11/02/2026
Been a while since I was naptrapped 🥲 and I can’t help but think of the 100s or even 1000s of mums who are sat here like this right now too.
Rei’s really poor with tonsillitis and we have no village, meaning Mike and I have juggled it all this week, despite the fact neither of us are 100% either. I’m so grateful that we both step up when needed - Mike simultaneously parenting and working while I’m teaching, and me getting all the snuggles so he can work the rest of the time.
We know what balls we can drop (namely the housework, any decent selfcare, and me doing any work beyond showing up to teach) so we can survive, and that it’ll take a minute to catch up once we’re all back on our feet.
It’s a lot, and I know we’re not the only ones spinning all the plates. Mike and I have both worked sooo hard at communication in our relationship so that we can support each other, and too many of my friends and clients are in relationships where that feels very one-sided.
A village is far more than partners. It’s friends offering to run errands or to babysit so you can get a date night (🩷 you know who you are). It’s having people to talk to that get it, or even grandparents round the corner if you’re lucky. It’s remembering you’re doing this alongside millions of other women around the world; that we’re all muddling through, doing our best, together.
and I are running an event just for mums in Edinburgh; a chance to connect and get support through movement, breath, mindfulness and conversation.
It’s on Saturday 28th Feb and we have such a wonderful group of women joining already. There are still spaces, and wee (pre-mobile) babes are very welcome to join. These days we often have to create our own damn village, and we’d be delighted to hold space and do just that.
Link in bio for more info, or https://taliallen.com/group-events/
And finally, let’s all celebrate that I wrote all this one-handed, without dropping my phone on my daughter’s head 😅🩷
