Surviving To Thriving - Childhood Sexual Abuse

04/03/2020

Trust is something that is placed high on the list of personal values for many people, myself included.

Being trustworthy comes high on my list of what it means to live with integrity. Not only that, I have held extremely high expectations when it comes to the levels of trust I expect others to demonstrate.

These high expectations haven't always served me well as I navigated through my life. I have swung from being excessively trusting (overly trusting as my better half has frequently said to me throughout the years) to not feeling able to trust anybody. Typically what happens in both these scenarios is that I get injured in any case.

I have deepened into a new awareness around trust, and what I found interesting is that it's got nothing to do with trusting people and all about trusting yourself.

It now looks to me that trust is more about trusting yourself to make the right decisions that are aligned to you and are always in your best interest.

Trust is trusting that voice of wisdom when it tells you this doesn't feel right and not ignoring it or putting it down to you being negative, selfish or fearful.

Trust now looks a lot more like not doing things to people please when your inner wisdom is screaming no - so many times in my life I turn the volume of my internal GPS down because I wanted to see people happy and encourage them. Still, all too often this has come at a cost and almost always ends up with me not being in alignment with what's right for me.

I now see that trust isn't something that we have to accomplish for others; it is a blessing we provide for ourselves by figuring out how to peer inside and tune in with an open heart to the wisdom that is always guiding us.

Trust is leaning into your higher self, and knowing who you are at your core, and with this knowledge comes a desire always to do what's for your highest good. Even if at times other people may be disappointed!

I've realised that there is no need for me ever to learn whether to trust people or not, but more learning to listen deeply to that voice that is already there lighting the path and showing me the way which will always lead to a deeper alignment of trust in myself.

When we trust ourselves in this way, we are far less likely to engage in situations or activities where trust might be broken.

As we learn to lean into our wisdom more, we will always do what is in our best interest and navigate away from anything that's not.

Next time you feel someone has broken your trust, pause for a minute to ponder what I have shared and notice where or when you didn't tune in to your insight and gently remind yourself that all that truly happened was that you settled on a choice or decision that wasn't guided by your inner wisdom. Despite that wisdom nudging you for reasons outside of your awareness, you decided not to listen to you that voice. Knowing that next time, now that you have this new awareness too, you can slow down to hear the wisdom that's working its way through you.

When we listen deeply to that voice, it always moves us towards love, joy and happiness and never away from it.

Love

Avril xx
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25/02/2020

Are you holding a deep-rooted belief that you are broken in some way?

So often I told myself I was broken, damaged and would never be able to live a happy, fulfilling life. Somewhere deep down inside I knew that wasn’t true, yet everything I was doing to help myself was telling me I must be broken!

It can be such a challenge to move forward in life when we feel stuck and feel like there is no way out. I was hugely successful but hid deep-seated anxieties and fears that stopped me from moving forward in my life.

I tried all sorts of self-help approaches that helped to begin with, but unless I was super disciplined and kept on top of using these approaches the plasters would eventually fall off, and I would be back feeling like I had always felt!

When we carry baggage on the inside from the past and no matter what we have done to “fix it” and we just can't shake it off, It’s understandable that we believe we are broken, live small and hide from experiences in life we sincerely desire to live.

That was me, I was that woman and know exactly how that feels.

Carla, was in a similar place too when we first met. I literally felt her overwhelm and anxiety. Carla shared that for most of her adult life she struggled with depression, feelings of guilt, shame and self-loathing.

Carla held a lifelong belief that she was broken, and nothing could fix her.

Fast forward in time, Carla no longer feels unworthy, her intimate relationships are flourishing, and she feels able to be precisely the person she wants to be.

She now lives life authentically from the inside out. In other words, Carla is thriving!

I have worked with thousands of clients like Carla who have similar problems, for others, it’s relationships issues and other forms of self-sabotage.

What they share in common is that they all have feelings of not being good enough, worthy enough, and not deserving of a happy, prosperous life, and BELIEVE they are BROKEN!

I now know that's not true, none of us are broken and none of us need to be fixed!

Join me on my Free webinar and take the first step in "Reinventing" your life from the inside out! -

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25/02/2020

Are you holding a deep-rooted belief that you are broken in some way?
So often I told myself I was broken, damaged and would never be able to live a happy, fulfilling life. Somewhere deep down inside I knew that wasn’t true, yet everything I was doing to help myself was telling me I must be broken!
It can be such a challenge to move forward in life when we feel stuck and feel like there is no way out. I was hugely successful but hid deep-seated anxieties and fears that stopped me from moving forward in my life. I tried all sorts of self-help approaches that helped to begin with, but unless I was super disciplined and kept on top of using these approaches the plasters would eventually fall off, and I would be back feeling like I had always felt!
When we carry baggage on the inside from the past and no matter what we have done to “fix it” and we just can't shake it off, It’s understandable that we believe we are broken, live small and hide from experiences in life we sincerely desire to live.
That was me, I was that woman and know exactly how that feels.
Carla, was in a similar place too when we first met. I literally felt her overwhelm and anxiety. Carla shared that for most of her adult life she struggled with depression, feelings of guilt, shame and self-loathing. Carla held a lifelong belief that she was broken, and nothing could fix her.
Fast forward in time, Carla no longer feels unworthy, her intimate relationships are flourishing, and she feels able to be precisely the person she wants to be.
She now lives life authentically from the inside out. In other words, Carla is thriving!
I have worked with thousands of clients like Carla who have similar problems, for others, it’s relationships issues and other forms of self-sabotage. What they share in common is that they all have feelings of not being good enough, worthy enough, and not deserving of a happy, prosperous life, and BELIEVE they are BROKEN!
I now know that's not true, none of us are broken and none of us need to be fixed!
Join me on my Free webinar and take the first step in "Reinventing" your life from the inside out! -

Webinar, how to experience relief from anxiety, depression and overwhelm

21/12/2018

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14/05/2018

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