Mind Body Power Coach

07/12/2025

Life with a D🦩ckhead on a typical Sunday.

D — Denial: “It’s just a bad mood.”
I — Illusion: “If I stay calm, they’ll be kind.”
C — Control: The day is managed by their face.
K — Keep Quiet: You swallow your needs to keep peace.
H — Hook: A tiny crumb of approval and you reset your hope.
E — Exhaustion: You’re tired before lunch.
A — Awakening: You clock the pattern. Again.
D — Detachment: You stop arguing with reality.

And here’s the part that keeps adults stuck:
this isn’t one bad Sunday. It’s a cycle.

You get the tension.
You do the emotional labour.
They flip it on you.
You apologise.
They soften.
You hope.
Then it resets for next weekend.

If your Sundays feel like emotional community service, this isn’t love.
It’s conditioning.

DM “SUNDAY” and I’ll send you a short reset plan to protect your nervous system, rebuild boundaries, and start breaking the cycle.

01/12/2025

🦩LIVING WITH A NARCISSIST
IN WINTER😢

Shorter days. Colder nights. Less energy.
More time stuck indoors with someone who:
• Sulks because you’re “miserable” when you’re actually exhausted
• Picks fights just as you’re trying to get cosy
• Uses the dark nights to monitor where you are, who you’re with, what you’re doing
• Calls you a drama queen when your mood dips, instead of noticing you might actually be struggling

Winter with a narcissist isn’t just, a hard season, it’s emotional captivity.
You’re freezing on the inside while they still somehow make themselves the victim.

If you’re sat in a house that looks warm from the outside but feels icy as hell on the inside… that’s not you, being ungrateful.
That’s your nervous system screaming: this isn’t safe, this isn’t love.

You’re not weak for feeling worse in winter.
You’re human. And you’re living in a psychological snowstorm.

If this hits, you’re not mad and you’re not alone.
You’re stuck in a pattern.

❄️ DM me if you want help quietly planning your way out of the winter narcissist cycle – emotionally, mentally and practically.

25/11/2025

YOU WONT COPE ON YOUR OWN!

That’s one of The D🦩ckhead Effect’s favourite lines.

They don’t just want control of your time.
They want control of your nervous system:
– isolate you so you forget what real support feels like
– criticise you so you stop trusting your own judgement
– drip-feed attention so your body confuses anxiety with love

By the time they’re done, you’re not just scared of losing them…
you’re scared of losing the version of you that revolves around them.

So even when you finally leave, their voice pops up every time you:
– book a trip on your own
– wear something that makes you stand out
– feel happy without them

“Who do you think you are?”
“You’ll end up alone.”

Here’s the truth:
You were never terrified of being single.
You were terrified of the shame, blame and punishment you learned to expect if you dared to stand alone.

You’re more like that windmill than you realise – built to stand tall, create power and light up the night, whether anyone approves or not.

If you’ve left the D🦩ckhead but their voice still runs your life, that isn’t “just how you are” – it’s a psychological pattern, and it can be rewired.

DM me the word DI****AD if you’re ready to start breaking that hold and rebuilding a life that doesn’t revolve around someone else’s chaos.

24/11/2025

🦩Monday might be grey, but I’m remembering Amsterdam instead 💗

🦩Same canal. Same day. Same woman.
Two very different bikes.

🦩💐 One covered in flowers – loved, cared for, proudly on show.
🗑 One dragged out of the canal – rusted, twisted, forgotten.

That’s what The D🦩ckhead Effect can do over time – slowly dragging you under until you don’t recognise yourself.

You’re allowed to choose differently at any point, including right now.
Gentle reminder: while you’re busy trying to make sense of them psychologically, your own mind, body and future might be quietly rusting.

If you feel more like the grey, rusted bike than the pink, flowered one… DM me the word GREY and I’ll send you something to help you start changing that.

21/11/2025

Any other adults feel like this flamingo just called you out? 🦩

On paper you’re “fine”:
job ✅
home ✅
doing your best for everyone else ✅

But inside your head it’s:
➤ constant overthinking
➤ replaying old conversations
➤ planning for the next explosion that might not even come

That isn’t you “being dramatic”.
That’s a nervous system stuck in survival mode from years of:
• walking on eggshells
• fixing everyone else
• abandoning yourself to keep the peace

You’re not broken.
You’re patterned.
And patterns can be rewired.

I’m Dawn (PinkBird) – therapist & coach for adults whose lives look fine but feel like chaos inside.

If your head is the battlefield and you’re ready to stop fighting it alone, DM me “BATTLEFIELD”
and I’ll send you a couple of straight-talking questions to see if 1:1 owork with me is a good fit🦩

30/10/2025

🦩WHEN LOVE DEMANDS PERMISSION, IT’S PRISON🦩
If you must get approval to see friends, spend money, or sleep— that’s control, not commitment.
We broke the C-K-H-E loop (Control → Keep Quiet → Hook → Exhaustion) and moved to A-D (Awakening → Detachment).
You don’t need another apology. You need a plan.

DM “DI****AD.”

Emergencies: 999

20/10/2025

19/10/2025

🧠 EMPATHY COURT — CASE CLOSED ⚖️
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Ever noticed how narcissists demand closure after they’ve destroyed yours?
They’re not looking for healing — they’re looking for control.
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Psychologically, people with low empathy can’t tolerate ambiguity or loss of power.
They don’t want to understand your pain — they want to check if they can still pull your strings.
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Here’s the truth ⤵️
You don’t owe closure to someone who’d fail both a lie detector and a basic empathy test.
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Closure doesn’t come from their apology — it comes from your decision to stop needing one.
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🦩 Judge Flamingo’s verdict:
Case dismissed. Go live your peace.
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Everyone knows someone who needs to hear this —
Tag them. Share it. Help them walk out of Empathy Court for good.
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24/09/2025

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