motivations behind the genocide - once these people are eradicated the world will be a great place. Well at least until someone else touches your shame and vulnerability.

So the next time you see some screaming “F**K OFF”. Maybe just acknowledge you are witnessing someone trying to unskilfully protect their suffering/vulnerability.

If that person is you - go speak to therapist . You don’t have to suffer on your own - at least that is my experience.
Love n peace

26/09/2025

Stone girl - Nadia Colburn - with the stone face. The stone heart stone hands stone feet. See in between she has also stone...

26/09/2025

There’s a phrase that we use when teaching mindfulness for times when we feel challenged during a teaching session  or unsure of how a situation will unfold: hold your seat. For the most part …

22/09/2025

Andy Goldsworth exhibition - the Oak Passage was a great analogy for life - possibly we have all experienced life as harsh and spiky with no obvious way through it at some point, but often there is a path to be found that leads us through to the next stage or lesson.

Seize the day x