01/03/2026
In all my years of being a reflexologist the hardest part for me is when we loose a client, because when a client comes through your door for the very first appointment that is when the conection starts, some clients have no idea what's about to happen, some come for relaxation some come in pain and want to feel some relief, some come with a curious mind.
But when a client walks into your clinic for the first time and says
'I have absolutely no idea why I am here'
You know exactly why they chose you no matter how many miles they traveled,no matter how many others they passed by to reach you, you know they did not come, they were sent.
It's always in this first meeting you can gather the information "why " and that is exactly how my first meeting with this client began almost four years ago sadly grief brought him to me, he hadn't only lost his wife, his best friend, the Mother of their beautiful children he lost the other half of him, his soulmate and how he was going to navigate life from here was going to be the hardest walk he would ever make and I guess, he wanted me too help guide him as he himself had absolutely no idea.
This we done together at each and every appointment we talked, laughed, cried talked some more actually talked lots, and over that time it helped him so much, he gained some confidence, his shoulders raised a little, his talks became more positive, he talked about his plans nothing big just adjustments in his life, how his sleep had improved, we talked about his grief and how he was missing his beautiful wife.
His children his grandchildren, nothing was left out we didn't rush we just went with whatever was needed on each visit.
But through tears, loneliness, heartache, love of his family his children there partners, his funny beautiful fast growing grandchildren, friends and neighbours he somehow managed too navigate it, his hobbies with his sons he spoke about so passionately, how even after he took a step back from his work he could still fill his day's but it was in the quiet of the night he found it the hardest, maybe just maybe he was a good actor when I would ask how are you today ?
'7 times outta 10 he would say he was good, but on those other times he wasn't good because no matter how many people you have around you in this life, no matter how much love those people show you, no matter how you spend your day trying to fill each hour, it's in those small hours when your alone with racing thoughts, that are no doubt the hardest in trying to live you life without one half of you, and knowing this is your life now, memories is all you have as grief is now another feeling you carry day and night a heavy lonely feeling that can torment your racing thoughts.
Today I learned his last appointment was to be his last, 💔 and though he has left in a untimely way,
I can't help but think was it?
Regardless all I can hope for today is his departure was to be back with his soulmate the love of his life, the other 'half' of him, the Mother of his children, the grandmother of their beautiful grandchildren, and together they will watch over them from a different place send them signs daily that though they've left they will continue to look after them keeping them safe as they are reunited in the next path together again.
Life is fragile 💔 treat every day like it's your last, and never forget to hug your loved ones as you's part it may just be your last 💔
Rest easy my dear friend thank you for allowing me into your life 🙏
