The Masculinity Therapist

28/03/2024

Freddie Cocker founded Vent 7 years ago to:

Provide a space for men and boys to express themselves

Break down the stigma around mental health

Start conversations

He's put out 2 podcasts a week on top of his full time job.

I caught up with him.

Freddie Cocker founded Vent 7 years ago.Vent’s mission is to:Provide a safe space where everyone, but especially men and boys can express themselvesBreak dow...

16/02/2024

Do you need support to come to terms with loss via death and alienation from children, stress from family conflict and limiting beliefs?

Here's a what a client wrote about working with me.

"My daughter died suddenly. She had been living abroad and brought her children back as she knew she was unwell. Separated from her husband, she wanted the children to live with us in England and see him during holidays.

"Her husband however wanted them to live with him abroad. Having no rights as grandparents we were unable to stop him and so we supported the children by paying for their education and we visited them regularly. Then their father took the children out of school and emigrated with them to a more distant country.

"The trauma and stress this caused was immense and affected not only our relationship with the children’s father but also other relationships within our family. After speaking to friends and trying a couple of alternative counsellors, I was put in touch with Zac who agreed to try to help me to rebalance my life and move forward.

"With calm intuition, kindness and empathy, Zac has helped me to stand back a little from the situation and unpick many of the problems. Inevitably we have also looked at other areas of trauma in my life and he has helped me to understand how they have affected me and to relieve me of my unwarranted feelings of failure in various situations and to realise that I cannot solve and perfect situations that are not within my control.

"Letting go of frustration and anger has not been easy but arriving in calmer waters has been a relief. There are still issues for me to solve and moving forward will sometimes not be easy but Zac has helped me to get out of the “stuck” situation in which I felt I was stranded and begin to look towards the future.

"I am grateful for his help and would happily recommend him."

Take the plunge and book a free call with me https://zacfine.co.uk/online-therapy/ola/services/phone-consultation-3

16/02/2024

Is it time to move up in your life?

"From the start, Zac was a pleasure to deal with, a great listener, and easy to understand his works during sessions.

"Since working with Zac I have re-birthed new life into myself, overcame some huge hurdles, and now have a much clearer vision of myself and all aspects that come along in the day to day life.

"I would 100% recommend him to anyone who is seeking guidance. Thank you." — client testimonial

Book a free call with me here https://zacfine.co.uk/online-therapy/ola/services/phone-consultation-3

03/01/2024

I was invited onto BBC Radio Leicester today to talk about self care if you're feeling low this January

I was invited onto BBC Radio Leicester today to talk about self care when you're feeling low after Christmas.

02/12/2023

Men and boys are behind girls at every stage of education and are more likely to be excluded from school

Click the link for 9 more reasons why we need a minister for men & sign the petition if you feel to.

I’ve signed this petition and think it's worth sharing here in case you feel called to sign it too.

01/12/2023

Pablo is a young man seeking guidance.

He lost his father early in life and wonders whether traditional masculinity is good, how he should look after himself, and how he should behave in relationships.

We had 5 recorded conversations:

1. Masculinity crisis or war on masculinity?
2. Self care means self respect
3. Navigating relationships
4. Protect our boys
5. A man's code

This summer I embarked on a series of recorded conversations with Pablo, a young man who wanted guidance as he launched into adulthood.

30/11/2023

'Anger management' treats anger as separate from our other emotions & tries to change it without understanding it

Here's an effective, holistic approach to changing abusive behaviour

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29/11/2023

Denise Knowles introduces the 8 primary emotions wheel, a linchpin of the Temper approach to helping domestic abusers change

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Denise is presenting live & answering questions at Temper's FREE webinar

Sat 2 Dec 10am-2pm

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Denise Knowles, from Temper Domestic Violence, works with adults who want to change their habitual abusive behaviour. She uses eight primary emotions, presen...

29/11/2023

The wheel is a way of understanding 8 primary human emotions,

with trust at the top, occupying the 'north star' position

— for reasons that become obvious to attendees as they move through our intensive 36-hour course for domestic abusers

Temper's course is designed to produce deep and lasting change, inside a person and outside, in their behaviours and relationships.

29/11/2023

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29/11/2023

Abuse isn't all about anger

There are other ways of abusing

Learn about the life-changing work Denise & our facilitators are doing to heal abuse

Perhaps you'll want to refer or work with us

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29/11/2023

If we don't support both sides of the problem, it moves somewhere else

With the right support, domestic abusers can & do change

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