EOS Counselling and Psychotherapy

16/03/2026

Sometimes in relationships a conversation starts normally…

One partner raises something that’s been bothering them.

But suddenly the other person feels their body tighten.
Their mind starts building a defence.
Or everything goes blank and all they want is for the conversation to end.

So they withdraw.
They shut down.
They change the subject.
Or they leave the room.

And afterwards both people are left thinking:

“What just happened?”

The person who spoke up feels ignored.
The person who withdrew feels overwhelmed.

This isn’t usually about someone being selfish or uncaring.

Often it’s the nervous system reacting to emotional pressure.

One partner pushes for connection.
The other pulls away to protect themselves.

The more one pursues, the more the other withdraws.

And before long the relationship gets stuck in a cycle where both people feel alone — even when they still care deeply for each other.

The good news is that once couples understand the pattern they are in, it becomes much easier to change it.

Understanding the reaction is often the first step towards rebuilding safety, trust and communication.

EOS Counselling & Psychotherapy
Supporting individuals and couples to understand the patterns in their relationships.

https://eoscounselling-psychotherapy.co.uk/

11/02/2026

06/02/2026

Couples Counselling – Friday Availability ✨

We’re delighted to share that Tricia Slater now has Friday availability for couples counselling at EOS Counselling & Psychotherapy.

Tricia offers a warm, trauma-informed and non-judgemental space for couples who are feeling stuck, disconnected, or caught in unhelpful patterns. Her approach is gentle, paced and collaborative, helping partners improve communication, deepen understanding, and work through conflict in a kinder, more effective way.

She supports couples with:
• Communication breakdown
• Emotional distance or recurring conflict
• Trauma and its impact on relationships
• Life transitions, loss and stress
• Anxiety and people-pleasing dynamics

Tricia also brings specialist experience in complex grief and trauma through her work as a Commissioned Counsellor with Victim Support’s Bereavement by Homicide service.

🗓 Availability: Fridays
🗣 Languages: English & Spanish

📞 Contact Tricia directly:
07539 312692
✉️ triciaslatercounselling@gmail.com
🌐 www.triciaslatercounselling.com

03/02/2026

Relationships – Separation & Divorce Counselling

Not all couples come to therapy to stay together.
Some come because the relationship is ending — and they want support to navigate that ending with care, clarity, and as little harm as possible.

At EOS Counselling & Psychotherapy, we are Farnham’s only specialist couples therapy practice, with a team of five highly trained and accredited couples counsellors and psychotherapists working exclusively with couples and relationship distress.

Separation and divorce counselling at EOS can help couples and individuals to:
• reduce conflict and emotional escalation
• communicate more safely at a difficult time
• think more clearly about next steps
• protect children’s emotional wellbeing
• approach mediation or legal advice more grounded and prepared

This work is therapeutic in nature and informed by specialist couples therapy and CMC-accredited mediation training. It is not mediation or legal advice.

If you are navigating separation or considering it, and want experienced, specialist support, you are welcome to contact us to discuss whether this service is right for you.

EOS Counselling & Psychotherapy in Farnham, Surrey offers personalized therapy for anxiety, depression, relationship issues, and trauma. Book a FREE consultation today.

19/01/2026

Narcissistic abuse is rarely loud.
More often, it’s subtle, confusing, and deeply destabilising.

It can look like being blamed for raising concerns.
Like your feelings being minimised or turned back on you.
Like every difficult conversation ending with you feeling guilty, dramatic, or “too much”.

Over time, people stop trusting their own perceptions.
They question their memory, their tone, their needs.
Not because they’re wrong — but because accountability is consistently avoided.

If you’ve ever walked away from an interaction thinking,
“How did this become my fault?”
you’re not imagining it.

This kind of harm isn’t about labels — it’s about impact.
And healing begins when the confusion is named, gently and honestly.

If this resonates, you’re not alone.
And if you have questions, you’re welcome to ask them here.

EOS Counselling & Psychotherapy in Farnham, Surrey offers personalized therapy for anxiety, depression, relationship issues, and trauma. Book a FREE consultation today.

16/01/2026

WHAT IS COERCIVE CONTROL?

Coercive control isn’t about shouting, hitting, or obvious abuse.
That’s why so many people don’t recognise it while they’re living in it.

It’s the slow erosion of a person’s sense of self.

It often looks like:
• Being subtly corrected, dismissed, or made to doubt your memory
• Feeling you have to justify normal needs, spending, or decisions
• Walking on eggshells without knowing why
• Being told you’re “too sensitive”, “bad with money”, or “can’t cope”
• Gradually losing confidence, independence, or access to finances

Over time, this can shift into financial control — where money is used as a tool of power rather than partnership. Not always outright restriction, but permission, scrutiny, or dependency disguised as care or logic.

As a therapist, I see this pattern far more often than people realise. Clients don’t come in saying “I’m being controlled” — they come in confused, exhausted, and blaming themselves.

I recently watched a post that explained this brilliantly and referenced the work of Lee Warren. His book I Still Love Amy captures the reality of these dynamics so clearly — especially how subtle they are, and why leaving or healing is never “just a decision”.

Understanding coercive control gives people language for what they’ve felt for years — and that clarity alone can be life-changing.

09/01/2026

We are Farnham’s only specialist couples counselling practice, with five highly trained and experienced couples therapists, alongside accredited therapists supporting individuals, families, children, and young people.

Our Team
(All therapists are professionally accredited unless stated)

• Dawn Henley – Couples & Relationship Therapist
DBT Skills Practitioner, Intimate Partner Specialist. High-conflict relationships, infidelity, betrayal trauma, discernment counselling.

• Maria Casey – Couples & Family Therapist
Attachment-focused couples and family work, communication breakdown, emotional safety, complex family dynamics.

• Fiona Sutton – Child & Young People Therapist | Couples Therapist
Children, adolescents, trauma, emotional regulation, transitions, and couples counselling.

• Sheila Camino – Couples & Individual Therapist
Relationship difficulties, emotional wellbeing, confidence, life transitions.

• Chris Faulkner – Individual Therapist
Psychodynamic and psychoanalytic therapy for adults.

• Tricia Slater – Couples & Individual Therapist
Trauma-informed therapy, anxiety, bereavement, people-pleasing, autism-related anxiety and low mood. Specialist experience in complex grief. English & Spanish.

• Lauren Rowe – Neurodivergent Coach & Trainee Psychotherapist
ADHD- and autism-informed coaching and therapeutic support.

📍 Farnham
📩 Enquiries via our website

https://eoscounselling-psychotherapy.co.uk/

02/01/2026

Welcome to the EOS Team – Tricia Slater

We are pleased to welcome Tricia Slater to the EOS Counselling & Psychotherapy team.

Tricia offers compassionate, trauma-informed support for both individuals and couples. Her approach is gentle, paced, and collaborative, helping clients feel safe, heard, and in control of their own healing journey. She works with clients to build resilience, heal past wounds, and develop healthier patterns of relating.

Tricia supports clients with:
• Anxiety, low confidence, and self-criticism
• Trauma and past experiences
• People-pleasing tendencies
• Bereavement and loss
• Autism-related anxiety and low mood
• Couples counselling and relationship difficulties

In her couples work, Tricia provides a non-judgemental space where partners can improve communication, deepen understanding of one another’s needs, and learn to resolve conflict in kinder and more effective ways.

Tricia is also a Commissioned Counsellor for Victim Support’s Bereavement by Homicide Department, bringing specialist experience in complex grief and trauma.

Availability
Tricia currently has availability on Fridays.

Languages
Sessions are available in English and Spanish.

Contact Tricia directly:
Telephone: 07539 312692
Email: triciaslatercounselling@gmail.com
Website: https://www.triciaslatercounselling.com

We are delighted to welcome Tricia to the EOS team and look forward to the valuable support she will offer our clients.

25/12/2025

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24/12/2025

If someone is already in a relationship and telling you they’re unhappy, hear this:

If they were unhappy enough to leave, they would have.
They didn’t — so they chose an affair instead.

You’re not the future.
You’re the escape.

That isn’t love.
It’s avoidance.

19/12/2025

Your thoughts are not facts.
And they are not you.

One of the most powerful shifts you’ll ever make
is separating your identity from your mind.

That critical inner voice.
The spiralling.
The pull to self-sabotage when you’re tired, stressed, bored, or overwhelmed.
The habits that resurface when your nervous system is under pressure.

That isn’t truth.
It’s conditioning.
Old survival patterns trying to stay in control.

Create distance — and you regain authority.

When you observe instead of react,
automatic behaviour weakens.
Patterns become visible.
Choice becomes available.

This is how behaviour actually changes.
Not through willpower.
Not through shame.
Not through being harder on yourself.

But through awareness.
Self-regulation.
Identity-led decisions.

You don’t need to fight your thoughts.
You need to stop identifying with them.

This is mindset work.
This is emotional maturity.
This is discipline without self-punishment.

Name the voice.
Create space.
Choose differently.

09/12/2025

Mel Robbins wrote in the New York Times today, “Life is too short to fight with your family,” and if you distance yourself from your family, you'll probably regret it one day.

What this article has missed is that some people have had to walk away for their own safety and sanity.

Not every family is safe.
Not every home is healthy.
And sometimes the kindest thing you can do for yourself is leave.

If you stepped away to protect your peace, we hope you know that is strength—not failure.
You’re allowed to choose a life that doesn’t hurt.
You’re allowed to build a family out of the people who actually show up with love and respect.

Life is too short…
Too short to stay where you aren’t safe, heard, or valued.
Here’s to choosing peace and creating the life you deserve.