20/11/2025
Hello on this winter-like morning, lovely people 😊
Who enjoys to be criticised, please put a hand up 😁
I bet there aren't many of us who are eager to face someone else's criticism.
We often hear:"I don't care what others think about me. They will see in me whatever they focus on anyway, so why bother?
Precisely. If we can't learn something useful about ourselves from other people's point of view, we can always learn about what's important for the speaker and why he chose to focus on that particular element?
There is always a treasure in criticism if we don't take it personally.
"I don't feel good, hence I don't want to see anyone today." we might say... precisely because we care how we are going to be perceived by others when we don't feel our best.
As a person who works closely with people, I encourage sincerity. I might not be always at my best emotionally when I massage someone, but allowing it to be myself and honor my feelings enables me to provide the best treatments because I don't waste valuable energy on hiding my true emotional state hence I am free to give it all.
When we show the world a version of us that's not true, we will inevitably have to pay a price, either with burnout, either with disappointment or sacrifices like no family time, no carrying time, no hobby time etc.
Is it worth it?
I have two questions you could play with in your mind sometimes:
1. If you could spend a whole day doing whatever you want without being held accountable for anything that might result from your actions then you could go back to your normal life after that day but keeping the experience, what would you do?
2. If you could just for 5min hear someone's genuine opinion about yourself, who's opinion would you choose to hear? . a true friend's opinion or someone's who doesn't hold you in high regards?
With love, Olesea