Whether it is from a bereavement, divorce or another traumatic loss in your life there is hope. In March 2017 my mother died. This event led to a chain reaction to many other events that had occurred over the years encompassing bereavements, the workplace and issues of faith. The old maxim of those not learning from history being bound to repeat it can similarly be applied to issues of loss or other traumatic events. If we don't properly deal with the impact we are bound to carry negative emotions with us for the rest of our lives. And this can ultimately effect our health, well-being, trust of others and future relationships. How many of us have said or heard the statement that 'I will not allow such and such to happen to me again'. Or 'you can't act this way because that is what my ex did'. We are thus casting all of our past hurts and burdens onto all of our future relationships whether social, work or personal. How many are still stuck with the same pain and anger many years after a particular event has occurred? The word 'stuck' is often used. Therapy and counselling helps to offload and identify issues but after many sessions perhaps you feel you are still not 'unstuck'. The core issue is still there, as if you are treading carefully like on eggshells. For many of us it is an accumulation of losses and a lifetime of emotional pain that lead us to finally wanting to do something about it. A simple analogy is that if you broke your arm you would be in pain. The old joke Tommy Cooper gag was 'Doctor, I've broken my arm in three places'. Doctor: 'Well don't go to those places'. Grief Recovery is about not going to those places that keep you in pain. Rather, it is about recovering and being able to lead a fulfilling life without being chained to the past by the painful emotions of our losses. Losses my be through the death of a loved on, divorce or relationship break-up, loss of job, loss of faith or one of many others that have had a significant impact on us.
