01/08/2025
Dear Changing Room,
We’ve had quite the relationship over the years, haven’t we?
I come to you with hope.
A few carefully chosen pieces draped over my arm, maybe something for a night out, a holiday, or just to feel a little more me again.
There’s always that small flicker of excitement. A silent wish that this will be one of the good visits.
But stepping inside, I never really know who I’ll become.
The woman smiling at her reflection…
Or the one picking herself apart and fighting the feeling that her body has let her down.
You don’t make it easy. The harsh lighting and rear view mirror.
And when the jeans don’t button or the dress clings in the wrong places, we don’t blame the sizing, or the cut — we blame ourselves.
We spiral.
“I should’ve tried harder.”
“Maybe I need to lose a few pounds.”
“I’m never going to feel good again.”
Dear Changing Room, this isn’t fair.
We deserve better than this emotional roulette.
Because what happens in your tiny, curtain-drawn space suddenly focuses all our attention on our appearance as our self worth.
It doesn’t take into account everything else that we represent: the formidable mum, the smart woman, the physical strength and the loving nature.
So how do we change this?
We start with a reminder:
🔸 Our bodies are not the problem.
🔸 Sizing is inconsistent and meaningless.
🔸 Lighting doesn’t define our worth.
🔸 Clothes are supposed to fit us, not the other way around.
Let’s go in mentally prepared:
Take a breath before that first zip.
Try different sizes without shame.
Speak to ourselves the way we would a friend.
And if it doesn’t fit, we say f # it! It’s not a failure. We just try other options. After all, it’s just material on a hanger and we deserve better.
With love (and boundaries),
A woman reclaiming her confidence.
🧡 If this letter feels familiar, know you’re not alone.
If you need support finding more body confidence and less dread in moments like this — I’m here.
