Plain Sailing Therapies

10/10/2025

09/10/2025

If you are having difficulty with realising your own self worth, I can help you process this by:

- Understanding how your life experience has impacted your mindset, and how you can reframe this experience to change your perspective

- Helping you recognise any triggers which elicit unwanted protective behaviours, and replace this with an innate self-confidence

- Working through the things which are, or which are not acceptable to you, so that you can instil healthy boundaries effectively, and naturally.

- Enabling you to find peace with your decision making, as well as your reactions and responses, by teaching you thought control techniques to manage any limiting beliefs or fears.

- Awakening a real joy in being able to be your authentic self, always, so that you can easily identify and communicate what it is that you need to conduct meaningful and happy relationships with friends, family, colleagues, and significant others.

If this sounds like a realisation that you would like to achieve, I offer a free no-obligation discovery call.
DM me to schedule what could be a life-changing process for you.

08/10/2025

Once we are able to understand, analyse, and process the reasons why we experience feelings of low self-worth, we are able to make these a part of our conscious thinking.

When we are able to reframe our conscious thoughts, we can change how we feel, which then impacts how we act, and all those consistent actions then become instilled as a new self -belief.

I use specialised therapy techniques to enable my clients to reach the point of realising their sense of self-worth, regardless of the reasons as to why this state of mind was created.

This is then a springboard to leading a purposeful life. When we feel that we are fulfilling our purpose, that is when the necessary changes in our thinking become permanent.

07/10/2025

06/10/2025

Reaching a point of loving who we truly are requires critical analysis of how we think and behave.

Self love without self-awareness is useless, We need to be accountable, always.

If you need help in reaching this clarity, please get in touch.

03/10/2025

Whether we are faced with having to make a transition due to our own realisation, or whether we are thrust into this situation for reasons beyond our own making, it can indeed be a time of real self- reflection, evaluation and analysis.

So often we feel validated by external factors such as our job status, our relationship status, where we live or the car we drive.

However, true validation comes from expressing who we authentically are, where fulfilment and peace of mind comes from living with an innate sense of purpose and alignment.

If you are in a state of transition, whether that be work, relationship, or identity, and are having difficulty with reframing your thinking, I can help.

02/10/2025

Ensuring that our thoughts, feelings and actions emanate from conscious thinking is the very first step in the transformation process.

However, within this state, there are 4 levels of consciousness between which we flow.

Level 1: "To Me" - when we’re at the will and effect of life. It doesn't matter what emotion we feel, the cause of this experience is always outside of us. Our mood is constantly dictated by life's ups and downs

Level 2 - "By Me" - This state replaces blame with personal responsibility. It is a state of empowerment, in which we choose how we react to outside forces. We choose how we create our reality.

Level 3 - "Through Me" - This level means surrendering to the present moment. There is a sense of flow and things happening naturally in this state. True understanding of and trust in our intuition prevails here.

Level 4 - "As Me" - In this state we create the greatest of all human possibilities. We feel boundless love, gratitude and appreciation. Nothing is lacking, we do not feel a need to alter where or who we already are.

There is no right or wrong when it comes to states of consciousness. However, we may be able to find a new appreciation for life by being aware of which level we are currently situated in. We can then elevate ourselves beyond feeling like a victim of life's circumstances.

01/10/2025

I have attempted to illustrate the interplay between the layers of defences, inhibitory emotions, and core emotions in exposing our authentic selves.

The root of all emotion is our thinking - our thoughts create feelings. The majority of these thoughts and resultant feelings arise from times when we are attempting to make sense of the world. They are shaped largely by the relationships we are born into, and events that we experience throughout our lives.

Our states of mind are stored in our subconscious minds, which if not made conscious, and processed healthily, will continue to be masked by defensive behaviours, and inhibitory emotions. These in turn repress our expression of core emotions, with the acceptance that these are normal, and a real definition of who we are.

I personalise therapy programmes to elicit and process defensive behaviours and inhibitory emotions, so that clients can feel free from what they believe that they need to hold onto in order to feel protected.

Once these thoughts are made conscious, the ability to explore our true selves is facilitated, and real transparency and peace of mind dominates. True freedom.

30/09/2025

29/09/2025

Transformation is a process, which starts with the realisation that something needs to change.

Once these thoughts dominate our conscious thinking, we are able to listen to our intuition with utmost clarity. We are then able to allow thoughts, feelings, and actions that align with our true selves to emerge.

If we remain committed to this process, the natural progression to achieving inner peace and ultimate joy is established.

It involves taking full responsibility for, creating our reality and being accountable to ourselves for that.

Realising that we only ever manage situations, our reactions and behaviours with the tools that we have at that time, allows us to forgive ourselves for past experiences which have negatively impacted our lives.

Peace dominates our state of mind once we feel in control of our choices, confident in expressing our authenticity, and focussed on participating in the things which bring us joy.

Just imagine the implications that this has on our interpersonal relationships.....

26/09/2025

25/09/2025

It feels good to be praised, to have our feelings affirmed, to be told that we did a good job and to feel appreciated.

It is entirely normal to want validation from others, our family, partner, boss or friends. Issues arise when we seek this to an unhealthy level, when we rely on others to make us feel good about ourselves. We begin to doubt ourselves if we are not receiving explicit feedback that we are doing well. We question our worth if others don't value us.

Relying on external validation to this extent can cause anxiety and depression, and a total lack of self-confidence - this in turn causes us to make mistakes and have difficulty concentrating. Disapproval and criticism are especially painful because we place so much emphasis on other people's opinions.

There is also a very big risk that we fall prey to narcissistic individuals who recognise opportunities to control the minds of those who need external validation

Learning to self-validate takes work if we want to prevent the cycle of allowing others to determine or dictate our worth.

The process includes:

Encouraging ourselves
Acknowledging our strengths, successes, progress and effort
Noticing and accepting our feelings
Prioritising our own needs
Accepting our flaws, limitations and mistakes

Make this the season to do just that - do what YOU love...comparing yourself to others is not validation. Minimising or denying your needs and feelings, perfectionism and judging yourself harshly are not acts of self-validation.