Velia Tigano - Core Energetics & BioGestalt Professional Counsellor MBACP

01/10/2024

People wonder about the meaning of life. What’s it all about? What justifies suffering and misery? Making things better. Making a difference. That’s what justifies it. With all that is pushing against you, ask yourself how much you can push back. Can you move the horror an inch back with all the strength you have at your disposal? The answer to that is: Yes, you can. Doing so makes you better with regard to yourself, but it also makes the world a better place.

-- J. Peterson

18/08/2024

Feel the feeling but don’t become the emotion. Witness it. Allow it. Release it.

24/05/2024

«Even after we “know”, we are all impelled to know more and more...
This process has been phrased by some, as the search of meaning. We shall then postulate a desire to understand, to
systemize, to organize, to analyze, to look for relations and meanings, to construct a system of values.»

«It seems quite clear that the need to know, if we are to understand it well, must be integrated with fear of knowing,
with anxiety, with need for safety and security. All those psychological and social factors that increase fear will cut
our impulse to know... The cognitive needs show themselves most clearly in safe and non-anxious situations.»

Abraham Maslow

10/04/2024

Do not be dismayed by the brokennes of the world. All things break. And all things can be amended. Not with time, as they say, but with intention.
So go, love intentionally, extravagantly, unconditionally.
The broken world waits in darkness for the light that is in you.

— L. R. Knost

05/04/2024

03/04/2024

There is a special quality of stillness in a person who encounters the shadow wholeheartedly.
Your body may relax in their company because it understands, in the subtle communications of their presence, that nothing is excluded in themselves, therefore nothing in you can be rejected.
Such a person, who has given up guarding against the shadow, who has come to wear their scars with dignity, no longer squirms from discomfort or bristles at suffering. They no longer brace in avoidance of conflict. They carry a deep willingness to dance with the inconstancy of life.
They've given up distancing as a strategy, and made vulnerability their ally.

(Toko-pa Turner)

07/03/2024

Remove Resentment.

People struggle to give praise in relationships because of underlying resentment. If you resent someone and they do something good, you opt out of praising them because you don't want to reward them in any shape or form. In the process, you've just punished them for doing what you want.

(J. Peterson)

20/01/2024

We shall not cease from exploration
and the end of all our exploring
will be to arrive where we started
and to know the place for the first time.

T.S. Eliot

15/11/2023

This quote reminds us that the 'good life' is not about achieving a perfect state of being. Instead, it's about moving in a direction that feels right for us, one that aligns with our deepest values and desires. It's about having the psychological freedom to explore, to change, and to grow.

In counselling, we strive to create a space where this freedom exists - where individuals can explore their paths without judgment, where they can learn to understand and trust their inner selves, and where they can courageously move towards their own unique direction in life.

Let's celebrate counselling as a journey, not just a destination, and honor the process of growing, learning, and evolving every day.

"It seems to me that the good life is not any fixed state. It is not, in my estimation, a state of virtue, or contentment, or nirvana, or happiness. It is not a condition in which the individual is adjusted, fulfilled, or actualized….The good life is a process, not a state of being…It is a direction, not a destination. The direction…is that which is selected by the total organism, when there is psychological freedom to move in any direction"

Rogers, C., 1961. On becoming a person. Boston: Houghton Mifflin, pp.186 - 187.

29/09/2023

The art of a sincere apology.

23/09/2023

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Il corso sarà tenuto da Velia Tigano, Online Counselor certificato, Professional Counselor e Coach, con un approccio Core Energetico e BioGestaltico. 🤝

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13/09/2023

To love someone long-term is to attend a thousand funerals of the people they used to be. The people they're too exhausted to be any longer. The people they grew out of, the people they never ended up growing into. We so badly want the people we love to get their spark back when it burns out, to become speedily found when they are lost.
But it is not our job to hold anyone accountable to the people they used to be. It is our job to travel with them between each version and to honor what emerges along the way. Sometimes it will be an even more luminescent flame. Sometimes it will be a flicker that temporarily floods the room with a perfect and necessary darkness.

[Heidi Priebe]