Mr Step

13/08/2024

Being on a long journey can mean many things. Whether that journey is mental or physical it can take you around corners and over obstacles that take great strength to surpass. Just stay focused on your end goal and you will get there. Eventually

12/08/2024

Aurora has an aura to her doesn't she. She brings peace and enjoyment and so much beauty to darkness. There's always light within the dark. You just have to have the right tools to capture it.

11/08/2024

Stary night. Already counted 5 shooting stars so far and what seems like a million satellites. A very calming night indeed.

11/08/2024

Did anyone miss me?? I've been out in the wilderness trying to find myself and I think I may have just done so...

21/05/2023

Roughly there have been about 100 billion people to have ever lived in the world. Think about that. Loads right?

When you were born, there were about 40 million other s***m competing to be the one to fertilise the egg you came from. Think of that and how many of them have never and now will never have a chance to be alive.

And then think of how many others in the whole world will never exist because they weren't the one to win the race. The race of life.

It's amazing to think that from all the odds we were the ones to win. We exist against all odds.

It's a gift and we are a miracle. You are all miracles.

Make sure you take advantage of that

21/05/2023

Camels have 5 legs

Did you even know that??

Made you think about it didn't it.... Made you want to look into it further and work out if that's true or not.

It made you over think.. that's exactly how anxiety works. You think about it and think about it and the more you do it the worse it is.

The trick is to try and focus on things outside your brain. Use a hobby of your own to distract yourself. Spend time with your family or close ones, being with people you love can help.

Routine is key as well... It allows you to focus forward and gives you some organisation instead of an .

Get out of your own head... Because you will make everything a lot worse.

But I promise camels do have 5 legs... Google it

20/05/2023

Being out in nature is a wonderful healer for me. The picturesque scenary, the scent of the luscious grass covered in droplets of dew, the peace and quiet. It's such a blessing to live near somewhere you can come to reset and relax.

I'm no gym goer, far from it, but I do walk as much as I can. Any form of exercise helps to improve your mood as the natural endorphins race around your mind to give you that natural 'high'.

It should be a massive part of your weekly routine, to give yourself that time because getting up and doing is much better for you than not doing at all.

It might be hard

But it will make you feel a lot better once you do.

19/05/2023

I've hit a realisation recently that to be in a good place you need to learn to be grateful for things. Being thankful can be for anything in your life, but you start to appreciate everything a lot more. Being grateful for waking up in the morning, for your partner and children (if you have either). You could be grateful for standing up as a strong single person.

Relationships, life, possessions or feelings no matter what it is, if you appreciate that you can use that as a target thought process.

Waking up, feeling low use that time to think about the things you appreciate. Write them down. Read them out loud. Whatever helps you it allows you to think about positive happier things and can help to try and reset your mindset and give you a little boost when you need it the most.

I am grateful for my family

I am grateful for the life I have now.

I am grateful for the friends I have

I am also grateful to my Dad. If it wasn't for what happened and the journey I went on for over 10 years after the su***de then I wouldn't have came through it with the experiences I have had to then be able to be in a place to help others.

What are you grateful for?

17/05/2023

Life is what you make of it. It's been tough recently with the many money issues a lot of people are experiencing. I like to see it as an opportunity to learn new things and do new things which don't cost a lot but also allow you to escape the realism of what life is throwing at you.

It allows you to also focus on maintaining a healthy existence and improving on good mental health techniques. Anything you can do to improve your mindset and mood is positive. It gives you a chance to clear all the stresses and grey dullness of bad feelings and thoughts and resets your energies into something good.

I have been doing a lot of self learning, taking a journey to try and make things better for my own self. This allows me to then focus my energy on helping and supporting others which has been something I have needed to do to get back to where we were.

It's okay to reset.

It's okay to give yourself the time you need for yourself.

It's okay to not be okay and to admit that.

It's okay to be you .

21/12/2022

Good morning. Stay strong. Be greatful. And if your day is grey, put some colour in it.

Much love.. Mr Step

27/03/2022

Mothers

To all mothers, m**s, mums, mammas and moms. Today is about appreciating everything they have done for you and that they are in your lives. Some maybe having heavenly mothers day but they are still appreciated.

I have two woman in my life that have helped to guide me to where I am today. Sometimes with love and other times with tough love but love nonetheless.

I am thankful for them both.

They inspire me daily by either being there for me and being there more for my kids, who also show appreciation for there love.

Mental health is a cruel thing and I have certainly affected them by being who I am. They have dealt with a lot and they probably will continue, but I know they will be there. And thats the appreciation I have. The knowledge that no matter how hard things are, no matter the circumstances, they will be there.

For support.

And that's important, so keep them close.

24/03/2022

22/03/2022

𝔹𝕒𝕣𝕣𝕚𝕖𝕣𝕤

I don’t think I have ever been through a period of my life without any form of struggle. Its something I have grown used to and I’ve created a sort of resilience against. I have learnt ways to cope with harder times, with bereavement, with my breakdown, with divorce, with abandonment. These issues have created a barrier, a brick way of toughness which took a long time to get through and realise that it was wrong.

No matter what it is or whatever you want to call it is not a form of strength. It is a form of weakness, strength lies in facing the bad things head on, dealing with the troubles in using your emotions and accepting the feelings you have toward the situation. Men in general find this difficult. Hence the need for more to talk about it and I do think we are in a position now to say people are opening up.

𝗕𝘂𝘁 𝘄𝗲 𝗻𝗲𝗲𝗱 𝘁𝗼 𝗱𝗼 𝗺𝗼𝗿𝗲.

Again, I am going to try and use my experiences to help people for the better. People need to be open to help others open up, its as simple as that.

𝓣𝓱𝓮𝓻𝓮 𝓷𝓮𝓮𝓭𝓼 𝓽𝓸 𝓫𝓮 𝓽𝓻𝓾𝓽𝓱, 𝓽𝓱𝓮𝓻𝓮 𝓷𝓮𝓮𝓭𝓼 𝓽𝓸 𝓫𝓮 𝓱𝓸𝓷𝓮𝓼𝓽𝔂 𝓪𝓷𝓭 𝓽𝓱𝓮𝓻𝓮 𝓷𝓮𝓮𝓭𝓼 𝓽𝓸 𝓪𝓬𝓬𝓮𝓹𝓽𝓪𝓷𝓬𝓮 𝓸𝓯 𝓼𝓾𝓹𝓹𝓸𝓻𝓽, 𝓸𝓯 𝓸𝓹𝓮𝓷𝓷𝓮𝓼𝓼 𝓽𝓸 𝓪𝓵𝓵𝓸𝔀 𝓯𝓸𝓻 𝓱𝓮𝓪𝓵𝓲𝓷𝓰.

𝕊𝕠 𝕝𝕖𝕥𝕤 𝕘𝕖𝕥 𝕙𝕖𝕒𝕝𝕚𝕟𝕘 𝕚𝕟𝕤𝕥𝕖𝕒𝕕 𝕠𝕗 𝕓𝕒𝕣𝕣𝕚𝕖𝕣 𝕓𝕦𝕚𝕝𝕕𝕚𝕟𝕘.....

25/10/2021

Well Hello there. NOW is the time for help and support. Lets bring this back

16/06/2021

ＲＥＧＲＥＴＳ

I would love to be able to speak to anyone out there who literally has no regrets at all. I do not think a person like that exists, even the smallest of regrets, everyone has them. It is what you do with those regrets and the lessons you have learned from them that makes you the person you are.

If you are the type of person to live their life trying to not live with them, to try and live life to the full then you are lucky to be able to continue like that. However, there’s’ most of us who do live with regrets.

𝐵𝓊𝓉 𝒽𝑜𝓌 𝒹𝑜 𝓎𝑜𝓊 𝒻𝒶𝒸𝑒 𝓉𝒽𝑒𝓂, 𝓊𝓃𝒹𝑒𝓇𝓈𝓉𝒶𝓃𝒹 𝓉𝒽𝑒𝓂 𝒶𝓃𝒹 𝓁𝑒𝒶𝓇𝓃 𝒻𝓇𝑜𝓂 𝓉𝒽𝑒𝓂 𝓂𝑜𝓋𝒾𝓃𝑔 𝒻𝑜𝓇𝓌𝒶𝓇𝒹?

𝕋𝕙𝕒𝕥 𝕚𝕤 𝕒 𝕘𝕠𝕠𝕕 𝕢𝕦𝕖𝕤𝕥𝕚𝕠𝕟.

I suppose if the regret is significant, it could affect your decision making, trust in people or a process or in yourself, there are numerous factors to take into consideration. If the regrets have left you with guilt or trauma, then the situation could be more engrained and much harder to get past.

The thing with regrets is that they are entrenched in our mind, they will never go away. They will always talk to us, pop up when uninvited remind us of the choice made that lead to the regrets in the first place.

But my advice is to embrace them. You are where you are because of the decisions you have made and based on fate you are there for a reason. Reflecting on bad times and blaming yourself for them, in that you are wasting precious time in making your journey, mindset and own mental health any good.

𝗦𝗼, 𝗿𝗲𝗹𝗮𝘅, 𝘀𝗵𝗶𝘁 𝗵𝗮𝗽𝗽𝗲𝗻𝘀, 𝗻𝗲𝘃𝗲𝗿 𝗿𝗲𝗴𝗿𝗲𝘁 𝗮𝗴𝗮𝗶𝗻 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝘄𝗶𝘁𝗵𝗶𝗻 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗺𝗮𝘆 𝗳𝗶𝗻𝗱 𝗽𝗲𝗮𝗰𝗲.

15/06/2021

Ｈｏｎｅｓｔｙ

A quite common issue with a lot of people is being able to be open about how you feel or what is going on, being open and honest. It has been something I have struggled with my whole life and has affected a lot of things, relationships, work, friends, everything.

I grew up in a world and a situation which meant I had to do what I could to survive the next day without being defeated. Doing things, a child shouldn’t be doing to get through the next day without violence or being chastised. I totally believe that doing that has engrained a defence mechanism inside me which has left me with an issue not only with trust but honesty as well. Bing brought up and encouraged to keep things from people has been to the detriment of a lot of things.

𝒯𝒽𝑒 𝓉𝓇𝓊𝓉𝒽 𝒾𝓈 𝐼 𝒻𝒾𝓃𝒹 𝒾𝓉 𝒽𝒶𝓇𝒹 𝓉𝑜 𝒷𝑒 𝒽𝑜𝓃𝑒𝓈𝓉. I keep things in, I hide things, I leave things out, I lie to myself and others, but I do that because for me it’s the easy way out, it’s the only way to avoid conflict.

𝕀 𝕒𝕞 𝕥𝕖𝕣𝕣𝕚𝕗𝕚𝕖𝕕 𝕠𝕗 𝕔𝕠𝕟𝕗𝕝𝕚𝕔𝕥. 𝕀𝕥 𝕤𝕔𝕒𝕣𝕖𝕤 𝕞𝕖 𝕥𝕠 𝕥𝕙𝕖 𝕓𝕠𝕟𝕖. 𝔸𝕟𝕕 𝕒𝕕𝕞𝕚𝕥𝕥𝕚𝕟𝕘 𝕥𝕙𝕒𝕥 𝕥𝕖𝕣𝕣𝕚𝕗𝕚𝕖𝕤 𝕞𝕖 𝕖𝕧𝕖𝕟 𝕞𝕠𝕣𝕖.

‘𝒜𝓃𝓎𝓉𝒽𝒾𝓃𝑔 𝒻𝑜𝓇 𝒶𝓃 𝑒𝒶𝓈𝓎 𝓁𝒾𝒻𝑒’ this quote is so relatable and has this as a hidden meaning, anything for an easy life, well life isn’t easy and lying about the bad things doesn’t make things easy either it makes things worse and sometimes makes it impossible to come back from.

𝗜𝗳 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝘄𝗮𝗻𝘁 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝗲𝗮𝘀𝘆 𝗹𝗶𝗳𝗲, 𝗱𝗼𝗻’𝘁 𝗯𝗲 𝗺𝗲, 𝘁𝗮𝗸𝗲 𝗺𝘆 𝗮𝗱𝘃𝗶𝗰𝗲 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗯𝗲 𝗵𝗼𝗻𝗲𝘀𝘁.

𝗔𝗻𝗱 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝘁𝘀 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝘁𝗿𝘂𝘁𝗵.