Alison Tinsley Counselling and Coaching: MA: BACP Accredited

10/07/2025

My latest media offering...

Run clubs are the new dating apps, according to recent surveys - and writer Charlie Bell can confirm it.

14/04/2025

Fascinating article around the importance of how we think and feel. Even if you’re not into golf, there are some useful points for managing our mood, motivation and mental health. ☺️

After a series of devastating near misses, a calm and patient Rory McIlroy finally finds a winning formula at the Masters.

10/10/2024

Hello Yellow…. Raising awareness of mental health issues for young people… we all have a mental health… let’s look out for each other ❤️

10 October 2024 - Support YoungMinds this World Mental Health Day by saying Hello Yellow. Wear yellow, raise vital funds and show young people they’re not alone

13/09/2024

Some interesting thoughts on forgiveness and mercy from Richard Rohr

That refusal to be forgiven is a form of pride. It says, “I’m better than mercy. I’m only going to accept it when I’m worthy and can preserve my so-called self-esteem.” Only the humble person, the little one, can live in and after mercy.
Look at the times when we have withheld forgiveness. It’s often our final attempt to hold a claim over the one we won’t forgive. It’s the way we finally hold onto power or seek the moral high ground over another person: “I will hold you in unforgiveness, and you’re going to know it just by my coldness, by my not looking over there, by my refusal to smile.” We do it subtly, to maintain our sense of superiority. Non-forgiveness is a form of power over another person, a way to manipulate, shame, control, and diminish them.
We do not attain anything by our own holiness but by ten thousand surrenders to mercy. A lifetime of received forgiveness allows us to become mercy. Mercy becomes our energy, our meaning. Perhaps we are finally enlightened and free when we can both receive mercy and give it away—without payment or punishment.

22/08/2024

I haven’t posted in an age!
Here is something that is the most profound way of thinking that I have read in a long time. Howard Thurman says…
The burden of what I have to say to you this afternoon is, “What is your name, who are you and can you find a way to hear the sound of the genuine in yourself?” There are so many noises going on inside of you, so many echoes of all sorts, so [much] internalizing of the rumble and the traffic, the confusions, the disorders by which your environment is peopled that I wonder if you can get still enough—not quiet enough—still enough to hear rumbling up from your unique and essential idiom the sound of the genuine in you. I don’t know if you can. But this is your assignment….
There is something in every one of you that waits, listens for the sound of the genuine in yourself and if you cannot hear it, you will never find whatever it is for which you are searching.… You are the only you that has ever lived; your idiom is the only idiom of its kind in all the existences and if you cannot hear the sound of the genuine in you, you will all of your life, spend your days on the ends of strings that somebody else pulls….
Who are you? How does the sound of the genuine come through to you?... Don’t be deceived and thrown off by all the noises that are a part even of your dreams, your ambitions ... that you don’t hear the sound of the genuine in you because that is the only true guide that you will ever have and if you don’t have that you don’t have a thing. You may be famous, you may be whatever the other ideals are which are a part of this generation but you know you don’t have the foggiest notion of who you are, where you are going, what you want. Cultivate the discipline of listening to the sound of the genuine in yourself.