30/03/2026
Looking to the past with the “present” gaze , can lead us to be really hard on ourselves.
We blame ourselves “Why did you do that in such way”, “Why didn’t you realise? All the signs were there”, “You should have taken a different decision”.
We revisit the situation, with new eyes, with many processed feelings, with clarity and distance. Hence we see it differently from there, we can see the nuances, intuition speaks clearly, we observe patterns. We suddenly have language for something we knew in our body but didn’t have words for it in our mind.
Guilt is sometimes the only thing we have control over the here and now. We come back to it. Again and again. An inner part of ourselves doesn’t want to let go the chance of taking better care of ourselves, the chance of having done something different. Despite that, you always did what you thought it was best with what you knew back then. Remember this last bit.