13/04/2026
I want to share something personal today.
When I first sat in a Gestalt process group, not as a facilitator, but as a participant, I was nervous. Closed. Almost afraid to speak.
I sat and listened as others began to share how they were feeling, and something unexpected happened. I started to feel safe. Safe enough to find my own voice. Safe enough to speak for myself, maybe for the first time in a long time.
I was a people pleaser. I would do anything to keep the peace, smooth things over, make sure everyone was happy, never pull anyone up on what they said to me. Conflict felt dangerous. Keeping everyone else comfortable felt like my job.
And I was exhausted.
Through the group process I began to understand where my own boundaries needed to grow. I started to see the patterns I had carried for years, and for the first time, I could see them clearly, without judgement. I came away with a deeper understanding of myself and a genuine compassion for others too.
That's what Gestalt group work does. It meets you where you are. And it changes things, quietly, powerfully, from the inside out.
I now hold Gestalt process groups at Stone Whispers here in Enniskillen. If any of this speaks to you, I'd love to hear from you. 💛
Have you ever felt that exhaustion of always keeping the peace?