25/07/2025
When someone living with dementia shows aggression - whether shouting, hitting, or other behaviours - it can be incredibly difficult and distressing for loved ones.
Often, this behaviour is a way for the person to express confusion, fear, pain, or unmet needs they can’t communicate clearly.
People with dementia may feel overwhelmed, frustrated or scared when they don’t recognize what’s happening around them. Understanding these triggers can help carers respond with patience and support.
If you’re supporting a loved one, here are some practical tips that might help:
🔍 Identify triggers: Think about what might have caused the behaviour (i.e. a change in routine). For example, someone who values independence may feel upset if they’re helped with personal tasks.
🎵 Use music to soothe and calm: Try playing their favourite songs, especially during times they tend to get agitated or before challenging activities like bathing.
💤 Prioritise sleep: Tiredness increases frustration. Help the person get enough restful sleep to reduce aggressive episodes.
😌 Create a calm environment: Use comforting items like soft blankets, gentle lighting, nature sounds, or calming scents (lavender works well).
🚨 Look for pain: Signs like rubbing a body part, grimacing, restlessness, or changes in appetite might mean discomfort.
What approaches do you find helpful?
