Simply Perform

01/08/2024

Very grateful to the Sport & Exercise professionals who joined me last night to discuss solution focused conversation skills in the briefest of conversations. 🙏

We dived into the importance of listening out for subtle clues of the person's strengths, resilience and hopes, despite the significant challenges they may be facing. 👂

And from the tiniest of clues, building on it through the questions we ask. ❓

I love this stuff.

Day in day out, I'm awe struck by what people describe to me.

From how they're coping with what life's given them to what their hopes would look like tomorrow, in the tiniest and actionable of details.

Sometimes, if you watch and listen carefully, the person talking to you isn't the same person who first walked in. They've transformed in some way.

It's like they become more aware of their strengths, resources, and resilience. They grow in stature. Their motivation is lighting up. Hope is brewing.

All I've done is listen, and ask questions that I hope will help.

Every. Moment. Matters.

I'm wondering, when have you been awe struck by another person's change, in the briefest of times? What did you notice about the process?

23/06/2024

❓ Are 'wellbeing' posts a bit too fluffy for you?

In my roles as a sport psychologist and therapist, I see and hear a lot said about the importance of wellbeing.

And whilst (some of) it's valuable, it can often paint an overly rosy picture of reality.

Indeed, a more careful examination of our own personal experiences perhaps paints a different picture of the relationship between personal wellbeing, integrity and the knock on consequences in the real world.

So...I wrote a blog that describes how I worked with al footballer to navigate the tension between responding to a coach's actions and maintaining personal integrity.

Links in the bio.

‼️ PS: I'll give a FREE, 60 mins, one-off, solution-focused coaching session to the first person to DM a solution-focused question that I used in my dialogue with Stuart. And you could be anyone - our session can be about anything 👊

Image credit: https://Inkd.in/eZdnQNpr

22/06/2024

I get a total buzz from working with people in a way that amplifies their strengths, resilience and competencies. Especially in the face of challenges 🏔️

Here's some simple coaching questions I often use. No gimmicks, just building 'possibility' through conversation.

✍️ Webinar sign up - Links in bio

18/06/2024

Are you a sports coach, S&C coach, physiotherapist, or other sport & exercise professional and struggle to know how to maximise athlete or client motivation, confidence and strengths, in often the briefest of encounters?

As a chartered sport psychologist, therapist and coach, I've been studying and applying skills that are specifically designed to help athletes make changes quickly for the past 10 years. I'm now running a FREE one hour webinar on brief conversational skills that you can put into practice right away, without having to be an expert in psychology.

By attending, you will:

🔺Learn to start seeing the opportunities in people's stories to amplify their confidence, motivation, resilience, and strength

🔺Learn how to formulate and appropriately ask powerful questions that can be used in your next conversation with a client/athlete

🔺Learn how to start facilitating change quickly in those you work with

Sign up now to make sure you don't miss out!

📅 Date: 31 July 2024
⏰ Time: 8pm - 9pm
📍 Location: Online, Microsoft Teams
✍️ Sign up: link in bio

11/06/2024

Suppose an athlete says this to you, in passing, as you walk down the corridor. What do you hear in this statement? What do you want to say or ask the athlete?

'With that competition just a few weeks away, I get so frustrated with myself when I have those training sessions where I don't do as well as I know I can. Sometimes I'm able to turn those sessions around and really make them count but other times they just get me down. I just want to be at my best for it and can get worried that all this effort over the years could be for nothing.'

Link in the bio 😉 🤡 🧩 ('Listening ...differently')

15/05/2024

Check out my new blog on the website (link in the bio).

In it, I talk about the important role of being sensitive to hope in dark times. But importantly, in a way that honours the current pain of the other person.

Check it out 👊

03/05/2024

'Our strengths lurk in the shadows of the stories we tell about the problems we live with.'

Check out the blog (and new website!) on building resilience through dialogue in therapy and coaching - links in the bio! 🚀

02/09/2022

I'm developing a course to help athletes of all levels and sport master their nerves. It's still in development but here's some sneak peak pics 👆. If you'd be interested in trialling it for free, sign up using the link in my bio.

20/08/2021

To experience emotions is to be human.

How we understand and relate to our emotions impacts our ability to show up, perform and grow.

But how willing are we to experience those difficult, uncomfortable emotions? How much do we listen to them? Or are they pushed away? Ignored? Suppressed? Or magic'd away by a symptom-reducing mind trick?

We ignore them at our peril.

What if we approached all emotions as messengers? Signals of when our needs and values are being met or not? What becomes possible when we allow these emotions and their meanings to percolate into our life?

16/08/2021

12/08/2021

The integrity model (Nahon & Lander, 2014) is core to how I make sense of my experiences and relationships.

In this video, I share a couple of key points the authors make around values.

1) Values largely exist in a hierarchy and under pin our actions. How did these become our values? Are they even our, self chosen, values? And how do we manage value clashes?

2) How mindful are we of our values and the extent to which we're honouring them on a day by day, moment by moment basis?

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06/08/2021

📹 The ABCs 📹

This week's video discusses my reflections around Buddhist and Stoic thinking, and draws from the work of Albert Ellis and his approach to helping people understand and manage the challenges of life.

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